a married man cheats ..........with a girl he met at work comes back home says sorry......we try to work it out he says he wont quit his job.......he expects the wife..........me ........to just deal with it he has the balls to say i need to trust him lol......anyway 6 months have passed he lives with her now.......does he lack a heart at what he has done to me ?.........does he feel no guilt.......by the way he is 42 she the girl is 21
2006-10-14 14:53:50 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You should feel glad you're rid of him. He'll pay for his mistakes; at the same time, you have a chance to grow. Good luck.
2006-10-14 14:58:05 · answer #1 · answered by Ray 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on woman, just move on. I know it's not easy, i know it hurts but that's what you need to do. She's 21 and he's 42, so you know that 1º she will cheat on him, 2º she will dump him, and 3º she's not the right woman for him. I hope you'll not take him back cuz he will came back one day. Move on, go out with friends, find a real man and try to be happy again. Don't wait for him. Did you ask for divorce? If yes, good girl, if NO....why not?! What are you waiting for?! Dry your tears this man has no respect for you or for all that time you've been with him. Men are not the same, you still young, i'm very sure you'll find a good one for you. It's not 2 late just don't waste more time think about what he feels. JUST MOVE ON
2006-10-14 22:43:26 · answer #2 · answered by LovelyPortuguese 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mid Life Chrisis
2006-10-14 21:59:00 · answer #3 · answered by flashpro 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im so sorry. I cant imagine how angry you must be. He will be one sorry sack of crap when this nice 21 year old girl leaves him (which is very likely.) It sounds like the affair never ended after all. I hope that you can move on.......AND hopefully when he comes crawling back (if he does) you can put him on his ***. He does lack a heart, he didnt take his marriage vows seriously. The only thing you can do is succeed and move on. Also Jim Darwin, I would laugh my *** off hysterically if you meet your internet fling and she is 400lbs and as ugly as a horses ****..you had best be carefull not to sound to offensive.
2006-10-15 00:15:14 · answer #4 · answered by jennyve25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've read other questions of yours on this topic.
I hate to be the one to say this, but there is nothing anyone is going to say on yahoo answers that is going to make it any better.
I am a married man I'm 29 my wife is 28. I am not leaving my wife I love her very much and our 3 year old boy.
Recently I fell in love with another woman in another state, shes a 25 year old single woman.
I am still madly in love with this woman.
When I first met her I told her I am not leaving my wife.
I have never met this woman in person, only on the internet and the phone.
I think about this woman 18 hours a day.
To this day I still feel I will not leave my wife.
If this woman showed up into my life in person and we had great sex and passion and romance,
and I felt in my heart that this was the woman I was supposed to leave my wife for,
I would leave my wife.
I would.
I would go to my wife and I would say honey, I have met someone else. I am sorry to do this to you, but you aren't right for me and I have to leave you to be with this other woman.
Your husband found what you can only hope is his true love who he is meant to be with.
Now, we both know thats crap cause of the age difference, so he's going to get screwed in a few short months.
So what you need to do is start divorce proceedings and get on with your life and stop asking questions about it on yahoo answers.
If the woman I am in love with - who broke it off with me romantically recently - falls back in love with me and comes to see me,
hopefully we won't see my wife on here in yahoo answers saying what happened.
2006-10-14 23:10:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am assuming the question is "does he feel no guilt"? Men like that are what they are...men like that. Don't think for a second that ALL men are like that. Fact of the matter is that HE was. You get up....dust yourself off...and move on. Does it hurt? Of course. Will you ever forgive him? Maybe, maybe not. Will you ever forget? Of course not. But guess what? He's sleeping at night. And, it seems to me that you're not. Don't let him have this held over your head for the rest of your life. Move on and let the sun shine in. Didn't your grandmother ever say "no use in crying over spilled milk"? ((The only thing you can do is clean it up or walk over it...it's already spilled))
2006-10-14 22:24:02 · answer #6 · answered by Dee M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he cheats on you, he will cheat on her. No matter how young she is.
Or she will get tired of "Mr. Old" and leave him for something closer to her own age.
Wait and see. It's about the sex and what she can get out of him. Once she had gotten what she wanted, he will be tossed to the curb.
You story isn't a new one. The same thing happened to my best friend. Now he is trying to get back with her but she is now dating a guy in his 30's and she ain't looking back at him (her husband) either.
So cry, get drunk, curse him out. Then wipe your tears, hike up your skirt and move on. You deserve better.
2006-10-14 22:06:54 · answer #7 · answered by TrueBelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The age difference suggests to me that what he lacks is confidence in himself. He doesn't think much of himself as a man. Consider yourself luckier than the 21 year old. She thinks she's getting an older man. She's not. She's getting a middle aged little boy.
2006-10-14 23:01:22 · answer #8 · answered by open4one 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a mid life crisis. But that's no excuse. You should move on and find someone that will be good to you. And that's the best revenge. Most likely his relationship with her won't last. And even if he never admits it, I bet he lives with regret for the rest of his life. Life may seem greener on the other side but he will learn it still has to be mowed.
2006-10-15 02:40:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do not believe they feel guilt at all,my ex began mistreating me verbally, name calling, finding falt, than out of the blue he asked for a divorce, found out he was living with this girl, my ex was in the walpaper business, and had gotten a job at my work, and brought this woman there to help, knowing i worked there,i was in tears, but he acted as if it was no big deal. the best thing to do is to move on and get a divorce, because it's something you never forget.i never saw one ounce of guilt or remorse out of my ex, he acted as if it were all my falt he left.after he left he treated me as if i did not exist, didn't care if i had money to pay the bills, just nothing. i do think they feel guilt for betraying us.i believe this is so because they are not the ones being hurt.
2006-10-14 22:15:52 · answer #10 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, it sounds like you are better off with out him. I know that that is little consult, and I am sorry that you wasted 6 months that you didn't need to with him. There is no way to know if he feels guilt, but if it makes you feel any better know that it always comes back to people. Also, my mother always gave me good advice. That is fake it till you make it! Eventually your wounds will heal. Keep your head up
2006-10-14 22:05:04 · answer #11 · answered by yelodaise 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋