I was out with my girl-friend and then later on her 'fiance' joined us for a drink after he was finished work...because I really didn't mind him joining us...but as the evening went on , they got into a little something (over nothing!!!)...but when her fiance got up to go to the loo...she said: 'he's really getting on my nerves'....
maybe it's me : but isn't that a bit wrong for her to say that about someone that she's going to marry!!!!!!!!! I felf really uncomfortable....
she does this all the time...she talks about people when they leave the table...and about 30 minutes before I had left the table to go to the loo...and I was thinking to myself: I wonder what she's going to say to him about me...but I thought that I was being paranoid!!!
But if she can say that about someone that she's going to be married to for the rest of her life!!!???!!!
I was a bit stunned!!!
What do you think?
2006-10-14 13:36:13 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think I would stop hanging out with her, you know you can't trust her, look what she does to the man she loves
2006-10-14 13:38:43 · answer #1 · answered by tigweldkat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All relationships get like that but maybe you should say something if you feel uncomfortable? It is a valid point and maybe she makes comments because she has nothing to say, I know my friends will comment on people once they're gone but usually its positive. People talk about others who have just left when they're bored because they feel they have nothing else to say and the person is instantly nominated to be talked about. It's still not right because if I can be quiet and she should be able to as well! Couples are like that though, I've known a few people who are like that and they say stuff when they're angry or thinking over things. Though I would ask her if she ever talks about you, watch her facial expressions NOT what shes saying, her expressions will deffo give away more. WHATEVER YOU DO...whether you choose to lose her as a friend or she changes or she stays the same NEVER comment on what shes saying, never agree or disagree, stay neutral or dont say anything! I've learnt that, an ex-friend tried to push me into commenting and I did when I had to, and because she talked she told them I agreed! But I suppose she could have easily just said it was soley my opinion. NEVER EVER comment though! Things eventually find their way into the light.
2006-10-14 13:57:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A friendhip with a woman is greater of a ideal relationship, somebody like one you paintings with in an place of work, or a classmate with whom you talk education appropriate issues, etc. whilst the formality turns into much less and the involvement turns into greater via way of sharing own info, spending time with one yet another for applications different than what a ideal relationship demands, and assembly one yet another greater often and at diverse places for exciting and game, then the lady-buddy/boy-buddy reltionship includes play.
2016-12-26 19:26:43 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She feels comfortable with whatever feels normal to her. Perhaps her mother was the same. I don't think she talks badly about you though because you are the person she can complain to about others which puts you in the best position between the three.
2006-10-14 18:41:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents have been married for 30 years and my mom will say behind his back and in front of him that he is a pain in the @ss. But they are fine. I really wouldn't read into it too much-no relationship is perfect and no person is perfect.
2006-10-14 13:39:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be paranoid too. If she would do that to some one she is going to marry, you dont know what she has said about you in the past.
2006-10-14 13:43:17 · answer #6 · answered by ducky_lucky_123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, my husband gets on my nerves all the time, but it doesn't mean I love him any less. I think maybe you should find more important things to worry about.
2006-10-14 13:40:11 · answer #7 · answered by mkathy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she needs to fix up, and not chat people, the man she is ment to marry ( for god sake ) how shallow. Prick what is she doing with hi if she don't like him DUHHHHHHH foolish child. You need to let her go and find people who are real and say how they feel.
2006-10-14 13:45:41 · answer #8 · answered by soul1612 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she has no self confidence.people put other people down because of their own insecuritys,no you are not paranoid,she probably talks about you too
2006-10-14 13:39:28 · answer #9 · answered by boozer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Play it safe and not hang around with her to much.
2006-10-14 13:39:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋