ok....so we're at the football game walking around talking. i popped up with a question: Who do you like? and (oddly enough) he said that he likes me. me! but i dont think its right for me to like him because one of my closest friends likes him a lot and we have this deal where we wont go out with someone that the other has dated or likes. what am i supposed to do. yeah, i know that their are other guys, but not like him. should i tell him that i like him too? is it worth risking our friendship?
2006-10-14 12:00:38 · 16 answers · asked by Socastee_Angel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Go back to your friend and tell her what happened.
Let her know that you are thinking about pursuing the relationship, but wanted to see how she felt.
If she says ok, then go for it.
If she says no, then either keep your agreement and your friend and let go of that boy as a boyfriend .. .or break your agreement, lose your friend, and pursue the boy as a boyfriend.
2006-10-14 12:03:33 · answer #1 · answered by a_blue_grey_mist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not worth risking your friendship, and for as young as I think you might be (high school); this is a great question. I think you should be loyal to your friend. Give it just a little time, and don't say anything to your friend (because it will hurt her pretty bad), however, you have to be honest with yourself, and with the guy. With that said, talk to your friend again, about your agreement with her on this. Don't let anything slip about this guy, and then ask her what she would do if it were her. That will put the ball in her court, and she might solve the problem for you. Good luck with this... It happens a lot. Take care! I also want to add that I admire your personality to want to be loyal to your friend... it's hard to find good honest relationships anymore. Good for you.
2006-10-14 19:07:20 · answer #2 · answered by me2007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch. Thats a rough situation, I think you have to weigh how much you like him and weather or not your willing to take your chances. Cuz if you like him and he likes you plus your firends are all good indicators of a good relaitonship. I think you need to confront your friend, not in a obvious blunt sorta way but yea you might want to ask her how deep her feelings for this guy are and how uncomofortable it would for her to see you two together. Depending on those answers and how you feel about this guy you should decide how big of a risk your willing to take.
I hope this helps!
2006-10-14 19:07:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well like they say you have to decide whether or not you want to risk your friendship or say that you like him. It's up to you to decide. I would not tell him that you like him because personally I think that a friendship is more important than a guy. That is my opinion. I'm not saying that you have chose, but just think about it. Remember chose what you think is much better for you.
2006-10-14 20:16:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats more important your friendship or your relationship? And think about it boys come and go but friends stay with you (only the really good ones)
2006-10-14 19:16:06 · answer #5 · answered by sunshine&rainbows 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no guy is worht a friendship...but then again how close r u with this gurl?ho much does ur friend like him? u have to look at the lil things too...
but wat i can say is just follow ur heart if u think this guy can make u happy and u r for each other than go for it....
or try to talk to ur friend...abt the situation...hope i helped
2006-10-14 19:03:42 · answer #6 · answered by carol h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe u should decide whether the guy u like is more important or ur friend...or u could try to talk to both of them nad tell each one of them ur true feelings...hopefully either ur guy-friend or ur girlfriend would try to understand....personally i would guy for the guy if he's hot (lol...jk) but its all up to u and u should do wat u feel rite. maybe ur friend will let u break the little promise u had over dating guys ur friends like......hope that helps and good luck
2006-10-14 19:04:38 · answer #7 · answered by raychs999 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Phew - it sure is hard growing up, isn't it?
problems, problems.
One day, your problems will be a little different.
Such as how to pay the mortgage or how to feed your three kids.
Enjoy your problems now while you can.
2006-10-14 19:04:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u like him u like him. and u cant help that. it not ur fault . and the only bad thing is if u like him and u said u didnt just for her. if she is really ur friend she will understand
2006-10-14 19:02:28 · answer #9 · answered by EMS cheerleader 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all, how close are you and your freind? Secondly, you should either tell him how you feel, then tell him about you and your freinds pact, I am sure he will understand....or you can just date him behind your freinds back, its your choice....god luck!!!
2006-10-14 19:03:46 · answer #10 · answered by latin~ma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋