I read a vary disterbing question-They med student that will refuse to treat a dieing gay person- well my question is would you stay in the closet for fear of there being more doc's out there like this that can take your life just because of hate? what if you had kids and he took your kids life because you were gay?? would it be worth it to stay in the closet??? (I am a lesbian with 2 kids and scared to death and afraid now to come out)
2006-10-14 12:54:40 · 13 answers · asked by brandy t 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
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http://www.streetdoc.net/postimages/klaner.jpg
For those of you who can't get to the picture, it's a photo of a KKK member being treated by an all black emergency staff, the guy survived.
2006-10-14 17:03:38 · answer #1 · answered by RainKid 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think its worth it to stay in the closet (to everyone) because of fear of being denied medical treatment. While you may choose to express your sexual orientation to friends and family you trust, you need not tell your physicians unless knowing your sexual practices will somehow help them assess your medical condition. Unless you come wheeled into the emergency room in some rather extravagant predicament, no one will no whether you are gay straight or otherwise. Your sexual orientation isn't plastered across your forehead. You can talk to your significant other and express your wishes that they introduce themselves as something else - like a friend or sister - if they ever have to take you into an emergency room or go with you and your kids. And by the time it comes out that you aren't heterosexual, should that ever need to happen at all, you should be stable enough to request a physician transfer if your doctor wants to be ignorant about it. Once you spend a little time outside the closet, you might also find, as I have found, that some of the physicians in your area are lgbt friendly or queer themselves, and wouldn't mind having you and your family as regular patients.
2006-10-14 20:10:14 · answer #2 · answered by Jordan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll give an example. I live in the deep south, I'm openly gay. I don't hide who I am but I don't go around flaming, marching, or advertising my sexuality. Often I have women asking me out, then I have to let them know, hopefully without them feeling ashamed or guilty. I'm kinda tired of them finding opportunities to convert me to straight, etc. I won't let them waste their time, I stop them dead in their tracks. And people do talk, I don't worry though. Why shold I worry about what others say about me? If I did that I'd be worried to death. Their words can't harm me, I'll just keep on truckin and live my life the way that I always do. I'm an uncle 12 times over now and if someone tried to threaten me or my relatives based on me being gay they'd be laughed right out of town.
I'm actually looking for a physician currently who is ok treating homosexual patients, since it's his private practice, it's his choice who his patients are, and I want someone well versed in some issues and is able to give advice appropriately. cause some health matters might someday require the knowledge of my lifestyle in order for advice and treatment to be approrpriate and/or useful, that's just me planning ahead for whatever might come to pass, better prepared than sorry.
I once was scared to come out, I was in the military at the time being forced to live a double life and being confused on who I was as a young man living in a foreign country, etc. You know what happened they found out anyway and kicked me out. And I'm better for it! Other than the double life, I had an excellent experience in the military, made many friends. I've had a wonderful career since getting kicked out, done things I would not have had opportunities for otherwise. Hopefully someday, our government will change how the military works. Many many thousands of people in and out of the military want this change.
Everything in life is for a reason, you didn't choose to be gay and don't let others judgements, feelings, and opinions dictate the way you live, that's not freedom. For who are they to judge you?
You've got two kids, good for you, be a wonderful example in your community of what a good parent is. I have faith in you, have faith in yourself!
That pre-med guy, you know what.. if you let someone die out of inaction, you get a board review, you may also get a lawsuit, and his hospital administrator will watch and if this is a repetitive thing, he looses his medical license to practice and can eventually be blocked from practicing in any state. It is the roll of a Physician to have compassion and healing for all. Besides if you went into the Emergency room, the attending probably doesn't know you from Eve and cannot judge you gay just by looking at you. (Unless you're wearing a big proud Dykes on Bikes T-Shirt, etc.)
Maybe this is why I tend to dress without silk screen ads and sayings plastered all over me. Even if they are humourous. Every moment I'm working as a professional and on attracting the right life partner, bringing the right people closer to me so that I have a great group of supporting, caring, and nurturing friends for each other. Then together we can start to help the world heal itself one mind at a time, one action at a time. Who would want anything less in their life?
2006-10-14 20:33:04 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that would be a violation of the Hippocratic Oath that doctors are required to take.
Although I didn't see the question myself, I would assume that it was just a rabble rouser and not really any kind of med student.
Peace
2006-10-14 20:07:33 · answer #4 · answered by DontPanic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most professionals are not like the so called "med student" and they have some code of ethics to follow. They should be able to judge what they should do with respect to their own occupations.
2006-10-14 20:06:49 · answer #5 · answered by Skys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Realistically the guy is lieing. He's as much of a medical student as I am (which I'm not). He's more than likely gay and in the closet himself or why else would he be here....be yourself hun...
2006-10-14 20:00:42 · answer #6 · answered by Lipstick 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't go around shouting from the rooftops that I'm a lesbian....but I'm also not going to let these ignorant morons make me crawl back in the closet. ultimately, everyone has to do what they feel is best for them personally.
2006-10-14 20:08:49 · answer #7 · answered by redcatt63 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
its just a stupid med worker an has no business doing the job if they cant treat everyone, no matter what there race or sexual preffence is, they are trained on how to deal with dieses, an should take precautions with everyone, they sound like a bigget to me.
2006-10-14 20:02:03 · answer #8 · answered by elltea 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No. I refuse to allow threats from a person like that to frighten me. Murder, as he suggests, is a very hard thing to hide. People like that say things to frighten others but when it comes down to it, they are very unlikely to actually carry out threats of that sort.
2006-10-14 20:03:53 · answer #9 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hunny not everyone is like that. most of those types of question on this are just plain stupid. If you want to come out then go for it babe. Be who you are without fear.
2006-10-15 00:18:10 · answer #10 · answered by angelic_devil30 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋