We are 13 but he finally sat by me at the football game and it was very cold and he gave me his jacket but when I said my hands were cold he seemed to get nervous is it b/c he likes me or does he not want to hold hands with me.
2006-10-14 14:02:09 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Well, it's been a while, but I seem to be remember being nervous as all hell around girls at that time.
First. He wants to hold your hand. You're a female. He's a teenage boy. He wants to hold your hand.
Two. He's totally nervous. You're a female. He's a teenage boy. Totally nervous.
Third. There is a code of ethics among men, teenage boys, college guys, old farts, grandpas - all men - that we must appear confident and in control in all situations. It's dumber than dirt but it's our natural instincts. There was no way on God's Green Earth he was going to let you know he was nervous, or even that he wanted to hold your hand. He was SUPPOSED to grab your hand, hold it, grab you, kiss you passionately, etc etc. and because he couldn't live up to (his own self imposed) expectations, he sat their like a lump. That's what I think.
The thing about 13 that sucks is that you have no idea what you're doing. What's so incredibly wonderful is that it's all so new. It will never be new again, not like this - it will never feel quite the same again. So here's my advice:
Next time, when it's chilly, just put your hand in his and snuggle up to him. It's instinctual - he'll hold you closer. Then just enjoy the moment when you both realize you both want to get closer - savor it, because that's what makes life wonderful.
2006-10-14 16:32:31 · answer #1 · answered by ZenPenguin 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If he gave you his jacket then he -would- like to be holding you. Some guys (like me) would be too afraid to go to touch without knowing if you would like it or not. Just giving you his jacket probably got him really nervous. Just startoff by grabbing his hand and lace your fingers together when you're sitting down or walking in a somewhat private area or when others arn't interacting with you or him.
2006-10-15 02:09:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like nerves you both are still quit young and have a lot of learning to do about the other sex. If you still feel ready to hold hands then maybe try grabbing his hand and showing him it's ok. Sometimes you need to make that first step. Lord knows my husband would never had kissed me if I hadn't grabbed his ears and kissed him first. Sometimes guys and girls need a little nudge.
Have fun darlin and enjoy the time
2006-10-14 21:38:10 · answer #3 · answered by Ronnie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the age or thirteen you shouldn't have a boyfriend you should be focused on your schoolwork. If you hands were that cold you would have stuck them in you pocket and not leaving them out in the cold half way covered with another hand.Stay young while you can.
2006-10-14 21:07:10 · answer #4 · answered by Precious1 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It's normal my boyfriend does not want me to hold hands with him when were in public cause people sees us it stupid
2006-10-14 21:05:40 · answer #5 · answered by beautiful 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just grab his hand! It's not like he's gonna pull away, chances are he's just really shy. If he likes you, he'll let you hold his hand.
2006-10-14 21:55:04 · answer #6 · answered by K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably nervous. you are only 13. he doesnt really have the vibe of girls yet. as a matter of fact no man ever really does, but it gets easier.
2006-10-14 21:11:27 · answer #7 · answered by jopuppy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure he will, he gave you his coat and a lot of guys would not be that nice . He sounds like a keeper to me .
2006-10-14 21:08:47 · answer #8 · answered by Elaine814 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is sooo sweet. he's just nervous. if you really want to you hold his hand.
2006-10-14 22:03:59 · answer #9 · answered by prfadfels 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes just nervous, next time just take his hand. he'll love it even if it doesnt seem like he does
2006-10-14 21:05:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋