My girlfriend and I are on a break which was first initiated by her. I have accepted this and i'm giving her space to do the things she wants. We still occasionally go on little dates and we have so much fun together; although we are not physically affectionate during these dates and that bothers me a bit. I want her back as my girlfriend again; im not sure what angle would be best.
do I:
1. Keep in touch, still hang out with her occasionally
or
2.put alot of space between us and have minimal contact until she wants me back
I mention #2 thinking that maybe being completely apart will get her to miss us even more.
Also, If u think i should do #1;
should I make it obvious that I still love her and care about her and want her back in my life.
or
play it cool and forget the lovey stuff for now
Im worried that #1 might get me into friend territory quickly! :S I dont think i could handle that. I just love her too much.
thanks everyone!
2006-10-14 14:28:04 · 9 answers · asked by Dmsask 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
my answer to your question kinda runs with #2. stay in contact very minimum with her. after a while she will be wondering what your up to and why you havent been talking to her that much. at this point she will maybe start thinking your seeing someone else and start to realize that she does truly care about you adn want toy be with you. then she'll come asking you questions about whats been going on with you and eventually come out and tell you that she does want to be with you again.
2006-10-14 15:02:10 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going through the same thing myself right now. I'm in the beginning stage of the space segment in my relationship. If it's bothering you that much just talk to her and ask her where she wants to take it from here. Let her know that you miss her and miss being with her the way you used to. If she thinks you all should give it another go she'll tell you. But if not then you know where you stand with her and at that point it would be better knowing than to play guessing games with yourself. Just know that you two will always have a freindship to fall back on. Love and relationships are a game we play everyday. Hope this helps.
2006-10-14 14:35:00 · answer #2 · answered by missmozee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's asked for space, give it to her. Don't let yourself seem too "available." Keep yourself busy doing other things that you love. If she wants you, she'll be back. If you don't give her the space she needs, you will make things 10X worse and be SURE not to get her back.
2006-10-14 16:07:11 · answer #3 · answered by yellow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should just tell her. i know you dont want her to feel like you are forcing her, but these are your feelings too. be a man, and i think she will like that. tell her, "i love you, but your messing with my heart and i need you to make a decision. because im not just going to sit around until you decide whats good for you. If you love me, you would be thinking about this is affecting me too." or something like that. try to stay close, without becoming a friend. usually when a girl or guy askes for space it means that there is someone else, or they are not happy with what they have. i know you love her, but dont be a tool, open your eyes and see whats really going on.... dont sacrifice your happines because she is indicisive
2006-10-14 14:43:02 · answer #4 · answered by imboard2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-02-11 11:48:08 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should always keep in touch with her, even if yall arent planning on dating again. and if you put a lot of space between you too, it may seem that you dont care anymore and that you really didnt love her. So just keep in touch and let her know how much you really care about her. dont hide anything from her.
2006-10-14 14:32:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm what is it with people who "need space"?? if someone ever told me that i would let them know i would give them the space they need, in increments of five years!! lol "yea hun, okay i'll touch base with you in five years." you're hangin on cuz you "love" her. and she's stringing you along cause she's "attached" to you. both unhealthy. she doesnt want to be serious with you but needs you near by "just incase". trust me, she's dating other men! and you are letting her do this to you because you are so desperate to be with her. tell her NO, i gotta go. and if you get dumped, then let her go!
2006-10-14 14:40:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, first thing why do you want to be with someone that does not want to be with you?
second thing get help
2006-10-14 14:33:10 · answer #8 · answered by BROWNLYN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
numero 1... make sure u play with her
2006-10-14 14:31:59 · answer #9 · answered by Cool Guy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋