I am 13 years old and my dad only calls me to babysit for him. I work 9 hours, a day, on weekends and only get paid 15 bucks,a day... He got mad at me for asking and we got into a big fight... He never calls me for anything else and tonight I was crying so hard because of it...my step dad is there for me morethan my real dad...have any advice?
2006-10-14 17:26:02 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you really want to just hang out with him,why haven't you ask him?Are you sure that's what you want to do?
2006-10-14 17:30:07 · answer #1 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you've already tried to talk to him about this and he got angry with you... so, take this problem to your mom and step dad and tell them that you are feeling used only as a babysitting service by your dad... ask them to intervene for you. The next time he calls, tell him that you have to check and see if it is okay... then pass the phone to your mom or step-dad... unless you have the courage to say NO to him yourself... then spend time with your step-dad and be thankful that you have someone who can listen to your problems!! Your dad will get the message loud and clear that you are not going to let him use you... then maybe, down the road, you can ask him to just "hang out" with you. Good luck with this... my two daughters have gone through the same thing with their father and his four little daughters and my girls eventually got the courage to say yes to him ONLY when they WANTED to hang out with their little step-sisters.
2006-10-14 17:36:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't comprehend if one hundred funds is properly worth it for babies which at the instant are not stable. I take toddler-sitting jobs consistent with how properly the youngsters behave. I paintings 40 hours a week, so the final element i could prefer to do is toddler-sit down young ones who've behavioral matters. in case you prefer to loosen up this weekend, you will in all probability be aggravated which you're caught with those 2 young ones. i would not do it if I have been you.
2016-10-16 05:13:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make plans of your own (get your mom's help if necessary) and when he calls next time tell him "sorry, I already have plans..." Also, try to get him to make plans with you that don't involve babysitting. And if you get the chance to do some babysitting for some one who will pay you a fair going rate Do it and then tell your dad the price has gone up, you're "just too valuble to make slave wages...." And besides when you get older it will do wonders for your self-esteem, which your dad isn't.
2006-10-14 17:33:50 · answer #4 · answered by island girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time, tell him no. He's just using you, and he has no right to do that to anyone, but especially his own daughter.
We all want to have good relationships with our parents, but if they won't allow it, what can we do? Sadly, we have to learn to accept it. You can be the best daughter in the world and it won't change anything, because this is who he is. It doesn't say anything about who you are, but it speaks volumes about him, and it's not good.
Until he decides to be the father that he should be, you need to protect yourself and distance yourself from him. Otherwise, he's only going to do more damage.
Good luck.
2006-10-14 17:33:00 · answer #5 · answered by James L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well honey,,,,I really feel for you...I have seen this happen so many times. The best thing for you to do is try and stay away from your Dad unless he wants to just hang out with you and have do some fun things with you. Don't gave up on him yet...
2006-10-14 17:30:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't be available for awhile......babysit for other people...i am sorry that you are being taken advantage of....just in the short paragraph you wrote you seem like a really cool kid...you are giving of yourself...and your dad needs to grow up...
2006-10-14 17:33:15 · answer #7 · answered by lotusdell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey.........talk to him. yoou are old enough to do so. let him know how you feel. When he hears that your stepdad cares more about you, he will reconsider his actions...and if by any chance he does not think he is wrong...don't follow his game anymore. Just visit your brothers or sisters, they are not to blame...but do not babysit anymore.
2006-10-14 17:31:09 · answer #8 · answered by scorpionbeat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't babysit for him anymore. tell him when he calls you it better be to spend time with you otherwise forget it. sorry your dads a jerk.
2006-10-14 17:32:27 · answer #9 · answered by bukkake 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
simple say NO
2006-10-14 17:29:52 · answer #10 · answered by topgunpilot22 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋