Call me cynically, but I think that a truly happy person is rare. Most of us, especially young people like me (I'm 21), seem to be striving and struglling to get where they want to be. It is their suffering that give them a reason to want more. But their seem to be obstacles in the way. What are yours?
2006-10-14 13:09:57 · 19 answers · asked by Subconsciousless 7 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
the reason for me not being 100% happy as i used to be 1 year ago is growing up. i am 22, have more things at stake as well as on the plate, am in a relationship-serious that is-am dealing with school, and stress which at times takes a huge toll on me. i will be honest and tell you that what is staying between me and my happiness 24/7 is worrying, stress as well as trying to grow up and to live up to my own expectations and what my absolute best is. truly happy people are not rare to find, for examle my bf is happy all the time even when life is hard. yes you are right about struggling to accomplish your goals which makes you stuck into your own la la land. my reason is stress, worry as well as school.
2006-10-14 13:18:40 · answer #1 · answered by icycrissy27blue 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is the human condition to be dissatisfied. That's what drives us to get up and move about. For example, hunger. The feeling of lacking sustenance sends us out in search of food. The finding of food when you're hungry satisfies the feeling of lack, temporarily. Is this feeling of relief happiness? Not entirely.
The happiness most people seek is serenity, peace, security.
Relief from stress, anxiety, victimization by this or that.
Truth is, both are happening at all times in one way or another. Thus is the cycle of life, good and bad, ups and downs.
We as humans are gifted with a choice, called perception. ( is the cup half empty or half full?) Trouble is, most of us are programmed, by accident or design, conscious or unconscious, to focus on the lack. It's never enough, that feeling of human hunger will always return. it will always be something. Close as I can tell, there are three ways to help to ease the pain of living:
1. Acceptance. There are several religions worldwide that focus on unshouldering the want for material posessions and earthly endeavors. Do not dwell on the lack.
2. Appreciation. For simple things in your life that you DO have. Thankfullness, sometimes it helps to draw a comparison of your life to someone who really has it bad.
3. Accomplishment. Ego enhancing activities, small things that make you proud of yourself. Learning new skills, trying a new sport, evolving yourself, and helping others all make you feel like a better person.
Let go. Breathe. Live. Enjoy. Tomorrow is not promised us.
2006-10-14 13:49:43 · answer #2 · answered by alex 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think what usually stands between a person and happiness is when you feel like you have to live up to everyone else's idea of what you should be. Am I in a career that is respected? Do I make enough money? Am I attractive? Am I raising my kids right? Is my house nice enough? Are my teeth white enough? Blah, blah, blah. Who the hell can be happy putting all that pressure on themselves?
2016-03-28 09:22:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a long complated story for myself. But, a lot of things are standing in the way of happiness. Sometimes I think that I will never see happiness. Im filing for SSDI (Soical Seruity Disabilty Income) and that is now in its appeal stages and I been wanting since February this year to hear something. Then I'm trying to go to college and Im taking a Composition I class and right now I have a F for the class. One day I can only hope for the happiness. But, dont allow things to get you down hope and dream for the best.
2006-10-14 15:48:03 · answer #4 · answered by Michael R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a truely happy person, and yes they are rare...because it takes a lot of thinking and coming to terms with your limitations.
The key is to be happy with who you are and what you have and not want for more...be happy if you get more, but not want for it. I live my life with a few mottos:
Today is what we have and this moment our only guarantee.
You don't find life worth living, you make it that way.
I am not a rich(as far as money) person, but I have a job and friends and a family. Who could ask for more.
2006-10-14 19:52:44 · answer #5 · answered by tcountry69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The ONLY thing that could ever possibly stand in the way of my happiness is ME! I am responsible for my own happiness, and there's not one thing, or one person, on the face of this good earth that could make me happy...although, I will admit it could add to my happiness. When one becomes dependent on other people, or material possessions to provide happiness, he or she will be sadly disappointed. When I lost everything I owned, including my job and car, I still had myself, and I was happy with me. I just got busy and started all over, again.
2006-10-14 13:21:05 · answer #6 · answered by Nani 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it takes a life time to be really fully happy. It takes determination will power and the true want to be happy and stay happy. money , obstacles are a few to start for some.
2006-10-14 13:18:27 · answer #7 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
me! when im at your age, im very ambiteous.,i want to reach and perfectly wanted all my plans be push through.,time planning and management, and systematic and thats me. now im fullfilled all my dreams and ambitions. im happy and my children are all professional and a degree holder like me. at your age, i would advice (tho you dont need an advice, lol), planning, time management, systematic, and determination to achieve whatever endeavors you are targeting., of course there were the striving, effort and hardworks, but in the end you will be satisfied, contentment follows and then happiness, when you successfully get whatever it is. obstacles-challenge, if theres challenge dont give up, go on.
2006-10-14 13:35:13 · answer #8 · answered by Salvacionf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think what is standing in the way of my happiness is my inability to control my responses. When I think about, it is not the events that upset me, but my inability to face them. So, if I had a perfect impulse control, I wouldn't make so many unwarranted emotional mistakes. Yes, I think self control would suffice to make me happy. Having it, I think I could handle it all. But that is just me.
2006-10-14 13:14:41 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 24 and own a house and a new car and have money in savings I am happy
2006-10-14 13:18:24 · answer #10 · answered by brunette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋