2006-10-14 15:33:55 · 17 answers · asked by Patrick S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Normal grieving process: denial, sadness, anger, bargaining, and lastly resolution. How long it takes depends on the individual. There are many books on this subject.
Everyone deals with grief differently. It's best to spend part of your time allowing and acknowledging your feeling. Similarly, it's okay to ignore them part of them time and allow yourself normalacy... you don't have to feel that dishonors your nephew, because he would want you to enjoy life when you can.
Journaling, talking with friends/family about him, creating something in his honor (a garden, a scholarship, a needlepoint picture, a wooden plaque, whatever you're into that takes some time and is positive) are some ways to spend time on grieving so that eventually you'll get to "resolution".
You never "get over" a big grief, but with time and patience you become a new person with a new normal.
2006-10-14 15:56:56 · answer #1 · answered by LadyE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, let me say I am sorry for your loss. Secondly, you never really get over someone's death. Of course, you're going to have good days and bad days, but it's always going to resurface sometime. Get involved in activities to try to take your mind off of it so much and take some more of your time, go to grief counseling if you feel you need to take that step, talk to a friend, priest, pastor, etc. to share your feelings with them or just to share memories or photos of your nephew with to begin the healing process. Always remember that it's okay to miss this person and to cry. There is nothing wrong with it, but if it gets so severe that you can't function or feel completely impaired, seek help from a professional. Again, I am so sorry for your loss.
2006-10-14 22:40:43 · answer #2 · answered by missmetro_jl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every person deals with grief differently. There is not just one way to do. Some seek counseling, others find their faith. Some just need that little more time with family and the comfort will help soothe. Other never fully "get over" grieving. All I can really say is search in your heart what you need and what will help you. Take all the time that you need, death isn't easy to handle...my condolences to you....
2006-10-14 22:37:32 · answer #3 · answered by Jeni O 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, I think that all of us here understand what you are feeling. We have all faced the loss of a loved one weather it be family or friend. It is my belief that we never "get over" a loss like you have had. You only get sort of used to not having Simone in your life on a daily basis. Rather then try to get over Simone, live your life thinking and honoring their memory, When having a favorite drunk of theirs, pour a little on the ground in thee honor. I lost my mother back in July so when I have her favorite drink, iced tea, I sometimes pour a bit on the ground and give a silent toast to her. Pass on the things you may have learned from your nephew. Understand the effect your nephew had in your life and how he made it better. Because that's what we are here for....have a positive effect on others.
2006-10-14 23:02:50 · answer #4 · answered by asbratcher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear that, I lost my mom to cancer last Nov. and (I'm only 23yrs old,) so I can relate to losing a family member, The only thing I could say is look toward the future, and remember the good times, if there is a new baby in your life, just think about that baby and keep your head up, it will get better and there will be times that are going to be harder than others, but time will slowly heal your heart, keep your head up :)
2006-10-14 22:42:33 · answer #5 · answered by missouri girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Know that he loved you and you loved him. Everyone's life has to come to an end, and sometimes people's lives are cut short. Unfortunately this time it happened to someone very close to you. Try to recover anything learned from this experience and carry it on to others. That way his death will not have been for nothing and maybe someone else will not lose a nephew because of it. I will pray for you. God bless!
2006-10-14 22:39:21 · answer #6 · answered by tko43078 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can never really get rid of grief, but you can help to make it easier on you and your family. Stay close to family and friends. Ask God for help. Live your life still and don't feel bad for being happy or having fun. He would want you to be happy, even without him. Remember him in your prayers. Have faith and you'll get through it in time.
2006-10-14 22:45:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will never get over it, but as time goes by you will learn to accept it. My nephew committed suicide this year,and there still pain and grief in our family. time heals all wounds and prayers for the dead do help.
2006-10-14 22:40:20 · answer #8 · answered by snowwhite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will never forget him. But, you can pray and tell God exactly how you're feeling and release all of your grief to Him. In time it won't hurt as much. Find someone to talk to that has lost a loved one as well. And tell them how you're feeling. In time you will be able to help someone else that has lost a loved one.
2006-10-14 22:41:54 · answer #9 · answered by PUSH 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't really. Just go to church, pray, and time. I know you've probably heard this a lot and are tired of it but after my sister was killed in a car wreck nothing else really helped except family.
2006-10-14 22:38:12 · answer #10 · answered by boulevard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋