2006-10-14 16:40:59 · 12 answers · asked by lkevin_conroel 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
One of the ways that my Mother helped me out when I was younger was to have me at a bus stop and ask someone for the time. That was the start.
After I got used to that, I was to ask for directions to someplace.
After I got used to that, she would challenge me to somehow get a person to tell me their name.
After that, I was to challenge myself in a crowded room of people I didn't know and get someone to eventually introduce me to one of their friends....
I was pretty young and shy, but now I can speak on front of large amounts of people and not get nervous.
The Idea behind helping yourself is to not be an 'extrovert' but to understand that helping others to 'extrovert' you become a people person yourself!
Good luck with challenging yourself
2006-10-14 16:54:28 · answer #1 · answered by Funky_Medema 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not easy to change from being an introvert to an extrovert. Maybe what you're actually looking for is a way to develop social skills and become more social? I'm an introvert by nature, but I am a college instructor and I am fairly social. The way I changed was to learn to be more impulsive. If someone says they are having a party and give you an invitation, immediately commit to attending. If you say, "I'll let you know later," odds are you aren't going to attend. That's how I got comfortable speaking in front of groups. If there was an opportunity to present at work, I would just volunteer - then regret doing so. But it helped me develop my skills and get over my fear.
Alternately, if it's a confidence issue or an anxiety issue, I recommend counseling. Social phobia is something that is very treatable by any good psychologist. You start with small risks and work your way up to the big things. Nobody can change without practice and time.
2006-10-14 16:56:51 · answer #2 · answered by Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll halfway agree with the first answer. Introverts are the smart ones. Extroverts are the warriors.
BUT if you feel that an Extrovert life is the life for you... I shall provide assistance.
Step 1: Watch Fight Club. Understand it. Listen to Tyler Durden carefully.
Step 2: Watch Office Space. Pay close attention to the scene where the main character is at the Hypnotherapist.
Step 3: Mimick. (Not the Fight club part, just the mentality.)
Those are 3 steps to which I became (somewhat) an extrovert. Although I prefer to stand on the border. Keeping to myself, but lashing out when it's most needed.
Just stop caring what people think of you. I know it's hard, but that's why I told you to watch those 2 movies.
2006-10-14 16:51:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
An introvert should not become an extrovert. Everybody should be happy being exactly who they are. Anyway, the world needs introverts. We're the ones that come up with all the good ideas while the extroverts are out partying.
2006-10-14 16:44:19 · answer #4 · answered by τεκνον θεου 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Although not medically recognized, there is an in between. You don't have top be the "life" of the party to be a part of the party. Just keep in mind that, from the outside, shy and introvert appears as stuck up. Don't look stuck up. Share your thoughts. Listen to others. In fact people love a good listener. You can show interest in others and learn how they interact.
2016-05-22 03:04:40 · answer #5 · answered by Dorothy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to an introvert, that slogan could be beneficial. to an extrovert, it could mean certain doom. comming out of someones shell is cool, but there are limits. if you push yourself too far, you might become someone you wouldnt like as an introvert which would make you a contradiction of yourself. it all boils down to selfconfidence. to be an extrovert, thats all you need.
2006-10-14 17:04:24 · answer #6 · answered by chris l 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to overcome your apprehensions and make your presence known. It isn't going to be easy at first, but you will find that the more people you talk to, and the more outgoing you are, the easier it will become. Like the slogan says - "just do it"! Best of luck to you!
2006-10-14 16:45:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
By putting themselves out there in situations they would normally shy away from. As your slogan says...just do it!
2006-10-14 16:47:36 · answer #8 · answered by songbird092962 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I forced myself by learning how to become a good conversationalist and listener.
2006-10-14 16:57:56 · answer #9 · answered by Big Bear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what's wrong with being an introvert? furthermore, my girlfriend seems to think that you cannot change such things.
2006-10-14 17:52:27 · answer #10 · answered by Ryan M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋