How many female bestfriends can a married man have?

Question

My hubby has a lot of "close"female friends.I've only met one of them.She attended our wedding 7yrs ago and I have a lot of respect for her but what of the others?He has never introduced them to me but always seem to be busy doing something for them

Answer 1

How close? E-mails, phone calls, visits? You are married to one cold egotistical dude, who could care less about your feelings. They only close "best" friend he should have is you.

Answer 2

My Common law hubby also wants to have female friends he finds attractive, and he wants to hang out with them alone!! He thinks this is acceptable, but I have really heard enough people tell me that its not now..and i believe it.

I cant pack up and leave because we have a six week old daughter together, and ill tough it out for a couple years for her sake and my sake .... but I guess if he wants to keep his options open so will I.

I dont believe there is any love in a relationship where one will not respect the other, and needs to find friendships with attractive females outside of the relationship because it is what makes him happy...I guess I dont. When I recover from this I hope to never fall back into it again. Good Luck.

And I hate to say it, but the very fact that you havent met these close friends is a HUGE indication that something is going on! Seriously do some investigating if you have the balls....(not to sound hypocritical) and you may not like what you see.

Answer 3

How many others?

I'm sorry JUSEve, but I personally do not believe that men and women can be really good friends....as there must be a small amount of attraction for them to become friends to begin with. After some time whatever has kept there friendship going may develop into a bigger, more mutual attraction that may at some point become physical. I would not feel comfortable if my husband had close friendships with the opposite sex and visa/versa. However, he sounds like a nice guy who likes to help out if asked, but he should introduce you to his friends - female or male.

How would he feel if you had several 'close' male friends who you had meetings with who was never introduced to????? I think he would not aprove!

Answer 4

My hubby would never have any close female friends, especially ones I have never met. I am and always will be his best female friend, that's why he married me. Instead of you having respect for this one certain female, maybe you should demand respect from your husband. I am sure you have imagined he was having an affair, because that is what I'd be thinking. I'd be telling him to kiss your *** and if he likes doing so much with these another women, then get his bags and tell him to move in with one of them.

Answer 5

I guess as many as he wants as long as it doesn't interfere with the marriage. I say a married man can have a female b/f but the wife has to know her and like her and trust her. Anymore than two would be real time consuming and a hassle for just a friend. Just my opinion. Good luck.

Answer 6

The only female best friend a man should have is his wife. I had to learn that the hard way. I had a close female friend and she also had a husband. She wanted to go everywhere we went . I started noticing she and my hubby were getting very close and when i would ask him he would say they were just friends and then after 24 years of marriage my hubby fell in love with her and i found out they had been having a 2 year affair and my hubby told me he loved both of us .He had spent thousands of dollars of our savings account on her and she brought all the jewelry to my house and showed me what he had bought her. Best friends beware with the one i had who needs enemy's.

Answer 7

I agree with everyone else, you should be his best friend, but not to appear ignorant I have to say a man has as many as he needs to support his marriage and understand you. Ask him if its serious and see what he says, friends don't get serious. Its nice that you are keeping an open mind, but trust does not mean non suspicious or naive. Get it on the table and talk, personally I don't agree with male and females being friends I think it's a non possibility and have always said they can't, something gets in the way.

Answer 8

Honestly, I think it's a bit disrespectful that your husband hasn't at least introduced you to his friends--female or otherwise. It seems to me that he should be proud of you and want to include you in his friendships.

My husband and I share our friends--male and female. And, when one of our friends gets a new guy/girl in their lives; we made sure to make them feel welcome as well. That way the worries you are experiencing just don't happen. And, when the odd occurrence happens that one of us is doing something with an opposite-gender mate without the other, the one not there feels safe and confident... everything above-board; it's best for the relationship.

Answer 9

I don't think we should have 'close' friends of the opposite sex, especially not if our partner doesn't know them. I used to have lots of special men friends but I know that however much I protested innocence, they were just for gratifying my ego.....I got into a lot of messes over them. Now I don't have male 'friends,' just men I know through church, and I never ever spend time alone with other men. I expect the same from my husband, although he doesn't quite see it the same as me.....

Answer 10

Married men shouldn't have female best friends. Yeah, he can have women friends at work - but if he associates with them outside of work and you're not invited, that's a huge problem. My hubby doesn't hang out with anyone but me and our families - he prefers it that way.

Answer 11

None...you are supposed to be his ONLY best female friend. You are his wife, what other women does he need in his life besides you, his mother, and siblings if he has any. Let's get some wisdom, sweetie, you need to really be careful of his other "friends", he could be doing something sneaky. Don't be afraid to question your husband. Do what you gotta do.