ok i will be celebrating my 1 yr anniversary with my hubby and i want to know how i can bring the intimatcy back.see we cant have sex yet since i recently gave birth 6 weeks ago and had a severe complications with my surgery so i have to postpone sex a lil but i feel like we have no excitement anymore.guys any ideas or girls?
aside fromt he fact we share a room with our baby right now
2006-10-14 13:34:24 · 15 answers · asked by Preschool diva 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just because you can't have intercourse doesn't mean you can't please him with other things, such as oral stimulation. I bet that if you dedicated the night to pleasing him with out sex, it would shock the hell out of him...and i'm sure he'd be grateful. Spice it up. Wait till the baby goes to sleep and try being intimate in a different room. A change of setting can make a world of difference.
2006-10-14 13:37:57 · answer #1 · answered by Jane D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations!!!! Well, since the marriage is still fresh, and depending on what you guys' "kinky level" is, I would tell you to go to a novelty store near you. EX: Spencer's Gifts, local sex shop on a late evening, etc. and see what fits you guys' relationship. Body painting/oils is an experience like no other. It would defininitely help with the stress of having the baby right now, and add a lil' spice to the bedroom. So many feelings and emotions are tied into it like the icky feeling, the sensations of his hands/ paintbrush rubbing across your body, the total bliss of being handled loved and cared about enough that your man doesn't mind getting a lil' messy with you, etc. And depending on what kind you get, or what ingredients that are in bodypaint,could even help your skin regain healthy elasticity (you know from having the baby). I love it because it is an orgasm (sometimes) waiting to happen. All you have to do is find time, and free your mind.
2006-10-14 20:51:32 · answer #2 · answered by Ebony da *Dimepiece* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing to do is spend quality time together. having a baby in the family can be tough, but sooner or later the baby will have a major part in your lives, focusing the attention more on the baby than the relationship, and the best way to deal with that and spend quality time together is to find someone you could trust and get them to babysit while you spend a night out with your hubby, mayb go to a nice restaurant and perhaps stroll along the beach, not worrying about your baby knowing they're in good hands.
2006-10-14 20:41:28 · answer #3 · answered by kristyb872001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, he is not the cold machine you make him out to be. Cuddle, kiss, caress, you get the picture. There is plenty you can do to be intimate...make out with him and touch this or that while he whacks off...you just might get a few lessons on pleasing him you didn't expect. And make sure he knows it is ok...start things up, and if he is not sure what to do, then place his hand on his own.... and move it...only a carrot would not see the meaning. Trust me, your baby will not care if mommy and daddy get it on. And if you can, do yourself at the same time. He will get a huge kick out of that one too. You are married. Some fake barriers need to be removed. He is whacking one way or another, so join in the fun. Good luck
2006-10-14 20:40:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a nice candle lite dinner and tell him how much he means to you...and all that other mussy stuff lol
If you can move the baby to another room...even if its just for a while. Then cuddle kiss...let your fingers do the walking as they say. If you don't have a problem with oral sex go down on him Really get into it and tease him like you never have before.
2006-10-14 20:50:02 · answer #5 · answered by oldman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As much as you love your baby, move that beautiful thing out of your room (unless there is a problem with the baby's health). Don't feel selfish moving him/her out of your room at night. I can tell that you already know that this is really the problem, and nothing else. Don't feel alone, because every couple who has children goes through exactly what you're going through. Try to be patient. Take care.
2006-10-14 21:09:11 · answer #6 · answered by me2007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are other things to do besides actual intercourse sweetie. Here's a playful idea for you. Have a wonderful candlelight dinner with the wine, music, etc...and for dessert you could use whipped cream or chocolate fondue on your bodies. In fact you could cut up fruits for the event and just eat it off each other with the whipped cream or chocolate as topping. Both of you would enjoy this sensual experience.
2006-10-14 20:44:06 · answer #7 · answered by Optimistic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put baby at other end of the room.
YOu can do other things. Sensual massage. Dinner. I know i just had a baby and could not have sex either for our 6 year anniversary. But you can do other things.
2006-10-14 21:34:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear ya! We too share a room with our baby and let's just say it has put a damper on the romance....how about going out on a date? Have grandma watch the kid while you and hubby have some fun out? Laugh, cuddle, and just plain talk. Have an adult convo. NO talking about the baby!
2006-10-14 20:38:07 · answer #9 · answered by Christabelle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all move the baby to his/her own room. That will help. And don't push things.
2006-10-14 20:37:23 · answer #10 · answered by lovedietdp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋