2006-10-14 12:41:21 · 14 answers · asked by mattyboi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well, whether she accepts it or not, you're gonna be gay for the rest of your life. You need to do what's best for you. You're not always gonna end up pleasing everybody. It must upset you that you don't have your mom's acceptance. If you can, try to sit her down and talk to her about it. Maybe you can get her to understand. Even if she doesn't agree with you being gay, maybe one day she'll accept it if you tell her that her approval means a lot to you and that you love her very much. Hang in there. She'll come around one day. Good luck! P.S. What were your parents doing in a gay bar??!
2006-10-14 12:45:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is really nothing else you can do, sorry to say. If you've told them and assured them that this is what you are, they will have to come about acceptance on their own. Some parents never do, but you are better off living the life you know is right for you than living the lie they want for you. This is a blow for many parents, as they have to let go of some of their dreams for you, but it is YOUR life. In time, they will probably come around and realize that your happiness can only be defined by you, not their ideals.
2006-10-14 12:46:51 · answer #2 · answered by roknrolr63 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really do not understand you question.
I understand that your mom does not accept that you are gay, and want to know what do you do now. The "as rent caught me out in a gay bar". I don't understand that.
Parents do not want their children to be homosexual.
1. Reason is their beliefs, or religion.
2. They do not think is possible to have grand children.
At first my mom FLIPPED out. She blamed herself. I mean she just went OFF. However in due time she came to understand, and respect my feelings as a homosexual male. She came and watch me at Pride. (walking in the parade). She went back to back nights to a club for my birthday. It was like she became very supportive of me. Out of all the family members someone can have. I have the love and support from my mom and younger brother. However as time went on. My brother let me down. He made up and excuse as to why he could not come one year. He did not have to walk with me if he did not want to. It was just the fact of him being there. That is what mattered the most.
What I do not understand about my family. After they found out about me being straight. I had LESS support for being straight then being gay.
My advise to you is just give her time. Ask to be respected, and you give her respect by not throwing your homosexuality in her face all the time.
2006-10-14 12:59:38 · answer #3 · answered by Dwayne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is the best policy. I am not advocating homosexuality but that is another blog. Hopefully they can begin to accept you. Hopefully they will realize that YOU haven't changed just because they now know. You are the same person, their own blood, that you were before they knew. No real advice, only to keep your chin up. Some people have a real hard time accepting it. I guess it's their loss only it affects you too. Sorry ?
2006-10-14 12:48:23 · answer #4 · answered by rock d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm... what was mum and dad doing in a gay bar??? Funny how truth is truth whether or not your mum accepts it.... just be patient with her and show her that it doesn't affect your future as a responsible, respectful human being.... get your education, work, and future secured and mum will have to see that being gay doesn't mean that you are a failure!! I think mums just want their kids to be happy - so show her that your lifestyle as a gay man isn't going to be disrespectful, rude, or obscene...
2006-10-14 12:46:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're genuinely doing the excellent ingredient via helping your nephew. this might positioned you at odds such as your sister, yet she'll recover from it. Your nephew won't in any respect recover from the way his father and mom are reacting to his popping out, and he won't in any respect ignore how lots you helped him in one among those perplexing time in his existence. Too many young ones like him finally end up on the streets or committing suicide because of fact they sense on my own and their households do no longer settle for them. All youngster gays and lesbians ought to have an uncle such as you!
2016-10-19 10:01:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how does this make u feel? do u need her to accept this? do u need her to be by your side? do u need her to understand? do u need her to show u that she still loves u? how important is this for u? do u need her help? Just tell her your feelings and ask her about her feelings, give her time :)
2006-10-14 12:48:23 · answer #7 · answered by kourtina1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be who you are....sorry if parent don't accept that but that's not gonna change your preferences....if they love you they will eventually come around....if not well, then you need to keep your head high and make a decent life for yourself without their support, regardless of your sexual preference
2006-10-14 12:44:14 · answer #8 · answered by Ruth Less RN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont sweat it,ur mum will come around just give her some time and maybe some space to mull it over
2006-10-14 12:44:34 · answer #9 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to face it and talk it out.... this is one of those difficult issues in society today not only in the USA but in many parts of the world, proffesional help can be part of the solution to your situation.. there is no magic touch here you need to talk it out and seek proffesional help.....
2006-10-14 12:48:10 · answer #10 · answered by Luis B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋