We have been together for 4 years, we got pregnant a month after we got together, we had a miscarriage, and now he doesn't want one at all, what do i do? i want one more than anything in the world.
2006-10-14 13:00:21 · 19 answers · asked by jashaunte 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
You need to understand that he does not want a baby, and if you want one and he does not then there is something your both not agreeing on. And you do not want to entrap him with this serious commitment. So you need to really think about what is best for you and your future. Good luck... Take Care
2006-10-14 17:27:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well good for him, at least someone is thinking smartly. You have plenty of time to think about a baby. Do you really feel like getting tied down while your boyfriend is out having a good time? Ever think he might leave you because he says that he doesn't want one right now. Try baby sitting someones new born for a few nights and see if that is what you really want, guaranteed you'll change your mind fast. Would you like having your sleep disturbed to make and feed a bottle? How about when the little one gets sick, know what to do? What about when friends are all going out to parties, you sure can't drag a baby with you. Think hard about that one....................
2006-10-14 20:23:29 · answer #2 · answered by lisa b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be stupid and think you can rear a child by yourself. Stop playing house before its too late. Your boyfriend doesn't want a commitment - to you and especially to a child. You would be wise to take the others advice, and that advice of your mother, and that advice of your grandmother to get married first before you give birth to a innocent child who wants a good chance at succeeding in this cruel world by having both a loving mother and father who'll provide the advantages every child deserves to succeed. Otherwise, your child starts off on the lowest of rung on the ladder of life. You don't want that, do you?
2006-10-14 22:09:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember that forcing a child onto someone who doesn't want one is not a good idea and will probably ruin your relationship. It's best for a child to have 2 parents whenever possible. Maybe he's just not the guy for you if he doesn't want kids.
2006-10-14 20:44:24 · answer #4 · answered by heather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please do not have a baby that isn't want. Both parents are need by the child. Don't hurt an innocent child. If you want children that much & he doesn't you may need to look for a new life with somebody who shares that dream. The time you invest in finding such a person will be well worth it. Much better for the child who will ultimately have to live with the consequences of your actions.
2006-10-14 20:09:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
First, get married.
Then get pregnant.
By the sounds of things, I think your boyfriend should get a new girlfriend. You don't come across as sounding that emotionally stable. Do you really think bringing a child into this world is going to bring stability to your life.
I think you need to grow up some more, as in maturity.
2006-10-14 20:04:07 · answer #6 · answered by David S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't force a baby on your boyfriend. It would be the worst thing you could do, he may decide not to stick around. Maybe he is worried about another m/c, and just needs to get used to the idea again.
2006-10-14 20:05:55 · answer #7 · answered by D J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you find out what made you have the miscarriage? It sounds like he scared to loose anouther child. Set down tell him how you feel and list ion to his feelings, its hard to deal w/loosing a baby. My prayers are with you.
2006-10-14 20:06:05 · answer #8 · answered by PENNY M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's probably smart enough now to realize he should be married before bringing a child into the world. So should you.
2006-10-15 08:14:48 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't force him to have a child he doesn't want. And don't plan on being a "single" mom. Wait until you are married and you both are ready and willing to raise a child.
2006-10-14 21:56:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋