What do you do when you feel unappreciated by your husband and kids?

Question

I mean I cook, I help with homework, I get kids ready for school, I go to school, I do the girls hair, and I even give my husband what he wants, but I feel like it's not enough. Do anyone have any advice?

Answer 1

First, while your feelings are valid don't fall into a maryter (poor me) attitude or you will feel miserable. Secondly, what you do is change your thinking and put yourself first. This means doing the following: Get dressed first thing every morning so you feel beautiful (it will change your attitude and other's attitudes toward you); Set some time aside for just you (for bubble baths, walks, reading, the beauty parlor, museums, whatever you really like to do) and do these things either alone or with a friend; keep a gratitude journal (if you are in a thankful mood its catching); Thank youself for a job well done both verbally and with rewards (time to do what you love, the shirt you have wanted for weeks, etc.); if you are doing things for others do them for yourself as well (think I like a good meal so I'm going to cook a meal I love for myself), ask for appreciation (say "what do you say to the best mother in the world?" and coach them to say thank you and give them a hug), have a monthly family volunteer activity (to promote giving to others and being thankful), and thank your husband and children for the little things they do (it will get returned).

Answer 2

Define Unappreciated

Answer 3

I guess my question to you would be: what is it there ( the husband and kids) are doing to make you feel unappreciated. See the children don't know any better, and don't appreciate you until later in life, so you can just take that one on the chin, but your husband can surely show how much he appreciates your role in the house, marriage, and as his ''Help met''....that's Biblical for ya'll that DON'T read the Bible!!

Men sometimes inadvertently unappreciate there wives. It's not until the wife is sick, or for what ever reason out of the picture does the husband begin to appreciate the wife. Maybe Hubby needs a full day alone w/the ''Lil Blessings'' while you pamper yourself at the spa, or spend Hubby's money at your favorite store. I bet he'll appreciate you soooooo much more then.

God Bless you and your entire family.

Answer 4

I would have a 'sit-down' with my family and let them know how I feel because without communication, how can you blame them? Next I would make it clear what I expect from them (and I hope it isn't just about being praised for being so wonderful). If after all this, you still feel unappreciated, go on strike. Let them see what it's like without your support, hard work, caring and sweat. Don't cook, clean, help with homework or give into your husband's demands until things change. Let them know what you're doing. Don't play games. Wait until things change and then make sure things change for you too. That is, take care of your own needs too--you deserve it.

Answer 5

It takes 2 people to bring in enough money nowadays-- you need an education or a job in case something ever happens to your husband. You can work and be a good parent at the same time. Working or going to school to be able to get a decent job does not mean you are a bad parent- you make time for your kids and you will make your husband a lot happier if you work -- if you do not have your education- go back to school- you can take online college courses and find a job somewhere to bring money into the home. Your not working will cause problems in the home- your taking care of the kids does not bring in a paycheck and you can still be a loving and nurturing mother if you work. Get your education- get a career and be a good parent. I took criminal justice classes with people who were raising kids- working and going to school and they still found time to go to the football games- take the kids to karate- spend quality time with their kids. Your husband will resent you if you do not bring money into the home and I would bet that most men who have affairs have wives who do not have a job and the women they cheat with has a job. Get a career -- you want to be able to provide for your children if your husband dies tomorrow.

Answer 6

I live that everyday. and I don't know how to make it better. I cook clean for a family of five. I help with homework. I get the kids ready for school. Even get my hubby ready for work LOL LOL but I feel like I'm not doing enough. my husband has now started to take me out once a week to make me feel special.

Answer 7

Now I have an ex-husband!! What I did then and now with my 3 daughters is "stop doing" being there!! I actually go on strike and soon they take notice. I let them know my feelings upfront so they'll not be shocked when it comes to any type of reaction on my part.

I hope it all works out for you!!

Answer 8

Girl i know exactly how you feel about this i also have 3 boys and a husband and a houssehold it is very hard to keep up with all of and pleasing yourself sometimes can be very diffcult. But when i fet to feeling like you are I try to relax and make myself feel better about everything. or i tell my husband That we need a night out on the town. or i will treat myself to getting my nails done or my hair done. if you do something for yourself you will feel better about everything cause sometimes when you are a wife and a mother you will get lost somewhere in between everything. Please take care of your self. cause if your family dont have you they will loose everything

Answer 9

Don't take this as a joke, but think about getting in contact w/the tv show about swapping wives for a week. You will get paid if you don't jump ship and sure all in your family will be so grateful to have their mama back as the captain & queen of the house. Absence does make the heart grow fonder.

Answer 10

True appreciation comes from what you do not from how it is appreciated by those you choose to do for. Yes, it would be nice if you could be appreciated by them, but just cause they don't tell you in words they must show you? By the way they are developing well from your fine Mothering!
You should be PROUD of yourself!!! Look at what you are doing to make sure your children and family are operating well! You are the core of your family. Without you they wouldn't be who they are today. You need to appreciate and love yourself for being the wonderful attentive Mother that you are!!!
God Bless you Mother, I appreciate you for rasing your children in a good and loving home. I wish there were more like you!