How hard would you take it if you found out your son is gay?

Answer 1

I'd just be happy to have a son, period.
I'd be more concerned that he was kind, honest, loving and helpful toward people and the planet. Who he loved would be secondary to the fact that he found someone to love.

Answer 2

Not very hard, and I would love him the same. Now let's just hope someday I have a son. I'm seriously considering adoption, so many kids need a good home. I need to find a good partner first and build a permanent home.

I'd probably tell him the same as my Mom told me. Life is already hard, this may make it harder for you. She doesn't necessarily think it's a choice, but my siblings do. Such is ways of the deep south. It's quite funny how different one child is from the other and how they're very different from their parents in so many things. Though with time comes wisdom, one always hopes.

Answer 3

I wouldn't take it hard at all. It's not as if it's any kind of reflection of what kind of parent I am.
It's not something I did or said, it's not something I did while pregnant. It's just part of who he would be.

If my son, although not all too likely, came to me and told me he was gay, I'd love him exactly the same as ever before. He's a wonderful young man. A good person with a great heart, a hard worker, honest, caring and compassionate, loyal to his friends, a good student, a fun althelete and a talented musician.

I wouldn't care one way or the other, I'd just make sure he had all the facts about safe sex....Oh, wait...I've already had that talk with him...

I know that SEXUAL ORIENTATION is NOT A CHOICE, it's simply part of who a person is. It's not at all like changing your shirt or your underwear for that matter.
NO one CHOOSES for IGNORANT BIGOTS to target you for a "Good ol' fence hangin'"
Being gay is NOT A PREFERANCE! IT'S NOT A CHOICE!!!
IT'S NOT A "LIFE STYLE" IT'S SIMPLY A PART OF LIFE ITSELF!

Anyone who thinks that is going to miss out on the biggest joy of life...being a loving parent to a great kid!

I know my son, I'm an involved parent, I love him no matter what, I'm always proud of his accomplishments and the effort he puts into everything he does.

Any parent who can't accept their child for who they are don't know the meaning of "UNCONDITIONAL LOVE."
They don't know the meaning of being a PARENT!

My son, although not gay, is a great kid. He's all the atributes I mentioned before and more. HE'S MY SON!

My son actually likes breaking stereotypes!!
He's so straight it's almost painful, but he loves to dress up on Halloween or for shows. He loves theatre and music. He performed along with myself and my partner for eight years as a Elizabethan Renaissance cast member. He wore tights and frills because it was part of the role..and he loved it!
He would do that all summer long and then just before school started he'd be in his shoulder pads and underarmor for football!
He wears pink sunglasses and pink flipflops just to make people laugh!
He's a natural performer and loves to make people around him happy.

He's been dating the same, beautiful gal for the past three years...and I have a feeling they'll probably marry some day, who adores his quirkiness and can get just as silly!
They're an adorable couple with lots of friends. He's one of those kinds of guys everyone likes. He has NO enemies at all. No one ever picks on him or makes fun of him because he's the first to make fun of himself, but always with the greatest sence of humor and delight.

If he was gay, I'd see him no differently. He's still a great young man and will be a wonderful adult.

Answer 4

Although I am all for gay rights (marriages, etc.) and I even several close friends who are gay, I would still be extremely upset that my son was gay. I know this sounds hypocritical (everyone take it easy on me) but to me, its just different if it were your own flesh and blood. I think after time, I would be OK but how much time, I don't know. I would have to keep remembering and reminding myself, just because he's gay, doesn't mean he's not a real person, a real person with a real heart and real brain. The damage I could possible put on my relationship with my son because I was not accepting could be very very detrimental.

Answer 5

I don't have a son, but I do have a nephew. He's 7 years old, and he likes playing with makeup and perfume and dresses, and we (the family) figure he may be gay. We don't care. We love him for who he is.

And his mother (my sister) is kind of relieved she won't have to worry about him getting his girlfriend pregnant when he's a teenager.

Our biggest worry is protecting him from the evil bigots out there, especially since he's still in the south. That's why his mom signed him up for karate classes (and ballet, since he wants to try that too). Still, that won't protect him completely. We just hope society changes over the years so that we don't have to worry about him being attacked or killed someday by some ignorant bigot.

Answer 6

I don't have a son, I have a daughter whom I love more than life itself. I can honestly say, there have been times I have been disappointed in her when she didn't do the right things I and my wife have always told her; but there is nothing she can ever say or do that is going to change my love for her. My love for her is, and always will be unconditional. We have always told her that we believe and accept heterosexual is the only natural way, being gay is a choice just like what color shirt you choose to wear is a choice. We do not judge those who are gay. We do not buy in to the claims that have people claiming they were born that way.

I can not in good conscious claim to be Christian and see this subject in any different light.

Answer 7

I still don't have a child, but if I did and he'd be gay it would be a little bit of a surprise to me at first, but I won't back up on him.
I'd still love him like I always would, and support him, since he'll need me then the most.

Answer 8

well, since i'm gay having childrenreally isn't an option. well it could be but i won't get off topic. I know my parents were very supportive and understanding. I think they knew before I even said anything. But i would love my child either way. It's your flesh and blood, and nothing can ever change that.

Answer 9

Although I'm gay I would worry about him. I find more people are against men and men relationships than women and women for some reason. But I wouldn't love him any less.

Answer 10

well....i personally dont have any issues with sexual preference...i dont believe that its my choice to decide who someone loves...but in all honesty, i think that id be a little nervous, and only because when someone who you know so well, who is as close as a person can get, lets you know that he is gay...im sure it takes some getting used to. not because its a bad thing, only because if you arent gay yourself, you may not know how to react....im sure you dont want to offend anyone by asking certain questions and im sure you want to know about their life and the things they may have been hiding before they came out...so i'd say i might be a little surprised at first, but id never ever look at them differently...after all, he is your child and it doesnt make him different in any bad ways..plus you can learn things from him that you may have not known before!!=) good luck to you and your son(if you are talking about yourself=)

EDIT: just want to add, after reading all of the above comments that, aside from the idiot who said he'd shoot him, these comments all made me smile....to see how many open-minded people there are on here...makes me feel good =)