why do most ladies say they need a real man but when a man is trying to know them and respect them the ladies dont want to even try to get to know them
2006-10-14 12:21:13 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have been single for many years now. I am still looking for a "Real Man". My definition of a "Real Man" is someone that says he is who he is, by being himself when we are getting to know each other. The definition is different for everyone depending on age and experience. Being yourself with everyone is the definition i would put.
2006-10-14 12:43:58 · answer #1 · answered by teenie1_66 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure how to answer this for you. Sure I look for a real man but many women have a different in what that is.So each woman may want something else.does that make sense? Me I want a man that works and wants to spend time with me not always with the guys. Or with his parents every weekend. I want someone to share my time with and hopefully we have the same things in common. Maybe because I was married for so long and had a pretty good marriage that I feel this way. I mean I have only dated a few men sense his death but he was a real man to me and I have not found anyone that comes close. But we had to work at it. I want to have fun and do things together. Understand each other and when we don't try to work it out so at least we are closer to a understanding of what we each want.
2006-10-14 19:37:33 · answer #2 · answered by liza 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a best friend who married a gentlemen after only knowing him a few months, and now their having alot of problems. Mostly things there learning about each other and would have already known had they been still courting one another. Anyway, the problems are so crazy that I feel she is subconsciously destroying the marriage cause she's afraid of a good thing. And my advise to her new husband has been: I know it's rough, but if you can just pray for strength to get thru this, it will be so worth it, a year or two from now. Women get scared from other relationships, and it effects so many facets of there life, and good hearted men have to become not only there boyfriends/husbands, but there father, Daddy ( cause there is a difference), best friend, etc. But were worth it, the unconditional love of a woman is priceless.
2006-10-14 19:36:38 · answer #3 · answered by NURSING FOR LIFE!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MRSPATPAT has very bad advice. She has no idea on what life should be about. Before she starts giving advice she should grow up a little.
Don't be too hard on all the ladies in general. You may have had some bad experiences but I'm sure the one that really matters will come along. It doesn't matter what kind of standards you set yourself up for. In the case of finding love..you shouldn't carry any standards..keep your eyes, heart and mind ..wide open.
2006-10-14 21:23:48 · answer #4 · answered by justwonderingwhatever 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The issue in question is the lady's definition of a "real man". If their definition is someone of strong character who will defend her and take care of her, then sensitivity and caring may not actually be part of the meaning. What I suggest is finding a woman who is looking for a "knight in shining armor", which more closely fits what you describe. Good luck.
2006-10-14 19:30:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not know about other women but when i think of a "real man" I think of someone I can trust, count on when I need them, enjoy spending time with, laugh and cry with, someone who is willing to put in the effort to get to know who I really am. I do not want someone who is going to use me a prise on their arm.
2006-10-14 19:29:34 · answer #6 · answered by Jazmine K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are such strange creatures arent we,I will try to explain it but we know stuff,we have that womans intuition thing and we pick up everything and have so much stuff in our heads even we cant sort it out,so my advice is dont be pushy or think with the wrong head,we hate that.we want to be a buddy and the better friend you are to us the closer we will get to you in all ways,hope that helped
2006-10-14 19:37:20 · answer #7 · answered by erica 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show them that you are a real man first then get to know them. You have to get there attention first
2006-10-14 19:23:59 · answer #8 · answered by cc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because its that whole nice guys finish last...and most women that want a real man dont realize what they got or had until it is gone. i know i was one of them and im glad i took the time to get to know him
2006-10-14 19:56:21 · answer #9 · answered by june 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because every woman's definition of a "real man" will vary. And then, some woman say it for lack of anything else to say, because they can't think of any thing original. There is no rhythm or reasoning behind any of us. :)
2006-10-14 19:27:27 · answer #10 · answered by smplyme132 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋