how do u tell ur parents ur pregnent if ur only 14?

Answer 1

mom pop, time to make room for more.

Answer 2

If you're afraid of their reaction, or afraid they might hurt you, you could..
1. Tell them in a public place, like a restaurant.
2. Tell a school counselor, and ask the counselor to invite them in for a conference and tell them in her office. This is a really good idea because then they'll know that there are other people looking out for your safety.
3. Get your BF and his parents together and tell them all at once. This may or may not be a good idea, but it is one suggestion.
4. Tell an older sibling or aunt first then have them be with you when you tell your parents. This is similar to #2, but can be used when you're pretty sure your parents will just be upset and not dangerous, and when there's not a history of family violence.
5. Same suggestion possible with a pastor or spiritual advisor, especially if your family has an established relationship with one, AND you can trust them not to be mean to you. You did make a mistake, but there's no place for nastiness in this situation.

I'm so sorry, and I hope that you and your folks will be able to pull together and support each other as a family.

Answer 3

Just say it. I am giving you this advice as someone who has been there and also had to deal with it with my daughter. I didn't get mad and neither did my dad, because there isn't much you can do about it after the fact. Your parents may be let down or even mad, but time will change that. What you want to do now is prove yourself to them. Stay home, help with the household chores, study hard to get your schooling, etc. You are going to miss hanging with your friends and all, but you are going to be a better person in the long run. Besides, that longing to be out will pass in time. Right now the most important thing is to be a good mom to your baby, whether you keep it or not. Good luck to you, hon. Things are going to be okay if you take these words to heart...BTW, thenforme...said to tell them on the phone??? Bad advice! Then you'll be dreading having to face them even more. That would be like going through the ordeal twice. Guaranteed, if my daughter had done that, I would have been pissed!

Answer 4

Very gently because, first of all youre still their baby girl, even though you may not feel like it. I was 15, and scared, but what I did was be honest, and let them know what is happening. First if you are planning on having the child , then ask for their blessings. And let them know , that you understand that they want the best for you. But you need to follow your heart, and make the right decision for yourself and the baby. I was so sure that I was ready for a baby. But by the 8th month, I knew that I was so afraid, and didnt want to ruin this babys new life. As it turned out, I went to an adoption agency, and they gave me files of 3 familys that dearly wanted a baby, but couldnt have one. I chose a wonderful family , that could not have a child. Im now agrandmother of 2 beautiful children. And their mom was my second child. I knew at that time that I was ready to be a mom. Dont feel trapped because youre pregnant. Things are much better these days, programs to help you learn to care for a child. So sit down, with your parents and discuss all options. But be sure about your decision. it will make a difference in both your lives. Good luck sweet heart and god bless

Answer 5

There isn't an easy answer to this. I had to tell my parents when I was 16 so I know how hard it is.

First of all, only YOU know your parents. Do they know that you're sexually active? It might help to start with that. Sometimes it's even easier to just talk to your Mom first. Once they know you're sexually active then you can break it to her/them that you are pregnant and that you're scared and really need their support. Obviously you have some serious decision making to do. There are a lot of options out there right now. Your parents will be very upset at first and you have to expect that. They may even say things you don't want to hear, but you should expect that too. But then, once they calm down a bit and realise that this is reality, they'll become more rational about the whole thing. The whole point is, if you respect them, you do have to tell them. Don't hide it, you shouldn't have to deal with this on your own and your parents are your parents and are responsible for you so they deserve to know. I hope this helps you. Good luck!

Answer 6

If you are only 14, there are very specific things you should do immediately. First, tell someone you trust like a counselor at school or someone at a crisis pregnancy center. They can get you the help to make sure you are indeed pregnant then they can go with you to your parents. If you've already talked to someone, the most important thing you can do is go to them humbly. Tell them what you plan to do (parenting or considering adoption) and tell them what you and the baby's father plan to do. If your partner is more than three years older than you, you may have some legal issues to face. God's blessings on you.

Answer 7

Well, it sucks that you're in that situation, but it's better to tell them yourself now rather than wait until they figure it out from your belly pooching out or your morning sickness.

It's very, very hard to do, I know. I've never been in that specific kind of situation, so it's hard for me to know how to answer it, but I know that I would want to be told as soon as possible if I had a daughter in that situation so that I could help her figure out what to do.

They're likely to be very very very upset with you for a little while, but once they calm down, they'll be able to talk with you about what you want to do. The best thing you can do is to go to them with a plan for what you want, whether it be aborting the pregnancy, adopting the baby out (a closed adoption or an open adoption), or keeping the baby. Try to find a job that will hire a 14 year old mother if you're going to keep the baby, so that way they'll take you seriously, and you'll be able to help support your baby.

It's okay to be scared when you tell them. Believe me on that.

Good luck, sweetie.

Answer 8

It's probably best to sit your mum down and tell her, the longer you leave it, the worst it'll get...especially if you ever want an abortion. I am a pregnant teen but I know finacially and emotional I can have a child-- plus I have left school and got a good job. You're only 14 and you have your whole life in front of you..you can always wait a few years until you know your ready...I don't really know your situation fully but I'm sure your mum will help you but first you'll need to tell her. Anyway what ever you decide to do, I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 9

Hun,i have read through many of the answers.However,I must say you have to speak to them yourself.It is a scary situation to be in,especially that young.Although,you were old enough to have unprotected sex,so you must take responsibility for your actions.You must tell them face to face,sit down and tell them you need to talk.Explain to them that,you made a mistake and that you are pregnant.They may seem upset at first,or even mad.Honestly,they arent mad they are hurt and disappointed(Harsh,i know,but thats reality).Eventually,once this child gets here,they are going to spoil that baby like crazy!!Also,you need to decide on what you are prepared to do.Are you planning on keeping this child?Are you planning on putting it up for adoption?Does the father know?Is the father prepared to be in the childs life?This may seem very overwhelming to consider,but those are things that you must think about.You have to consider all options,and decide not whats best for you,not whats best for the father,but you must decide what is best for your baby.However,remember you have nine months to decide.I did not mention abortion,and i will explain why.I do not believe that it is an acceptable option,or even should be considered.I believe that a child deserves a life.There are familys out there,who long for a child to love.Yet,they cant concieve a child.They financially are able to support a child,they have all the love in the world for a child,yet cant have one of their own.So,you consider what is best for your baby,in your situation.Only you know that,no one can tell you any different.Do not allow no one to force you into any decision,it is your decision to make,along with the help of your familys and the fathers opinions.Ultimately you must be the one that makes the decision.Good luck,and it may be a hard decision.Either way,you can do it.There are mothers out there,who are young,and go to school everyday,and they still do it.It is hard,but it isnt impossible. I wish you the best.

Answer 10

Honey please ignore the rude comments from other people,you may be 14 but you are still a person with feelings so screw them especially COLLEEN O,it really angered me to see those types of comments directed at you.I am not saying younger teens should be sexually active but I remember what it was like to be 14 and I did alot of things at that age also,you are not a bad person even if you are pregnant,can you talk to your mom or dad easiest? Definetly make sure you are truly pregnant before you say anything.If it is easier to talk to your mom then do so alone before your father is present.I know my situation was that my mother was easier to talk too.If you cant talk to them then try a counselor at school or even a grandmother or friends mother.There is tons of help out there and you really will be okay.There are alot of assistance programs and never ever under any circumstances doubt yourself through this whole process.I got pregnant young too.Please feel free to message me if you want to talk more.

Answer 11

It depends on what you want for yourself and your baby. Do want to have the baby? Do you want to keep him/or her? Do you want to look into adoption? These are the questions I would look at so you are ready to answer and discuss them when you do go to your parents. If you are afraid of them forcing you to have an abortion I would wait until you have reached the end of your first trimester. But overall you need to decided what it is you want. You are pregnant and that is that it can not be changed but if you are afraid of how they will react you can always talk to a fiend you trust and have them by yourside when you tell your parents.
I wasn't as young as you when i had to make the choice but i was very afraid of telling my parents that I was goin to be a teenage unwed mother. I didn't have to worry about the abortion as my parents are strict catholics but I was afraid of what they would say and what they would try to make me do with the baby. After about 2 months of dealing with it on my own I got my best friend to go with me to the hospital, I got the first ultrasound of my baby boy and then I was ready to face my parents.
I got them together (my best friend right outside) and I said," Mom Daddy although I was careful I have become pregnant. Here is a pcture of your grand baby." From there there was a lot of crying and some yelling (mom not dad he figured it done we need to go from here) but we worked through it all. I worked hard on my schooling to keep my grades up and ge as far ahead as I could so that when the baby cam eI could take a few weeks off. We worked together to make the best of a not perfect situation.
I wish you and your baby all the luck in the world and if you need to talk more you can contact me I will try to be a support as much as possible.