First off, i am not looking for attention or anything of the sort.... I have always been distant from people. Not just certain people, but everyone..even friends and family. I've had 3 serious relationships with girls, and they all broke up with me because apparantly I wouldnt let them see who I really am. But I dont even know who I am. People say that i need to become my own person. But how?
2006-10-14 12:09:38 · 12 answers · asked by ironfists44 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Wow, this is an interesting question. Do you feel a need to be alone? Do you enjoy being alone and simply dislike the company of other people? Your past loves obviously felt cheated by you, they obviously felt like you were giving about 70% of yourself to them (that'll never work). You need to ask yourself why you never opened up your most intimate self to them? What were you scared of? Everyone who wants to be loved has to open themselves up to the spectre of being hurt. Something may've happened in your early childhood that has caused this huge, thick wall to be built up around yourself. You need to do some serious soul searching, talk to a therapist perhaps?
Good luck . . .
2006-10-14 12:12:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are already your own person but they cannot see it. Dont worry about it. Its because you are "a closed book" to them They cant figure you out. Not everyone wants to be figured out though.The main thing is-are you happy? If you are, thats great, if you arent, then you need to tell people what you are thinking and feeling a little more so that they can get to know you better.Its difficult to have a relationship with someone who wont bare their soul a little, as it shows a lack of trust to the other person in the relationship. Maybe you prefer to be alone. Think about what you want.
2006-10-14 12:14:13 · answer #2 · answered by angeldust 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without offending, just be you. Go where you want. Do what you want. Watch what you want, etc. Seek until you find. But it sounds deeper than that. Even though you don't know who you are , are you happy with who you are ? Do you have a chip on your shoulder ? Do you keep people distant because your afraid of what they might find ? I don't know . Show a little bit of love and you will surprised at what comes back at you. You really need to share your life. Let someone in. I don't believe it's healthy to keep all to yourself.
2006-10-14 12:18:47 · answer #3 · answered by rock d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why must there be a label or definition? Just BE yourself, and try communicating more with friends and relationships. Being the "mystery guy" is not what it's cracked up to be, and you acting mysterious is most of your problem, you probably don't realize it, but you love being mysterious to people, but now you don't "know" how to let people "see" you. Just knock off the drama and be a person, that's it.
2006-10-14 12:13:58 · answer #4 · answered by Life after 45 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The simplest answer is to do what makes you happy, and make sure you're doing it as often as possible. Even your job should be something that you enjoy, as much as one can enjoy a job, anyway. Then, you will hopefully meet girls who enjoy the same things, and they'll already have an idea of who the real you is. And by pursuing happiness for yourself, you'll being to discover who you are too.
2006-10-14 12:15:35 · answer #5 · answered by James L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, try being honest with yourself!! I know how you are feeling, because I experienced these emotions. too!! If you are living in a Comfort Zone out of fear and rejections....STOP! I got sick of living my life for everyone else. I was tired of being someone friend, mother, sister, aunt, lover, cook, cousin, neighbor and so on..... because it all came with some type of attachment!! I couldn't be myself, bc I was to busy being all for others. You have to love yourself!! Don't let people walk over you, don't let them talk to you any kind of way, learn to say NO and Mean it, make a Decision and Stand by It!! Others may not like it, but who cares? Some people don't like change, but they'll have to deal with it. I dated a guy who broke up with me because it had to Conform to how he's parents wanted him to be...he can't be his own Person and live his own life...that's a shame!
Don't let others tell you what you aren't capable of, because they are only trying to pull you down!!
2006-10-14 12:44:18 · answer #6 · answered by whatzup 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with being different. You are who you are. No matter what anybody else says, if you see no reason to make any changes, then you shouldn't unless you are hurting yourself or others. Make sure you are doing this for you for starters. Not to make others happy. If this is what you want, then try a counselor or maybe a life coach.
2006-10-14 12:32:12 · answer #7 · answered by candace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a even as far out of your acquaintances and do issues on my own. this grant you with time to imagine, imagine, imagine! existence isn't uncomplicated, notwithstanding the actual undeniable actuality that you already know you favor to be you exhibits intelligence and adulthood. seems in hardship-free words get you to this point in existence, no longer very far both. Smile at people, say hi, chuckle, love existence and folk will be attracted to you want a magnet see you later as you aren't to any extent further appearing fake.
2016-10-16 04:58:18 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, stay in your room privately for as long as you need to be. Think about everything you like to do, whatever you smile at. What makes you laugh? What's your favourite hobbie? What's your favourite food? What events do you enjoy? Why do you like it? How do you feel so and so acts.... You fill in the blanks!
2006-10-14 12:13:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who you are is every aspect of yourself....how you feel about things where you want to go in life and stuff like that....you have to find out your views on all that...it will help show you who you are.
2006-10-14 12:12:11 · answer #10 · answered by b_fab115 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋