He goes from person to person annoying the hell out of them and it is obviously my week for him to annoy me. He keeps sitting next to me staring at what I do on the PC, reading my IMs out loud. Every time I tell him to go away he either hits me or says "shut up" and stays where he is. Then he starts climbing on me. My laptop has to stay in the living room. My mom is ignoring him. What do I do??? He keeps telling me to make him food, open drinks for him, do this, do that, and if I don't, he yells until my mom DOES notice, and she looks down on me for not doing those things for him. I'm really losing patience! (I am 17 he is 8).
Should I just spank him? How exactly do I keep him down and how many times/what do I spank with?
2006-10-14 16:43:26 · 12 answers · asked by Jenny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Sounds like you have an offensive brother, same with my sister. Spanking makes it worst! In a house with more than one kid, there are bound to be some problems. Brothers and sisters borrow stuff, and don't always return it in top condition. Younger kids sometimes feel like the older kids get to do whatever they want. Older brothers and sisters think that the baby of the family gets more attention. These are typical problems found throughout the ages, everywhere in the world.
When brothers and sisters don't get along, it's called sibling rivalry (say: sih-bling rye-vul-ree). A sibling is a brother or sister and rivalry means competition. It's normal, but too much competition can make for an unhappy home life. Let's talk about getting along with brothers and sisters. They're not so bad, are they?
What Is Sibling Rivalry?
A little competition isn't a bad thing. Sometimes it can keep you working hard — like when you and your brother spend time shooting hoops. If he's good at it, it may make you want to improve, too. But some sibling rivalry involves arguing, like when you think your brother is hogging the ball. People who love each other might argue sometimes, but too much fighting is unpleasant for everyone.
Have you ever heard of the green-eyed monster called jealousy? Sometimes brothers and sisters are jealous of one another. For instance, if your sister always does well at school, it may be frustrating for you, especially if your grades are lower.
Although you're probably proud of your sibling or siblings, it's normal to be a little jealous, too. It may make you feel better to focus more on doing your own personal best, rather than comparing yourself with a brother or sister.
All kids want attention from their parents, but sometimes you need to take turns. If you're feeling ignored or like your sibling is always in the spotlight, talk to your mom or dad. If a parent knows you're feeling left out, together you can figure out ways to help you feel better again.
Don't Lose Your Cool
Sometimes when you're jealous and frustrated, it's easy to lose your temper. Try to follow these tips to avoid getting into a fight with your brother or sister:
Take a deep breath and think a bit. Try to figure out if you are angry with the person or just frustrated with the situation.
Remind yourself that you have special talents. Your sister may have won an art contest, but you might be better at basketball, or math, or singing. Eight-year-old Marisa says her brother "always wins running races, but I always get gold stars for good homework grades and that makes me feel better."
Try to congratulate your siblings on their achievements and share their happiness. If you do this for them, they'll be more likely to do it for you.
Hopefully, these tips will work. But if the situation gets out of control and you and your brother or sister start fighting a lot, you may need to talk to someone. Mean words can lead to hitting and physical fighting. If this is going on with you and your sibling, talk to a parent or another trusted adult.
Future Friends
It may be hard to believe now, but your brother or sister may turn out to be your best friend someday. Many brothers and sisters fight and compete with each other while growing up but become very close when they get older. As you grow up, your friends might change, but your family is your family forever.
2006-10-14 16:50:07 · answer #1 · answered by spellerwizard54 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well..ignoring dosen't seem to work! Seriously spank him! You gotta be killing ME! I can't stop laughing!(LOL!!) Hmm...well...if he has friends then try embaressing him! Like..remember when I use to change your diper? That ALWAYS works! Hmmmm...if that dosen't work then..maybe spank him! That may be the only way..now that I think about it!
Make sure your your parents arent home first! So...lets see...get a pillow and start hitting him or maybe a towel or belt! NO never mind...not a belt! Your parets will notice the marks! Something that really dosent leave marks..? How bout' you say your gonna throw his toys away if he dosen't stop! Well...if your mom belives EVERYTHING HE SAYS then you have to be a really good lier! So I hope my info helps some how!
2006-10-14 16:59:46 · answer #2 · answered by afi.girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you catch him on tape? With you doing nothing and him being annoying? Make sure you have some footage from every day for a week or 2, because footage from one day will just make it look like you possible annoyed him first. Everytime he hits you, show your parents the red mark, then later show them the bruise. Video tape the marks too. Do you have a boyfriend that could tell your brother that he doesn't appreciate ANYBODY hitting his girlfriend, and the boyfriend could remind your brother that there is always someone bigger and stronger than him
2016-03-28 09:43:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like all he needs is some attention!! If your mom ignores him like you said , then she needs to "wake" up and take notice of him before he gets older and acts out in a more harmful way!!! He is probably just "acting out" to get the attention he needs and so deserves, but that doesn't mean that he can keep bugging you!! Maybe try before you get on the Internet to spend some time with him and play with him, whatever he wants to play. Tell him that you'll play with him for 30 mins- 1 hour, whichever you want and then after that he has to give you time to do what you want without him bugging you and if he's good then the next day you'll play with him some more. Hey, you may even get to liking to play with him!!
2006-10-14 16:57:30 · answer #4 · answered by c's grandma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you allowed to discipline him? You're parents aren't making him mind. They should be spanking his ***. Just a few good swats should do with a hand!! But don't do it if you're not allowed to. Remember: he's your brother, not your son.
If I were you, I would stay away from him. Get out of the house and stay away as much as possible. Go to your room and hang out there--if you have a lock, use it! If your parents wonder why you're distancing yourself, explain what's going on. Hopefully things will get better. I hope this helped. I understand where you're coming from!! I really do!!
2006-10-14 16:54:50 · answer #5 · answered by Jenna 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yikes. i have the same problem xept im 15 and hes two.
(and no, he cant read yet, lol)
i lose my nerve every 5 seconds. the thing is, u obviously cant do anything rash because you're the one who's going to get in trouble for it, not him. (thats how it works at my house, anyway: he wants something, is creaming at the top of my lungs, i try to disciplin him by not giving it to him, and then i get in trouble for not giving it to him and making him scream. note: not cry, SCREAM.) are you allowed to give him time outs? or make him face the corner? just tell him you're not gonna let him in the living room if he keeps hovering, or tell him that he wont get his [whatever it is he always gets] if he wont stop. or if he has a fear(like i dont know...the boogy man???) tell him that hes going to come if he doesnt stop bothering you.
it all depends on how your parents react to your reactions. (if that at all makes sense)
sorry if i wasnt much help...im endlessly searching for the same answer.....xept if i spank him, he just spanks back saying NO. yea. fun.
2006-10-14 16:53:18 · answer #6 · answered by suchacliche 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok so he's bored make a scedule with him that includes time for just him and explain computer time is for you he just wants some attention he probably is realizing the only attention he'll get from you is negative attention he'll take it anyway he can get it. play baseball or soccer or a board game for 30 min each day. just explain the rules in a soft nice explanitory manor. he will not hear you if you yell scream or spank him, but a soft voice he will hear.
2006-10-14 16:52:36 · answer #7 · answered by zoiella000000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His 8! omg at the age of 8 I was getting my own food unlis I couldn't make it and I opened all my own drinks unlis it was to hard then I ASKED ok and ya know what DO IT BACK TO HIM! annoy him to death he'll stop and if your mom says anything tell her why you did it your almost an adlut honey nothing she can really do about it
2006-10-14 16:56:45 · answer #8 · answered by blood_shadow_walks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand you my brother is like that and he's 13 yrs old uh!
well i spank him yes if u do with ur slipper ur mom's belt.put meat loaf in his shoes or hide the thing he likes the most.i'm 15 and thats what i do,treat him the same way he treats u annoy him till he crys and see how he likes it.well i don't do the meatloaf part but it might work for u.GOOD LUCK WITH THAT!!!!!!.OH
PS.IF U DO SPANK HIM DO IT A COUPLE OF TIMES.LIKE 5.
2006-10-14 16:55:01 · answer #9 · answered by 2000babe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should spank him. Grab him and pull him over your lap, use, your left hand to push down his back, and use your right hand to pull down his pants and underwear. Slap his butt with your hand about 50 times or with a hairbrush/paddle about 15 times.
2006-10-15 15:07:19 · answer #10 · answered by Brian Lewis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋