I need an explanation please! only real answers thanks?

Question

i cant seem to figure out why one of my closest friends is a target or a magnet for mistreatment. I have seen those who claim that they are her friends end up trying to bring drama in her life! i mean wanting to fight her!
not only this but her guy friend seems like a jerk the majority of the time and so is her immediate family. she is very kind hearted open minded, and she dosent cling to people, she is also a person who volunteers alot and will help out anyone, and i give her alot of love and stand up for her but what is the deal

why does alot of people end up wanting to hurt her or always stare at her or abuse her,

and then when she does get mad or depressed they act like she is crazy?

help please, its us against them

Answer 1

Must be because your friend is just sooooo good that she often forgets to stand up for herself. People can mistake one's kindness as an invitation for them to abuse him/her. You know how people can be. You know what I did when I was in that situation before? I distanced myself from family and friends who tend to be "abusive" as you said it. I got the nastiest comments and stories made up just to get even with me. But I stood my ground. I thought they were feeling all too familiar with me that they forgot what respect was.

My silence must have made them think. Now, they treat me differently. It took a while (in fact a long time) and it wasn't easy. But you know why I was able to make it? Because I had a friend with me. One friend who took me for who I am, respected me, loved me without expecting anything in return, I realized, was more than enough. She was worth far more than a thousand people who sometimes forget to respect me.

Looks like your friend will be able to make it as well. She has you.

Answer 2

Sadly, people who are generous and open are often vulnerable to this kind of abuse because other people use them to soak up their own issues. I don't know if there's anything you can do to actually help your friend, besides be there as a solid rock of support whenever she needs you. You're very kind and observant to have noticed all this, and to care so much about your friend. She's clearly an open, loving person and she shouldn't have to change that, but I think that her very kind and lovely personality is probably the reason she gets so much stuff thrown at her. It happens to those who try to make a difference. Make sure she doesn't get hurt or bitter - the world needs kind people like you and your friend!

Answer 3

It's just the way life is. Some people tend to attract bad luck, others attract good luck. She is lucky to have you! Together you two can sit down and try to figure out what it is that draws weird people to her. However, unless you categorize yourself as weird, it doesn't happen all the time! Perhaps she needs to be a little less kind hearted. She might need to put up some "barriers" that keep new friends at a distance until she knows they can be trusted. Don't give up on her. Good Luck

Answer 4

I think that a lot of people are targeted like that because of a lack of self confidence. She might look down on herself and not realize that she doesnt deserve the bad treatment that she gets so she sits back and takes it, and that makes her feel worse. If you really want to help your friend I think you should show her what a great person she really is and show her that she doesnt deserve to be treated that way, and maybe help her find new friends and people she can surround herself with that will make a positive difference in her life instead of a negative one.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

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Answer 7

Obviously this girl has low self-esteem to be allowing these people to do these things to her and let them pretend to be her friend. You standing up for her shows what a good friend you are. Keep standing up for her and keep telling her whats up. She will wise up adventually. Just be there for her. She will at least have one good friend.

Answer 8

The treatment you receive in only WHAT YOU ALLOW.

Sometimes you just have to stand up to people.
And dump mean spirited friends.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

got any money?
the two of you should go off on holiday together
nothing like some happy snaps (photos) to bring out the jealousy in other people.