I work with a guy who has a significant stutter. Sometimes he can talk for a while without any pauses, but at other times he gets stuck and really struggles. I don't know if it is because of this or if he is just naturally reserved, but he has been really hard to get to know. We are going to be spending alot of time alone together in the next few weeks for work-related reasons and I'd like to get to know him a little better. Any ideas of how I could accomplish this without making him feel pressured or embarrassed?
2006-10-14 14:07:28 · 8 answers · asked by NewGirl 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
-Never talk for him.Meaning if he is having trouble getting a word out,let him do it,NEVER FINISH HIS WORDS etc.
-Ask questions that do not need a require a long answer.
-Always try to step up and do the talking,like ordering food etc.Even though you are the girl and the guy is susposed to do it,do it anyways.That will show him you understand it,understand his problem.It will show him you know and care.Trust me.
-Most stutters if not all are 100% fluent in singing.Ask him what his favorite musician is,group etc.All stutters are "Music Lovers" because of this fact.
-All stutters pay great attention to the reaction to the listeners facial expressions when they speak.No matter what kind of facial expression the stutter makes when trying to talk,NEVER EVER crack a smile,if you do they will think you find them funny,stupid or what have you.But never look away when they speak,this is very important.Never look at their mouth,look in their eyes.
-Never ever bring up the fact that he stutters.This will put him in a position of thinking he is around a person who has no clue,which will make him clam up that much more.Understanding is key!
2006-10-15 18:13:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't deal with him any differently than you would with people that you are comfortable. I think that because you are asking the question you are probably feeling a little uncomfortable around him. It is not unusual and is commendable that you seek guidance in communicating, but a conscientious person like yourself will only have to spend more time with him to improve rapport. Pretty much the same with any new acquaintance. There is one thing to consider and you'll have to read this on your own but it's possible that he's shy or even bored with other people so go slow.
2006-10-14 14:22:09 · answer #2 · answered by Saladmaster22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to him naturally but try not to ask him things which take a lot of explanation. Eventually when he sees you arent bothered by his stuttering he will feel more comfortable and will less stressed and probably wont do it as much. Congratulations and kudos on your empathy and maturity.
2006-10-14 14:11:58 · answer #3 · answered by dragonrider707 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be relaxed and outgoing and make him feel like you are very easy to talk to. Try asking simple yes or no questions so he doesn't feel like he needs to talk a lot to be friendly. Of course be kind and tell him things about yourself and show genuine interest in him. Good luck! :)
2006-10-14 14:18:39 · answer #4 · answered by songbird 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be friendly and relate to them as if their speech was normal. there is someone in my life who stutters and is real timid and reserved as you described your asociate.i,ve worn out my fist adjusting atitudes of comedians who make unaproprate remarks. this person is a fine lady and dear friend
2006-10-14 14:17:57 · answer #5 · answered by houdini 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Treat him no differently than you other friends and let him work through it.
Do NOT answer for him; it annoys them and highlights the problems, making them stutter worse
2006-10-14 14:23:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the bull by ability of the horns in an effort to communicate. purely tell him flat out the style you sense approximately him and which you extremely prefer to leap his bones. 9 cases out of 10 he's going to sense an identical way approximately you. by no ability leave out an probability, he might discover yet another swifter than you're arranged to state your case. looks like one order of shy dude with an factor order of shy woman to me.
2016-10-02 07:35:40 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't try to get to know him. Just be yourself. If he feels comfortable around you, then you will get to know him. If you make him feel uncomfortable, he will not open up.
2006-10-14 14:12:28 · answer #8 · answered by pshdsa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋