My husbands mom is always telling me what, when, where and how to do things if I say something to him about it he gets mad; if I say anything to her then she goes to him and tells him that I'm being rude and she feels that I hate her. Well I am starting to.
2006-10-14 15:36:31 · 17 answers · asked by mlkcow2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You need to sit him down, and tell him you are woman #1 now, what you say goes. Period. Your thoughts and opinions are #1, that doesn't mean moms is out of the picture, but you rule in your house, and you are the queen, and mommas boy needs to understand this and respect it.
2006-10-14 15:39:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What most men forget is that when they get married that they are supposed to leave their parents and cling to their wives. My mother in law was the same way. My husband is the oldest child and the only boy. My mother in law would make rude comments, come into my and act like it was hers, she even had the audacity to tell me that I tied my husband down with a bunch of kids (we have 4). That was the breaking point for me after I politely told her that we have never asked her or anyone else for that matter to take care of our children, I pulled my husband to the side and told him that either he put her in her place or I would. Prior to this he felt that he had to try to keep both sides happy and I would not have had any problem with that if i had ever been rude to her, but I always treated her with the utmost respect because I was raised to respect my elders, but how much can one person take? I say stand up to both of them and if he doesn't feel that he can than leave his a** for someone with a backbone. He needs to realize that his mother isn't always right and stand up for you or he may be back home with her.
2006-10-14 23:49:31 · answer #2 · answered by juicie813 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be that your husband is a mama's boy, that's difficult coz you'll be competing with your mom-in-law for a long time.. what to do? Accept the situation, within limits of course.. You have to build up your patience though. Don't antagonize your husband or your mom-in-law will win the war.. They have been together longer than you have and she has more influence in him. That's a fact.. Try to be sincerely pleasant and your husband will realize what a wonderful wife he has!! Sooner or later, he will start listening to you..
2006-10-14 22:43:46 · answer #3 · answered by Ai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey the best thing you can do is put your husband and his mother in their places. Now when I say this I don't mean to do it in a rude, disrespectful manner. You are your own woman and you do not need his mother or anybody else for that matter trying to control you. Your husband has got to be smart enough to discern when his mother is out of place and he needs to also put her in her place. He needs to let her know that you are his wife. The bible says in Mark 10:7 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife; And they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh. Try not to let hatred build up in you toward your mother-in-law because it is a horrible thing. Just let her know that you are your own woman and you can make your own decision. It also sounds like your husband has a little growing up to do. I hope this advice helps you.
2006-10-15 01:44:46 · answer #4 · answered by Wendy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg,i thought i was the only one being punished.my hubby and i live in the US,his mom comes for vacation here and stays about 6 months here with us,i'm my hubby 4th wife,and all his wife left him becuz he and his mother was the problem.if i say anything about his mother or sisters he will get really mad,depends on what i say,he will even want to hit me.but when they're saying things about me he will never stand up for me.many times i wanted to leave,but i said to myself,she won with the first 3 wives,and i'm not going to let that witch win this time.i love my mother in law,but i hate her more.don't let her win,shes jealous,she misses the attention from her mamas boy,and she'll be happy to know when u guys argue.take care,good luck
2006-10-14 23:03:33 · answer #5 · answered by lovegirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call, or email, Dr Phil ... He'll help if he can.
But, in the meantime tell your husband how his mother makes you feel ... and that he needs to stand up for you, even though he will always love his mother ... doesn't mean she is always right.
She's human too, and she should be helping you to make her son happy in his life with you !
With hope,
Jonnie
PS. I hope it's that clearcut and easy ... if not just get out now before you have kids.
2006-10-14 23:02:34 · answer #6 · answered by Jonnie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut his balls off .. and say honey you don't get this back .. until you agree with me.lol. jk
Yeah his mom's just jeolous, my mom like that too bouy. When I talking to some girl, she is be there peeping, and mumbling to herself. I don't know I guess she feels betrayed she raised me, and all that and I just turn my back on her.
Sweets,[PAUSED] I taking a deep breathe here, because I too gat my issues and I starting to see, there's is NOTHING you can do in this situation but just put up with this sH%$.
I hate working 9:00 to 5:00
I hate those annoying ppl
I hate mom and dad for removing my bedroom door
I hate this stupid girl he always bugging me
I hate, I hate,
It's like you should be giving me advise hey??? :))
But really, sweety this DUMB situation you in .. .. There is just nothing can be done.
And that's why I wake-up every morning, and I suck my teeth, this life is a drag, because I can't do NOTHING to change how things are around here. Life is a bi$%^
Say it with me mom ....
Life's a bi%##.
2006-10-14 23:07:53 · answer #7 · answered by hhgdgdfg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Same in my house! I don't know, you almost just have to NOT CARE, and don't let it bother you. Just accept the fact that he is a "mama's boy" he isn't going to change. Unfortunately, the bond he has w/ his mama is stronger than the bond he has w/ you, even tho it isn't suppossed to be that way. If it bothers you alot, leave him. If you have children and you don't wanna mess them up w/ divorce, wait til your youngest turns 18, and ON THAT DAY, leave his a**, (or throw him out, either one) I just say that, because you WILL NOT be able to change him OR her. If you can't stand it, you simply have to remove yourself from the situation. Plus imagine how much pleasure it would be to leave him, when he suspects nothing!
2006-10-14 22:48:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had the same problem with my husbands grandma and aunt (they raised him not his mom).. and it came to the point that it was ruining our relationship and i told my husband i dont want you to chose one or the other but i see it this way you are either with me or against me tell your fmaily to mind their own business or it is going to cause us to get a divorce. and ever since then we have had no problems.. he told them to leave me be if they dont like the way i do things then dont come over.
good luck!
2006-10-14 22:40:41 · answer #9 · answered by Tonya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try and get him to move away from his mom. He sounds like a Mama's boy with a controling mother. You come first hon! good luck!
2006-10-14 22:40:02 · answer #10 · answered by DRNoraSarasin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋