My baby is so cute that I can't stop cuddling her! She's independent and sometimes ignores me so I'm not

Question

creating any sort of problem but my own!

She's my third and I am sooo entralled with everything she does. I have to snuggle her (and the others) when I am near them. But they are sooo cute. SOOOO CUTE. I love shopping for their little clothes and getting them things. I am worried about spoiling them. Can you love them too much? I sometimes think other people don't really love their kids when I see how they interact. Is that wrong? Maybe it's because I was told I couldn't have any, therefore I am too grateful, too often.

Answer 1

i know how you feel, i feel the same way about my baby.
it just amazes me how much i love her, because i never felt so much love for anybody, not even my mom!
i used to love shopping for pretty outfits, make up, etc... now i find myself shopping for baby stuff ALL THE TIME! i haven't bought anything cute for me since i got pregnant!
i wonder if my husband thinks i'm cuckoo because every time he has a day off, he asks me: "where do you want to go today?" and i say: "i want to go to BABIES R US!" hehe...
you can't love your babies too much...

Answer 2

I don't think it's possible to love your baby too much. My parents never hug or kiss their kids, but I hug and kiss my 10-month old all the time.

I know what you mean about seeing people interact with their kids. Sometimes I just shake my head in awe. But in some cases I don't think people necessarily love their kids less. Just different parenting styles I guess.

I'm happy to hear your story and that you got your little girl. There was no real reason for it, but I was always terrified that I wouldn't have a baby. We told people when we got married in December 2002 that we'd have a baby in November 2005. I hoped and prayed it would work out and I wouldn't get any bad surprises. We really wanted a girl. I really wanted a c-section (although it was emergency, certainly not elective) and I had my baby girl, by c-section in November 2005. Pretty much right when and how I planned. I won't put that kind of pressure on myself again, but I hope for #2 in a couple years.

I was born to be a mommy. She's my greatest accomplishment. I hope I can raise her as well as my parents raised me. I love her more than anything.

I too worry about spoiling her, (because I want to buy her practically anything that garners a smile when we're shopping.)

I just always try to remember one piece of advice I got when she was a newborn...

When you do stuff try to make sure that you're doing it for the baby not for yourself.

For the most part I try to think 'am I doing this for MY gratification or because it's good for her?' (i.e. Don't hold her for hours while she naps just so I can admire her or she'll need to be held to go to sleep all the time. Don't give her a soother to keep her quiet. Don't let her watch Baby Einstein more than once a day just because it keeps her busy for 20 minutes. Don't buy her a million toys because I'm guilty about having to go back to work. All those kinds of things.) I think it's a tip that will serve me well in the years to come.

Good luck!!

Answer 3

I too am the type of parent who is always hugging and kissing my children. My oldest is now sixteen and my youngest is 8 and we are all very close. I think people are so hung up in what psychologist say that they forget to show their children enough love. My children are not spoiled and they are very appreciative of all that they have, continue to love your child, but forget to discipline them also that is when children get out of control. And by discipline I am not saying that you have to beat them or anything just don't allow them to get away with being rude, disrespectful or anything like that.

Answer 4

Don't be worried about being a Great Mom hopefully people are watching and take a page out of your book not to take your children for granted ! Congrats ..... on this prestigious accomplishment > You have mastered motherhood > > love love and lots of attention

Answer 5

You are an awesome mama!! I bet your children feel like they are on top of the world! Don't worry about spoiling them. It's the fact that you are SHOWING them you love them with all of your heart that makes it all worth it!

My daughter is 2.5 months old and I'm always lovin on her, and when we go out I always at least go look for something to buy her.

Answer 6

You are such a good mommy, keep it up. I love to cuddle and spoil my babies too, which in my opinion will just help them to grow up feeling loved. My mom was the same with my sister and I and we are both well rounded, attending college, and all around good people.

Answer 7

I know how you feel. I love my kids the same and people get sick of me saying "aren't they so cute" It sounds like you have a lot of Joy in you. When you are full of the Joy that only comes from God, it pours out of you. It's good!! That's the way God intended us to love our children. God Bless

Answer 8

I understand, I have 4 of my own and fell in love with them even before they were born.
You may have trouble letting go when your daughter is older but for now, love and cuddle her every chance you get.

Answer 9

You are not spoiling your children by showering them with love. You are showing them that they are worthy of being loved and enforcing self-esteem. They will grow up confident that they are wonderful people.
They will be leaders and will help others feel better about themselves.

Answer 10

I do the same thing ~ I feel bad though, because I kiss my daughter about a thousand times a day. ~ and it seems like she gets annoyed after a while, and when she starts crying I just keep kissing her ~ oh well, she's going to have to get used to it.