2006-10-14 11:39:48 · 17 answers · asked by MOM 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No one is going to beat a path to your door. You have to put the goods on the market, let the "customers" see the goods, and sell them...nothing different here than in business...and that is what this is...a business.
You are the same person you were ...perhaps wiser with age... before all this happened. .. So act like it!
Volunteer to work at male-oriented things...like Golfing charity events. Learn to dance ball room...you would not believe how many single males go to dance and have no one to dance with. Get a great looking dog...(Standard Poodles in Black are great accessories, go with any outfit) and walk the dog in the more popular spots in town...you will be amazed at what that kind of bait will get you! Always have a smile on...I find it very difficult to even say hi to women on the street, they never smile back and usually ignore me..and I am good looking. I think they are so buried in the idea that all men are rapists that they lose sight of what is going on. (It never hurts to carry Mace in your purse).
In general, tell your friends, tell your whatevers that you are on the market.
You can always go the Interenet route, but have no idea how good that is. My brother met his great wife there, so perhaps you willl find a pearl in with all the sow's ears. But be prepared for a lot of sow's ears. You will get a lot of responses (new kid on the site thing), but don't let it go to your head...all new faces get deluged at first. Good luck)
2006-10-14 11:57:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you need to do is tell everyone that you know that you are ready to start dating again. Friends and family will be setting you up on dates before you know it.
Make sure when you are out, even if it is at the grocery store, make sure you make eye contact with attractive men as often as you can. Try bookstores and try to strike up a conversation. Flirting will get you as many dates as you want and need.
Try computer dating as a last resort.
Coming off of a divorce can be a scary but exciting time all the same. Work it girl!
2006-10-14 11:47:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay best way is to find ANY activity or sport to get into. So whether it's a swimming, dancing, running, reading, computing or a gym club it does not really matter so long as you have SOME interest in it. The important thing is you are putting yourself in a real social situation where you will meet new people. If you feel shy take a friend along and do it as a new venture. Approach it as a bit of fun and before you know it you'll be expanding your social circle and from there - who knows!?
2006-10-14 12:00:58 · answer #3 · answered by Insighter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After a year, I presume you have been able to do your grief/anger work. Thank you for that courtesy. You have not only affirmed yourself as a person of worth, you have not inflicted any misdirected anger at others. Kudos and well done.
A lot depends on what you are looking for - I encourage you to look for similar interest. So, where/how is that interest pursued?
If you are passionate about Nascar, go to a race, check out the videos, etc. Outdoors, join a hiking club. Your local library probably has a bulletin board filled w/ posters of clubs, reading groups and the like. Many LOCAL papers carry a weekly/monthly section of activities.
Other haunts of the gender include bowling allies, Y, church, community choirs, community groups Lions etc, and both gender sports teams (volleyball for winter).
2006-10-14 15:54:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask around your friends, and see if you can't set up some double dating, for a dinner, or movie, or some social event.
After being out of the dating scene for a bit, it's best just dipping your toe in, until you get back into the swing of things.
Look around, where you work, see if there is anyone there, that might work out. Maybe just on a friendly outing to begin with. Nothing romantic.
Check out, night classes, church, volunteering, to meet other people. The more people or men you meet, the better your chances of being asked out on a date.
2006-10-14 11:45:22 · answer #5 · answered by johnb693 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take yourself out into the world, with a smile.
Go to places that you enjoy. Sort of like swimming, you have not forgotten how, you just need to jump in and listen to your inner voice when it bleeps out a warning about some one.
2006-10-14 11:43:43 · answer #6 · answered by STeel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask that question on here and get loads of answers from guys who are pretending that they are trying to help when all they really want is a date
2006-10-14 11:48:16 · answer #7 · answered by Steve UK 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of options. You can try singles and social groups like meetup.com to find groups in your area. They even have groups for divorcees.
You can try online dating (match.com, cupid.com) and also speed dating (8minutedates.com, predating.com) or you can just go out with friends.
2006-10-14 11:46:40 · answer #8 · answered by -J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have kids under 18, don't start dating. They've been through enough. It's time for you to NOT be selfish and give them a good home, not for you to go out man hunting. Just be their mom.
If you have no kids, or they're all gone from home, do as you please.
2006-10-14 15:04:05 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out with friends and co workers to places or just some of your family to places where you can meet people.
2006-10-14 11:43:34 · answer #10 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋