We have an 8y/o daughter..this ho has been around for almost 7 years...on and off again. They both swear nada going on but tell me why she would hang up when I answer, leave my house on my way in, and just in general do stupid sh..? I called her up one day about 3 years ago, cause it had gotten so bad. I told her to come and pack his sh.. and take him to the house with her raunchy as..She said"It's not like that......we're just friends" Of course, I said BS!
We had our marriage license at that time and were planning a June wed. He got his mom to bring me to the minister's home(tricked me!) and we got married. Sure, it was sweet. On our way home the bit.. had the nerve to blow the car horn at him on the way passed us unknowing that we had just wed! So he then said "Drop it! I just married YOU! I don't want her skank as.." Now here she pops in again! Just like a bad virus. One you can't get rid of. Now what are your comments on this?
2006-10-14 14:36:41 · 16 answers · asked by edgeston34 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
HE DOESN'T KNOW THAT I KNOW ABOUT THIS MOST RECENT CONTACT THEY ARE HAVING WITH EACH OTHER. I'VE BEEN ON THE DOWN LOW SINCE I FOUND OUT SO MAYBE HE WILL MESS UP!
2006-10-14 14:55:53 · update #1
The friendship explanation is definitely BS. Your man seems to think he can have two women, and well, he does.
Try to hold your anger and act strong, confident and determined. Start making some changes in your life for yourself and prepare to leave if it becomes unbearable.
If your husband thinks it's ok to have this girl hanging around all over the place, how would he feel if you had some dude as "just a friend" all up and in his face
2006-10-14 16:00:44 · answer #1 · answered by Miss All That 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are always two players...in your case there are 3. You, your husband and the other woman. Why is it the woman's fault? Why is she the skank? Or is your husband forcing himself on her? I really get tired of the woman always being named the "bad guy". Your husband is just as guilty as she is, so what about laying some of this responsibility on his shoulders, not just on the other woman's shoulders. Its a pretty odd story actually, but you are the one who said "yes"...he didnt force you to marry him. If this has been going on for your entire marriage, then I really have to wonder why he would marry you in the first place. To me, he sounds like a real player, and has played you from the very first moment. I believe he is the problem, not her. You need to confront him on everything, then decide if he is worth you staying with him. You deserve better than this....every woman does. You dont need to stay with someone who cannot love you exclusively. Go and find yourself a real man....one who doesnt have the need to have 2 women in his life. Go and find someone who will want to be your number one.
2006-10-14 21:50:40 · answer #2 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were having problems such as these, you should not have gotten married in the first place. A serious honest discussion needs to take place, you need to keep your emotions and anger in check, and you both need to communicate like adults to resolve this issue. If that is not a possibility, think about what the rest of your life will be like with this guy and whether or not he is faithful enough for it to be worth it.
2006-10-14 21:45:51 · answer #3 · answered by .*AnNa*. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My comments to you are leave his sorry behind.
You aren't a door-knob, you're smart enough to know that despite their denial, something is going on.
And, you're not a door-mat either, you don't deserve to be walked all over.
He loved and respected you, he wouldn't allow this woman to be in your home [especially when you're not around]. If they were just friends, she wouldn't have to hang up in your ear because she would be friendly with you as well.
You see, they're not just friends. They're doing things behind your back and have been for quite some time. I understand you have a child but I think it's best for the both of you to kick him out.
Your daughter doesn't need to become a witness to his acts of infidelity. And you shouldn't stick around and allow your heart to be broken while he "has his cake" and "eats it too".
If you meant anything to him, he would have told her to stop coming around, ignoring her, and all other things. It's time to move on, you deserve better.
2006-10-14 21:41:51 · answer #4 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once i my man had a freind who had a preg. gf. He wanted all of us to be freinds. So i said wahtever i will hang with her. So we were hanging and what not and things started to feel weird. I went there one day and she had left with my man to her familys and left her man and baby at home...come on! Then i told her some things about my man and he went in the house to see where her man was and i heard her tell him what i said...he denied it so did she. But i know what i heard. He started to lock his cell phone. He would stay over there all hours of the night. They both claimed nothign nothing. But she wasn't feeling like areal friend feels.
One day he moved out and said he didn't know if he wasnted to be with her. He said he told her that he woudl be with her if he wasn't with me.
The lies started to pour out. He said he was going to work and wasn't he was going there.
I talked to her sister and then she called up the girl and she told me everything.
Of course my man says that it was all her. She was lying because hse was so obsessed with him.
Men will do anything to make you think they are innocent. Even marry you. Just because your married doesn't mean you can not cheat. He probably is.
I woudln't let that ***** hang around. I would tell him that ***** needs to go or you are. If you don't like her and don't care if you ever see her again you tell her off. If he loves you then she can go.
2006-10-14 21:44:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you and she is in his words a skank, he should tell her she needs to stop the bs. Tell him to get rid of her. OR... I would Tell her if she doesn't get out of your lives you will file harrassment charges on her. If that doesn't do any good. You know what you gotta do!
2006-10-14 21:44:07 · answer #6 · answered by Lees' 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hard one.
other than what you see, has anyone else (neighbors, friends, town gossip) said anything about them together?
she could be a pain in the *** that simply won't go away, but then he needs to not let her in the house or anything and let her know in no uncertain terms that she is not welcome around. he is not her friend.
he married you and needs to put her out "just friends" or not.
now that's giving him the benefit of the doubt...
my first inclination was to say "kick the dirty rotten liar to the curb."
2006-10-14 21:42:35 · answer #7 · answered by annie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry you are going through all this. i would of already been in jail from the a_ss kicking she got. but honey , it takes two and he is probley leading her on an giving her hope to hang onto. if he will , he is the only one who can stop it! before you end up in jail , right? wish you luck an know this can't be easy to deal with.
2006-10-14 21:43:14 · answer #8 · answered by ~just_jd~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to get lost and leave you guys alone. If he really loves you he would agree with that. For the sake of the relationship you should both tell her to take a hike. Good Luck
2006-10-14 21:47:37 · answer #9 · answered by Sexy-n-Hot 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She's know good she is trying to interfer with you'll mariage and I think you husband is trying to fight against her hoeish ways but he's having a hard time well help him fight against it becuase you all have a child and if your thinking divorce then thats not the right answer if you have a child.
2006-10-14 21:43:33 · answer #10 · answered by Shas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋