I'm thinkin of tellin my parents im gay, the original plan was to wait till I'm out of the house but I dunno, i don't think i can wait 3 more years. My friend helped me to be more proud of my homosexualty, and I'm not ashamed of it, all my friends know, that was easy, but I have to see my parents and relatives pracitcally everyday. What do guys think I should do? And if you think I should come out, how should I do it?
P.S. I don't want any homphobes answering this question telling me to "fight it" it's not possible and it's dumb.
2006-10-14 15:47:59 · 15 answers · asked by RainKid 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I'm pretty sure my dad would be fine with it, but my mom is a christian freak and she kinda has this weird thing towards everything I am or believe in. My religion, my O.C.D. bisexuality (i'm not, my friend is and she doesn't think it's real) Plus she thinks that 15 is to young to know your sexuality, like at 15 she didn't know she was straight!...yeah so there's my scenerio
2006-10-14 15:57:22 · update #1
Fight It!!!!!!!!!! Never give up!!!!!!!!!!
Sorry, I can be a jerk sometimes.
2006-10-19 17:00:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It Depends On How Your Parents Feel About Gay People. If It Doesn't Seem To Bother Them Then You Should Tell Them. If It's Something That They're Totally Against, You Probably Shouldn't Unless You Got Somewhere Else To Live! And If You Decide Coming Out Is The Right Thing To Do, Maybe You Should Just Sit Them Down And Tell Them How You Feel...Either Way, You're Parents Love You And Always Will, But Some People Just Can't Accept That Their Child Is Gay...Good Luck!
2006-10-14 22:54:49 · answer #2 · answered by Lexy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First off, consider how your parents may react. If you think there's any chance of them throwing you out of the house make sure you have somewhere to go or some means of supporting yourself. Also, you might feel like you just have to let them know but if your having second thoughts or you have a bad feeling about it I would say wait. I mean, you will probably never be completely comfortable with telling them but you should at least not be overly worried or anxious. I would suggest testing the waters, ask them what they think about gay rights. If they respond positively you're probably good to tell them. And if you do come out, good luck to you!
2006-10-14 22:55:37 · answer #3 · answered by lady.ceridwen 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well I didn't know I was gay until after 17 years in my marriage when I met my soul mate whom I've been with for 14 years. I was so happy to finally be happy that I just told everybody. My dad was not a happy camper and my mom liked the person I had met. If I lost any friends through it then they weren't my friends and I don't miss them. I'm glad your o.k. with it, it's who you are...your parents will always love you regardless....It's really up to you as to when you want to let them know but they might have an idea already.....you never know. It will work out either when you decide to tell them.
2006-10-14 22:56:08 · answer #4 · answered by Lipstick 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
this is a really hard situation- first find out how they feel about gay people. if they bad mouth them and judge them all the time, then you should probally wait untill you're out of the house. if you decide you still want to tell them, just sit them down and tell them how you feel. they're you're parents- they arent going to hate you because of your sexuality. it will take them a while to get used to it, but then most likely they will except it. i hope this all works out for you! good luck!
2006-10-14 23:03:59 · answer #5 · answered by Ellen 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
depends on how your parents are. if u feel they will disown u, then dont tell them, but if u feel that they might take it hard but will eventually accept who u are, then tell them now so they have 3 years to get to know the real you. if u wait until u dont live with them anymore, ur connection with them could become more distant than it already is. remember, this is the 21st century, more people are accepting of homosexuality than they used to be. plus ur their son, it is a parents job to love their child unconditionally.
2006-10-14 23:00:57 · answer #6 · answered by Julie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi. Congratulations. I am very proud of you. But I know how hard it is to talk to parents. I would suggest you make a plan to tell the one that would be the easiest first. If you can get him or her on your side, it will be easier to tell the other one.
2006-10-14 22:51:51 · answer #7 · answered by Isis 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
PFLAG has some information about coming out on their website. Maybe you'll find something there that will help. There's also a local chapter finder feature. It might help to talk to someone else who's gone through this.
2006-10-14 23:01:00 · answer #8 · answered by Ralfcoder 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
To me, it depends on how open you think your family is to it. But really, most kids never tell their family they are straight, so why do we feel the need to tell people we are gay? Some people say their family already knew before they told them. I say, just be yourself and hopefully everything works out on the family end.
2006-10-14 22:55:04 · answer #9 · answered by bernel1403 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They know. No dates with girls, too many male friends that are effeminate, you watch Project Runway, and you go shopping with mommy.
Didn't you see Dad sobbing in the corner?
2006-10-19 22:36:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friends accept you which is a huge step. You may want to tell your dad first, and have him help you tell your mom. Come out to them when you are ready, not everyone else is ready
2006-10-15 02:54:23 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋