For instance how you thought he may feel about the relationship is not the way he feels your feelings are more serious than his he starts to care more when you start to act like it doesn't hurt but really it does because he doesn't pay attention to you until he wants to what do i do?
2006-10-14 11:55:10 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
U need to communicate your feelings to him. He's not a mind reader and he doesn't know that you're hurt and disappointed unless u tell him.
2006-10-14 11:58:55 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is not watching porn or cheating on you, the problem is certainly one of ignorance. Men and women have a different approach to life. Men are goal oriented. They concentrate on what they want to achieve and the rest of the world is placed on hold. Women are process oriented. They check everything out along the way and many times do not achieve their goal or take too long.
In a marriage there must be understanding of emotions, assets, and family relations. Every woman needs her attention. Many men are ignorant to this fact. You need to talk to him and tell him that you feel left out, ignored, cheated, and unimportant. And if he doesn't shape up something is going to change. After all, didn't he marry you to spend time with you?
Mr. M on "hurt and disappointed."
2006-10-14 12:02:44 · answer #2 · answered by Humberto M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit him down and do some straight talking otherwise things are going to get much worse. You're already hurting and keeping it to yourself..trust me..you may think you're handling things..dealing with them even..but sooner or later your true feelings will out and you'll be surrounded with debris you can't fix and he can't handle. Too bad if he can't deal with grown up things like emotions. If you feel unable to be honest with him then your relationship may already be in trouble. If he's ignoring you etc then what's to lose by redeeming some of your own self esteem and meeting the problem head on. What's to lose? and there's everything to gain in that you'll find out where you really stand and you're not placing your life in his hands to do with as he wants. You have worth and if he can't hack it then you can at least make a decision based on the full knowledge that you did all you could to try to save your relationship. If he's not interested in listening then you shouldn't really want to be with him anymore. Very best of luck in whatever you decide to do x
2006-10-14 12:08:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of reasons why your expectations are different from your husband's. How long have you been married for?
Men's Heart-mouth-brain connection is very different from a woman's. Often times they are uncomfortable discussing their feelings or have trouble saying how they feel. He might be intimidated by your stronger emotions and only feel it is safe to connect with you when things have settled down.
If you are asking how he feels about your relationship a lot, don't. Guys are happy when you are happy, if you are anxious and worried all the time, he will be too.
Find someone to talk to who supports your marriage, find a person who is happy being married, and talk to them.
Do Not talk to single people about your marriage.
Find people who have been married a long time - who have been through ups and downs and who will encourage your commitment to each other.
Do not find someone who will pick sides, and gang up on each other.
Hope that helps.
2006-10-14 12:07:32 · answer #4 · answered by alidansma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me they are all very diverse (properly when I did have an important different) Love takes many varieties and has many stages. i believe the love we sense for our children is between the interior maximum and is likewise an unconditional variety of love. or in my international it is, wager it relies upon on the man. Ive seen females do loopy issues for the love of a guy without regards to her children. the picture of the love I somewhat have for my mom, Father, and Brother is unconditional.. lets argue, butt heads, yet we continually snigger and forgive. perhaps I in basic terms havent discovered the guy that i visit somewhat love unconditionally? or is it even conceivable? i'm so sorry.. dang i'm gonna cry back. Wow i'm a wimp x 10 ((((((Frenzy)))))) Cinn =)
2016-12-04 20:15:11 · answer #5 · answered by friedman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marriage is give an take honey, even with thier terrible mood swings. maybe playing hard to get turns him on? so play the game and watch him prr like a kitten and rub up against your leg.
2006-10-14 12:12:01 · answer #6 · answered by kierstead 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want keep your life up to date you must do something.
That's what I hate about marriage is like life coffin but not lacked yet.
2006-10-14 11:59:47 · answer #7 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i was patient (love is patient, it is said) until she wanted a divorce ( and i was still patient) then she got one.
ya know what.
Patience pay off!
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2006-10-14 11:58:58 · answer #8 · answered by DM 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to shape up or ship out!
2006-10-14 12:00:35 · answer #9 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him
2006-10-14 11:56:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋