I had a hunch, and snooped in my boyfriend's email. It's wrong, I admit. But I found something. Now, I'm upset at myself for invading his privacy, but even more upset at what I found. If you've been in this situation , what did you do?
2006-10-14 17:20:02 · 9 answers · asked by type3gem 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I always do,I know it's wrong but I can't help it,I'm just insecure and untrusting I guess if it's a very big deal say something about it
2006-10-14 17:28:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I haven't snooped with my current boyfriend because I don't feel the need to, but I have in the past and the messed up thing is, if you look for something, you will find it and you can't really say anything about it because you shouldn't have been looking through his stuff in the first place. If you tell him what you found, he will know what you did and change his password and turn the argument around on your not trusting him. You need to decide if you will break up with him over this and then just break up with him without telling him what you found.
If you are not going to break up with him, then keep your mouth shut for sure because if you let him know that you are snooping, he will just start hiding stuff better and you will never figure out his password again.
2006-10-14 17:24:28 · answer #2 · answered by Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Evidently you had reason to suspect something was not right. Now that you know something is wrong you can have your eyes and ears open for signals. No need to tell him what you did. Just use the information to get the facts in a more up and up way. Hopefully you are not living with him, if you are may I suggest you look for your own place and make your plans for the future (without him)
2006-10-14 17:26:49 · answer #3 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did do this once, a few months ago. I found a message from a "flirty"girl he works with. I erased the message. I felt so guilty, I told him what i did and he was surprisingly nice about it. He told me what it really was about and put my mind at ease. I felt so much better after that and never did it again. If I hadn't told him, that message would still be eating away at me. So you should tell him and hope he doesn't freak out. You'll feel better if you get it off of your mind.
2006-10-14 17:28:07 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yes! I snoop on my husband and he knows it. It helps keep him on his toes. God gives us instincts and we know when something is wrong. You felt it and you were right. Just ask him about the information you saw. You don't have to say, "I was reading your email and ...." Ask him about it and if he gets mad or tries to deny it (lies) walk away. He's not worth it. DEPENDING on what you found. You should elaborate a little bit more.
2006-10-14 17:25:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was much younger. And had reason to do so. The real question is. Now that you've learned a valueable lesson, WHAT are ya gonna do about it???
I was married, and enlisted the services of divorce attny.
I've NEVER regretted a moment since!
2006-10-14 17:24:18 · answer #6 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do it all the time!
2006-10-14 17:28:39 · answer #7 · answered by LadyL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lay it to one side and wait for something that will allow me to challenge him without tipping my snoopy hand
2006-10-14 17:26:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you can't say anything because you were snooping and if you do you will be a b i t c h. you lose all around.
2006-10-14 17:24:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋