i have been with my boyfriend since i was 16. I an 20 now. and he is 23. I love him and he is the only boy i have ever loved and will ever love. We have always talked about getting married. And we want to have a family someday. He would make the best father. He has hinted about giving me a ring. I really think i am ready and i know he is the one for me. What should i do?
2006-10-14 14:14:20 · 13 answers · asked by Maverick 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What does your heart tell you?
2006-10-14 14:26:12 · answer #1 · answered by xxx 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can wait for him to propose! Always a good idea to hint a little bit but nothing can scare a man away like the constant pestering about marriage. be sure to let him know how you feel, that you are ready, but don;t push him too much. He will propose when the time is right.
Anytime is a good time to get married if you are in love! Start thinking now of the type of wedding you'd like as they can take alot of planning. there is no such thing as a 'simple' wedding.
2006-10-14 14:25:06 · answer #2 · answered by surfer_grl_ca 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure if you are in love with idea of marriage...you are only 20..you are so young! isen;t there so much you want to do with your future? go to college? travel? what is the rush? Marriage is a big step and when u are young you have a crush on a boy and you think it's love...you think you are in love but you are really in love with idea of marriage. You have no idea what you are getting into...I really think you should wait. In about 4 to 5 yrs you will feel differently about things..you will grow and growth means change..you will be a different person...60 to 70% of marriages fail when the couples are under 25. So I would re think about your marriage plans..and think of being finacially secure by going to college and getting a good job and being successful first.
2006-10-14 14:22:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you are BOTH ready, then go for it. As long as you realize that marriage is hard work, (but if you have been together 4yrs, you might have already experienced this) and you are BOTH willing to do whatever it takes to make it work, each and everyday of your lives, then go for it.
If you are a little more traditional and want *him* to propose, have a serious talk about marriage, and when *he* is ready (and saved enough money for the ring) he will propose since after your talk he'll know you are ready.
2006-10-14 14:28:39 · answer #4 · answered by *~Mom2aJellybean~* 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
After he proposes...then start planning the wedding. Talk to him and tell him you feel ready. He is probably as nervous as you are. As for a good time have a wedding....March to the end of June is the busiest time for weddings....but if you plan it near a major holiday ( Christmas, New Years....) alot of your guest may not be able to make it due to the holidays. My daughter is getting married and they decided to wait until Sept 1, 2007...that will be her b/f's grandparents 50th anniversary!
Hope this helps...and best wishes on your pending engagement.
2006-10-14 14:22:52 · answer #5 · answered by Kimberly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't mean to be mean but.....if I knew then what I knew now!
I would wait it out a few years. They say that people in your age group act impulsively and that the brain is not fully functioning until your later 20's. I would suggest getting engaged and waiting a few years to take the plunge! Money and education is also important.
The more of it you have and have it managed well between you make you less likely to divorce. Please see a money manager
Good luck!
2006-10-14 14:34:52 · answer #6 · answered by DRNoraSarasin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well this question can only be answered by your-self but my opion is learn all you can about this person ,i have been with my boy-freind for 24-years and i would marry he in a minutes notice but what i am saying is really get to know some-one really good before marrying ant-one cause some-time that peice of paper show owner ship and they think they can do just what they want to you so be care-ful and really think this over and over again
2006-10-14 14:21:48 · answer #7 · answered by queenbee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations on finding the one! If you both think you're ready, then go for it. Oh, and on a good time, I'd say spring.
2006-10-14 14:19:33 · answer #8 · answered by bc.grown 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wait for 3 more years, until you have a steady job. You never know when you might want to move, then there can be problems. Or you might mature in college and start to think otherwise of your relationship. Wait for marriage.
2006-10-14 14:25:49 · answer #9 · answered by CreativeGEEK 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Marriage should be illegal under the age of 25.
2006-10-14 14:18:12 · answer #10 · answered by langdonrjones 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋