My man and me have been together for a long time now and I love him. hes everything for me and i see a future with him..its just we have a long distance relationship.Lately, he hasnt been paying attention to me.All he does is stupid EBAY. hes obsessed with it.I dont mind that hes on it everyday, but when we on the phone, thats all he does. he ignores me!! and if he aint on ebay, hes always talking to someone.So we hardly talk and it bothers me.I have talked to him about it and we agreed we both gonna change,but he still ignoring me.its making me real sad and im slowly losing interest. I tell him this and it seems that it dont phase him.He even told me today that i bore him,i dunno what to do.I dont wanna lose him cuz hes the best ive ever had and we migh t be parents, but its like im just on the side...ive already talked to him...what do i do? Sometimes i feel that guys on the street give me more attentio nand make me feel good..it hurts cuz it aint my man.What do i do?!
2006-10-14 18:12:09 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Girl you don't need anyone to make you happy...find something else to keep you occupied...it he sees your not paying attention to him he may just come around...
2006-10-14 18:17:49 · answer #1 · answered by caligirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Focus on yourself. Go to Jenny Craig and lose some weight or take a class in stress reduction. (Your medical plan my have some suggestions here)
Focusing on ourselves is not as selfish as it sounds. I lived most of my life trying to please and be pleased by other people. But, finally many of them folks told me to go hell one way or another. So the last several years I have been spending them by myself, and you know what, I kind of like it that way.
I am actually happier now than before, quite a bit happier. And I am not doing anything super, I'm just doing some healthy things for me, and other people are being more interested in me and even want to see me and do things with me.
This is all great, but you have to refocus your life away from your BF or husband and kids, and without letting them in on the secret, learn how to enjoy yourself with yourself.
I am not suggesting you stop caring and assisting others, just find time for you to be interested and occupied by yourself.
You can do it.
2006-10-14 18:25:43 · answer #2 · answered by zclifton2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you're having a conversation... and you can tell... Start admitting stuff like... "I saw John today... Boy was he fine looking..." "Tina said you got her pregnant..." "I won the lottery..."
"I met the UPS man at the door wearing only a smile..."
Outrageous stuff to see if he is even remotely listening... Then if he says, "Oh that's nice..." "Yeah, baby that's good."
I'd say, "Listen, you obviously have lost all interest in me... I'm going to find a real man... Bye."
He needs to pay attention to you. It's beyond rude and disrespectful... I thought he loved you... If he does, then he should at least pretend... He isn't even doing that. Send him a quarter in the mail and say, "When you feel like talking..."
2006-10-14 18:20:45 · answer #3 · answered by James B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all, make sure you are or aren't pregnant. Then sit down and have a major heart to heart talk with your man. If you guys are going to be together, be TOGETHER, not just together because it's now a habit to be together. Be together because YOU WANT to be not because YOU HAVE to be. It's alot better that way. Good luck to you.
2006-10-14 18:18:01 · answer #4 · answered by val 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being his girl on the side. That sounds like all you are to him from the info you provided. I bet if you started looking, you'd find that he has profiles posted on singles sites and he's presenting himself as uninvolved...Just keep your eyes open.
2006-10-14 18:19:58 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok..have one more talk to him adn tell him you are going to start ignoring him for him to see how good it feels..instead of you calling him see if he calls you...if you talk to him and he is not paying attention turn off the phone..then he will realize that you are serious..adn e-mail him and say everything cuz that way you will know he read it... u know ?
good luck!
2006-10-14 18:15:53 · answer #6 · answered by Cutie77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl just do what he is doing to you and eventually he will not like it and he will start paying more attention to you. but if you dont want to do that then is it like that always say what goes around comes around
2006-10-14 18:39:02 · answer #7 · answered by shy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Advertize yourself on Ebay and see if he bids on you. If not then its hopeless find you another guy who gives what you want in life.
2006-10-14 19:14:43 · answer #8 · answered by John H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ignore him see how he likes it eventually his computer will get boring and he'll pay MORE (not exactlly lots) of attention. he'll know he you feel and he'll be sorry and will start loving u like your his pretty babe!
2006-10-14 18:22:41 · answer #9 · answered by $$$ ahmad $$$ ISLAM ROX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I SEE unhappiness.
2006-10-14 18:14:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋