house....i cant stand the noise ...the shoes or the smelly feet on my living room carpet....anyways my boyfriend 3year old daughther comes to my house sometimes on weekend ..she's hardheaded ,stubbornshe not not listen and because of her my house is messy as soon as she comes in.....im pregnant and i dont want the stress of someone else's child....i dont hate her or anything ....what is a very nice way to tell my boyfriend that i dont want her there?
2006-10-14 13:41:42 · 17 answers · asked by ms luv 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Sorry, but I will be sounding rude.....
You need to deal with it.
It's that simple.
What do you think life is like for us who have more than one kid? Many women have had to deal with kids underfoot while pregnant. Will your next excuse be that the baby is keeping you up at night and you need your rest and can not deal with a toddler?
To me you are sounding very selfish and that is one of the poorest qualities to have as a mother.
2006-10-14 15:11:32 · answer #1 · answered by Marge Simpson 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say hang in there it will pass soon I am 34 weeks and my mood swings started to subside around 29 30 weeks I would cry and get mad about the dumbest things but soon I promise it will pass If you can't handle the other child you may need to take a break from it all and explain that to your boyfriend calmly I know it is hard to stay calm because you are so emotional as I said hang in there your over half way. You don't need stress about minor things even though it is easy to do good luck to you and your boyfriend with your new baby.
2006-10-14 13:50:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't say a thing it will only make matters worst. This is one of the prices you will have to pay for having gotten pregnant by a man with a child. All you can do is pray that you will learn to cope. Smells are terrible when you are pregnant. It is as if you get a blood hound nose! You can teach the child discipline, but it will take work.
2006-10-14 13:46:57 · answer #3 · answered by ruthie 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
each month is longer than in simple terms precisely 4 weeks... they are 4.3 weeks long. If each month become 4 weeks that ought to basically be 28 days yet all of us understand that there are better than 28 days in a month. 4 months at 17 weeks, 2 days (4.3 x 4 = 17.2) 5 months at 21 weeks, 5 days 6 months at 26 weeks 7 months at 30 weeks, a million day 8 months at 34 weeks, 4 days 9 months at 39 weeks. you may no longer say you're 6 months till you have carried out the 6th month, which occurs at 26 weeks. so which you're a splash over 6 months.
2016-10-19 10:05:43 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no nice way. And really it is your problem and if you love your boyfriend you're gonna need to suck it up. Trust me when your child gets bigger youwill understand and you will learn that you house can be clean one minute, it takes you several hours to clean it and in 5 minutes it looks like a tornado has blown through it. And unless you plan on following your kid around every second of every day picking up after them your house is going to be dirty no matter what you do. short of locking your kid up. If you plan on having a future with this guy you need to get used to it. And you need to get used to it because you will have your own kid doing this real soon. Trust me the time goes by so quick. Feels like just yesterday I had my daughter, she just turned 4 last week, my son will be 2 in Feb and I'm due with my third child in Feb as well. The time will fly. You will learn to handle more as you go. Because you will learn to let things go or go crazy. You need to take some deep breaths. Maybe get some parenting first time parenting counseling. They will help you learn to know what to expect. You're going to have a rude awakening if a 3 yr old is driving you nuts. You're going to have to learn to let go of a little kid spread mess or you will loose your mind. And if it is that bad just ask your boyfriend to try and pick up after her as much as possible, with in reason. I'm 22 weeks pregnant my house looks like a disaster half the time, and I just have to realize there is nothing I can do about it short of throwing all of their toys away. I clean the house when they go to bed knowing that 10 minutes after they get up in the morning it will be a mess again. I keep my kitchen clean and I gate off half of the house so that they can't trash the other end of it. And I keep up wth my laundry. All you can do it keep up with what you can and then you gotta learn to let the rest go. Good luck!
2006-10-14 13:50:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you sound extremely selfish to try and keep your boyfriend from seeing his child.....how sad. That little girl is just being a kid, and if you can't handle her then I worry about how you'll handle your own. Please excuse me for sounding harsh but I was a child whose parents got divorced and my dad's second wife never wanted me or my sister around - so now to this day I only see my father about 5 times a year. Don't do that to the little girl.
2006-10-14 14:29:10 · answer #6 · answered by yello_flower 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well reall ythere is no easy way saying " hey keep ur crazy kid away from me" Just let him know that when shes around its alot of stress on u. Let him know its not even just her, its just havin people over in general. Ask him if when she is over he can take her to the park, or take her to a movie. Or if shes there for the weekend, if he can just try and keep her out of ur hair. And let him know ur just uncomfterble right now with all these new changes going on.
2006-10-14 13:49:21 · answer #7 · answered by Sarah S 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i know that you're pregnant, and you're tired all the time, and you don't want to clean up after other people...but she's your boyfriend's daughter...
either you learn to love her, or you will lose your boyfriend...and you know that.
why don't you lay down some rules...if she's 3, then she should be able to clean up after herself for the most part...my kids started cleaning up after themselves when they were able to put their sippy cups in the sink...
so when she gets over your house, explain to her that you've got another person in your belly, and you don't have the energy to clean up all her dishes and toys and stuff...
she's not the only reason your house is messy, you need to face the fact that you're just TOO TIRED to clean up!! i was pregnant a few times myself, and the next month or 2 are going to be the worst, you wont want to do anything.
just remember that she may be only 3, but there's some things she does understand.
2006-10-14 13:47:59 · answer #8 · answered by alfjr24 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Are you pregnant with his child? If you are, you are going to have to suck it up. Would you want him to tell you that he doesn't want your child at his house. If you are going to be with him you are going to have to get used to him having another child too.
As for cleaning up and what not...just tell him if she comes over he is in charge and needs to clean up after her and take care of her. Just tell him you are pregnant and don't feel good. And if u think your moody now just wait...the best is yet to come. I would clear this issue now before it becomes an even bigger one.
2006-10-14 14:09:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not her fault you are cranky. But let your bf know how you feel and see what he has to say. She is just a little girl and has no idea what is going on. Try having a 9 month old and being pregnant again.
2006-10-14 13:47:27 · answer #10 · answered by Sexy-n-Hot 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋