Has anyone else noticed that it is so difficult as adults to make same sex friends. No strangeness here. Since getting divorced I have found that I need to make some new girlfriends who are in the same stage of life as I am...single, professional woman, with children. My old friends post divorce just don't seem to fit anymore. Yet I have had a terrible time trying to find ways to meet new people crammed in with being a single working mom. Any ideas? There should be a match making website for friends like there is for dating.
2006-10-14 17:53:05 · 13 answers · asked by Sleepless in Seattle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
By the time that you reach adulthood, you know where your comfort zones are. Many adults have trouble getting out of their comfort zones once they are in them, in fear usually that something bad or negative will happen if they do.
To really put yourself out into the world to make friends, you are going to have to completely ignore that you even have comfort zones. Go to a place that you normally wouldn't go to, wear something that you wouldn't normally wear - I'm not saying completely throw away common sense but get enough out of your comfort zone to feel the difference. That way you have no choice but to experience new things and meet new people.
2006-10-14 17:58:56 · answer #1 · answered by kittycat_cc14 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am in the same boat as you. I'm 21 and single. I did have a best friend of my gender but soon as he got a girlfriend, i never see him anymore because he wants to spend every second of the day with her. I don't know what you mean by adult. 20 years old? 30? 40? In my age bracket, when someone has a girlfriend or a boyfriend, they just want one friend, each other, and that is why its hard to make friends
2006-10-14 17:57:17 · answer #2 · answered by Aaron 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have found that making new friends or even keeping old friends is nearly imposable. The only friends I am lucky enough to have are those I work with and that for the 8 or 9 hrs I work with them a day. Other than that theres no other adult interaction except for my other half and well.......
2006-10-14 18:09:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree. that's greater solid. Our social networks substitute and we've paintings, church, and in case you dare to circulate to bars or golf equipment. yet what form of real pals are you able to fulfill at a bar. attempt to be certain if there are any on line places for human beings on your section. according to probability they have a set that gets jointly. Or how a pair of singles group at a church. that is much greater constructive. you may seek for pals, they do no longer in basic terms drop out of the sky. maximum of my pals stay in Ohio, and that i'm in WV. So i comprehend the place your coming from.
2016-12-26 19:36:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because when people beome adults, they get phonier and phonier as they get older.
It takes three years to build a friendship if you're finished with school.
It takes 5 years if you're over 25 because people have become so tricky and phony.
2006-10-14 17:55:41 · answer #5 · answered by urbancoyote 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try going to support groups for newly divorced women. That way you can find people that you can relate to.
2006-10-14 17:54:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give it time and you will find some friends. dont look hungry either for friends. there is some1 just like you in the world thinking the same thing so wont sweat it and have fun
2006-10-14 17:57:38 · answer #7 · answered by culbeebabyx3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea, it's tough, the natural channels like school, etc are drying up. Also, some people already have their friends, and we don't want to change.
There is friendster.com
2006-10-14 17:57:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the problem is that as we get older, we become more anti-social and hate small talk, etc. That is why our only friends are those who have been with us through the years.
2006-10-14 18:02:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop trying. As you put the passion back into your life. You will draw the right people.
2006-10-14 17:56:04 · answer #10 · answered by Onjel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋