At what age are u supposed to begin seeing a gynecologist?

Question

well im 16 and my mom thinks i should go...i really dont want to and i personally think that i am too young to go...i'm still a virgin, i am completely waiting til marriage. I feel perfectly fine now and i want to know wat could they possibly do 2 a virgin. i do have irregular periods but thats beside the point...I totally refuse to go. Do i have the right to make the decision whether i should go or not?

Answer 1

It depends on the girl and if she is sexually active or having any major problems. Irregular periods is not a major problem unless there are other problems going on.

It's recommended that a girl go to the gyn for the first time at 18 if she is not sexually active. If she is sexually active at under 18, she needs to go to the gyn to protect against problems like cervical cancer, pregnancy, and stds.

At your age, if you're a virgin, it is NOT necessary to go. I don't think your mother should be forcing you to go. When I was your age I had irregular periods ever since I was 13. My mother did not take me to the gyn because teens' periods can take some time to adjust on their own.

I personally was not taken to the gyn until I was almost 19 because I had a yeast infection.

You can try calling the gyn and asking their opinion of when a girl should go to them for the first time, then have them tell your mom. This may help her decide in your favor. I don't think you should be forced to go. But, you're a minor and, unfortunately, have to do as mom says. Hopefully, the gyn will convince her to wait until you say you are ready to go.

Good luck! :)

Answer 2

As long as you are a virgin and you don't have any problems, you don't have to go until you are 18. You aren't too young, though, and there's no problem with going at your age. The only things they do differently with non-virgins at the doctors are a) test for STDs if requested and b) chat with you about birth control- which they may do anyway, just because it's important.

You certainly have the right to make decisions regarding your own body. You are a minor, though, so I suppose your mother could force you to go, if she really wanted to start that battle. I'm a bit concerned about your flat-out refusal. I know it's embarrassing and uncomfortable, but gynecological exams are not that bad. They are over very quickly, and they don't usually hurt. I mean, I don't look _forward_ to them, but it's definitely better than the dentist. Also, it may be a good idea to get those irregular periods checked out. Your doctor can probably help you with those, and she can rule out any possibility that they are related to a problem.

Answer 3

If your periods are irregular, you should really go see a gynecologist. There may be a reason for this, and the gynecologist will be able to diagnose it or recommend something to make your periods more regular. You should also consider a visit if there is history in the family of any type of cancer etc in women. The visit isn't that bad at all. You're in and out of there in a matter of a few minutes.

I edited this to add that I'm not sure who the poster below me's doctor is but I know many people who were virgins when they went to their first appt with a gynecologist and they did not have an examination of/with their anal cavity.

Answer 4

Hi, Just go. You need to know why you are having irregular periods. Whatever you are imagining in your head is worse than what actually happens. The only way you are going to find out is to go. Of course, on your first visit you will feel embarrassed and uncomfortable, but a good doctor will help ease your fears.

*Mandy Sullivan of East Stroudsburg, Pa. is 12 years old and will be visiting her gynecologist for the first time this summer. Her mother, *Judy, decided to make an appointment for her when her periods were lasting more than a week.

"I have spoken at length with Mandy in trying to prepare her for her first visit," Judy Sullivan says. With the help of Mandy's pediatrician, Judy found what she hopes to be a suitable and friendly gynecologist. "I have been told that this doctor is very gentle," she says. Although Mandy will not have her first internal exam at this time, it is important to prepare teens before their first gynecological visit.

According to Dr. Charles Farris from the Ochsner Clinic in New Orleans, La., "Pain and embarrassment are what your daughter will probably be most worried about. That is the reason for the introductory talk – to relieve them of their fears. They do not know what's going to happen."

When Should My Daughter Have Her First Exam?
The American College of Gynecology (ACOG) recommends that young women between the ages of 13 and 15 have their first gynecological visit. This first visit doesn't necessarily constitute an internal exam. Usually the internal exam and pap smear aren't required unless the young woman is sexually active. However, by 16 years of age, the ACOG recommends that young women have an internal exam and pap smear.

What Should My Daughter Expect at Her First Visit?
First and foremost, your gynecologist should have a discussion time and answer any questions your daughter may have. Unless your daughter requests you be in the examination room with her, it is probably best to wait outside. This will give your daughter the opportunity to openly discuss personal issues like her periods, breast discomfort and other issues that she may feel uncomfortable or too embarrassed to discuss with you.

Blessings to you and your mom.

Answer 5

Legally, as long as you're couscious and aware, you have the right for consent (In Canada, at least...)

Most doctors will say once you're sexually active, or some say once you're around 18-21...

Or, if anything's not normal.

If you're worried about irregular periods, I'd go.. but just because they're irregular... they can take years sometimes, to become totally regular. Sucks, eh?

Good luck, all the best!!

Answer 6

i waited until i was 18 to see gyno for the first time but really it would hurt if you you started going at the age of 16 because then you will get used to the exams and if your periods are irregular they may be able to determine why now.there are a million reasons why periods can be irregular and i would definately want to know why mine are.so dont be afraid to go but if you feel you are to young then ask your mom if maybe you can wait until you are ready but dont wait to long especially if you are having irregular periods.

Answer 7

From the time that the girl had her first sexual dating.It doen't rely what age she has, yet whilst she starts having intercourse she has to bypass to a gynecologist for a examine up for sexual transmitted deseases. that's stable for her very own wellness and likewise for the bf that she has next to her!

Answer 8

A gynecologist could help you with your irregular periods and figure out why you have them. It could indicate a deeper health problem. You should go. It doesn't matter if you're having sex yet or not. Your reproductive organs are not things you should risk.

Answer 9

i started goin when i was 14 and i was a christian living in a christian home. it is just hygene and health, nothing sexual. when a woman starts her period she should start going. infections can occur and you can develop cysts on your ovaries. i was in middle school and sitting out of gym because i had ovarian cysts. having sex really has nothing to do with it. listen to your parents and go. it'll keep them at ease. and yes you do have a say weather you should go or not. just know that many things can go wrong inside a 16 year old womans body. an obgyn can give you a heads up on these things...

Answer 10

My mom made me go when I was 18. Until you are 18, you probably won't have the ability to make that decision on your own. Talk to your mom about it. Tell her why you don't want to go...maybe she'll change her mind.