If you were friends before you came out and you are out now, how long did it take for him to stop being weird around you and be truly accepting
2006-10-14 13:07:38 · 7 answers · asked by arvis3 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
im straight but ive gotta gay friend and a bi one. theyre all good. they know their limits and theyre respectful. i just keep an eye open when theyre drunk and high, ha!
2006-10-14 13:11:50 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have had this situation three times in my life. The first time, when I came out to my friend, he became my boyfriend, proving that he wasn't completely straight in the first place. That has fallen apart though, because he can't accept himself, and is now engaged to some chick that has cheated on him many many times, and she likes to talk to me about it. Ugh.
Anyway, the second time around, I didn't come out, my friend told me I was. LOL. I got a b-day card from a friend that had a semi-naked guy on it, and when I wouldn't let my friend see the card, he told me that he knew I was gay, and to get over it. We've been really good friends ever since. There was never any wierdness, or anything like that.
However, this was all after highschool. I had one friend in high school, he was sexually my first, although we were never boyfriends. We just had sex a couple of times our freshman year. When I came out in our senior year, he told me that he couldn't believe I was a f**ing f**got. We've never spoken since.
2006-10-15 10:03:54 · answer #2 · answered by wiccancowboy2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend wasn't weird at all, nothing changed. We're both very relaxed about it, I joke about making an honest man out of him, he cracks typical gay jokes at me. If he's worried that you're going to jump him at the first opportunity, ask him if he needs to behave that way around his female friends, and then tell him you don't fancy guys with big egos.... "Truly accepting" isn't a helpful phrase to use - are you truly accepting of his sexuality? See, it's not even meaningful in that context. You're friends, there's no sexual or romantic content to the relationship regardless of gender or orientation, so your friendship shouldn't be affected. Just give him a little time to adjust and don't act like anything's changed, because it hasn't, really.
2006-10-14 13:36:07 · answer #3 · answered by dm_cork 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I haven't been out to to my friend long, but I wouldn't say that he was ever weird about it. He sometimes poke fun if I were to say something stereotypically gay, but he knows that I don't mind. I just remind him that he comes off as gay to more people than I do. He was really supportive when I came out. He even offered to go with me to a gay bar and introduce me to some of his other gay friends.
2006-10-14 13:27:48 · answer #4 · answered by Liir 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He was never weird around me, he loves me and it even made our friendship stronger. He only showed acceptance about it without any ambivalence from the first moment.
2006-10-14 13:32:30 · answer #5 · answered by ted 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DUDE, CHECK THIS OUT! YOUR STR8 FRIEND MAY OR MAY NOT STOP BEING WEIRD! EXPOSURE IS THE KEY! THE MORE THE STR8 COMMUNITY AND THE GAY COMMUNITY INTERACT THE BETTER! WE ARE ALL ATTEMPTING THIS THING CALLED LIFE! GAY OR STR8 WE ARE ONE COMMUNITY! WITH THAT SAID, IF YOU HAVE A SECRET CRUSH ON THIS STR8 BOY YOU ARE IN FOR A WORLD OF HEAT BREAK IF YOU ARE UNABLE TO CONTROL YOUR FEELINGS! GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-10-14 13:21:38 · answer #6 · answered by james f 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He knows, and he is still my best friend! :-)
2006-10-14 13:38:23 · answer #7 · answered by Travis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋