if you had a guy who continued to flirt w/ you , knew that he was 20 yrs oldr than u , and married, but continued to butter you up,call u at home and on the celly, compliment you on your looks, and always made sexual undertoned comments to you, and you found yourself getting used to the attention.. what would u do? i know it sounds easy to just walk away , but if you have already developed a crush on this individual, what do you do? it's obvious that he is atracted to me, but he is also hesitant especially after i askd him if he wanted to hang out the other day. after i askd, he said .."where"? and he semed all for it. until i asked him if he considered hanging out with his patients unethical. thats when he seemed to get all serious and tried to say that he thought that doctors and patients should keep it professional! but for the past 7 months nothing about his behavior has been professional... what do u think he got so serious and "by the book" so suddenly... im lost
2006-10-14 17:10:42 · 6 answers · asked by apple martini 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
also ... i know it's wrong because he is married but i just found that part out. he never mentioned her. i found out from someone else, but by then i had establishd felings for him.
2006-10-14 17:12:24 · update #1
Hey,
You have to ask yourself these questions.
What is it your want from this man?
if it is a relationship, with strings attatched, hear this and hesr it clear...HE IS NOT GOING TO LEAVE HIS WIFE!!
He was flirting with you too see if you would give in, sexually, but you pretty much asked him on a date, you have already taken it passed what his original intentions were..so basically you scared him off. And sister, let me tell you, that it is good that you did scare him off, because you were headed for something that you are not ready for at all.
Ask yourself this also, Do you plan on getting married one day?
Ok, so you found out after the fact that he had a wife..you should of let forgotten about anything between you and him right then and there when you found out. Even if you had feelings for him. And what are you doing having feelings for a man that only flirted with you. Im not trying to me mean, just telling you had it really is, please understand. He's 20 years your senior and married. Whats left to discuss. If he had only been 20 years older, OK but then you say he is married, and then you said he is your doctor.
When you get married, how would you feel if some young girl made moves on your husband, thunk about it..wouldnt you be devestated especially if he went for it. Is that what you want for this woman who is his wife. If you do then consider yourself official a selfish you know what. I hope that is not what you are striving for in your life.
Please, LOVE YOURSELF ENOUGH TO KNOW BETTER. So you have a crush..be mature enough to know that a crush is fine as long as you keep it just a crush, when you go over boundries, your are demeening yourself, reducing the strength of your character to nearly nothing. You will be completely disrespecting yourself to continue trying to pursue this. Take hints from him if you must, he was just flirting. he probably has fantasies, and if if he does indulge, it wont be for a relationship.
Seriously, Love Yourself, Learn Yourself, And Lead Yourself in the Right Direction, and trust me the right direction is the other way.
2006-10-14 17:41:21 · answer #1 · answered by RAW29 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course you already know that you should back off and call it quits but if you can't then make a date to see him privately and have a hot sexy time with him and do it in all the ways you want and then see what you think of the whole situation.
2006-10-15 00:17:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk away, in the end you'll be better off for it. Guilt and the eventual heartache if you where to develop a relationship which is doomed before it ever begins is not worth that hassle.
2006-10-15 00:17:07 · answer #3 · answered by Sphinx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all it wouldnt have gone that far. Any intelligent savy woman can see a come-on a mile away. You are foolish to get involved. And more foolish for thinking that he actually cared for you. If he'd screw around on his wife....What makes you think he's worth a $hit???
2006-10-15 00:19:26 · answer #4 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to find yourself a new doctor...
2006-10-15 00:15:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no. think about it when u are young beautiful and 20 he is going to be all wrinkled and ugly as hell.
2006-10-15 00:21:29 · answer #6 · answered by Kels 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋