There's a co-worker who seems to try to make me look bad or dumb to others...?

Question

and I think this because when she comes to me with a question about something I did or that she thinks I didn't do...she always speaks very loudly so that my boss will hear, I believe. Most times, I show her that she's wrong or show her something in the computer that she couldn't find herself and I do it politely even though she's trying to make it seem like I don't know what I'm doing. Why would she do this ? I don't know...but I have had my guard up with her since a short time after I began working there because I was just minding my own business and she blurted out all of a sudden that I must have pulled in my parking space that morning in a hurry because I pulled too close to the fence. She thought that was just the funniest thing and said this in front of several people and I was slightly embarrassed. I was new there and trying to prove myself on the job (which is a temp to perm job) and why did she feel the need to point that stuff out ? I don't do this to people. What to do ?

I think people that act like this only do it to make themselves look better and I'm tired of putting up with this kind of behavior. I've tried to be friendly with her and every time I do, soon after she all of a sudden comes to me talking loud and rudely and makes a huge scene and deal out of things and it's embarrassing and I hope my boss catches on to her attitude and insecurites. She's also late and out a good bit but I'm early or on time and haven't been out yet on the job. She thinks I have an attitude with her because I ignore her now unless it's about business. I think she's just mad whenever I prove her wrong when she thinks she's got something on me or thinks she's caught me in a mistake. I surely make mistakes but 9 times out of 10, I prove her wrong. She even claims that I "throw things at her" and I asked what she means by this and she says that I throw papers roughly in her tray and this is a flat-out lie. I always gently place papers in her tray. What to do ???

Answer 1

This woman is very insecure and for some reason you threaten her. It could be that she doesn't feel competant with her job or people skills. Fear is behind all of this. You just might be more attractive or prettier than she is and she fears you will get more attention than her which will result in more opportunities, for you. Who knows?

There's not much you can do now until you get on permanently, if this is really what you want. Her behavior and attitude towards you are very hostile and I can tell you straight out, they just wouldn't be tolerated at all where I work.

You might try having a little sit-down chat with your immediate supervisor or manager and tell her/him what is going on and how it is putting a "damper" on your new experience at a job you really are excited about in everyway except for this one issue. You really like and value this opportunity and you so want to prove yourself, but this woman's shenanigans are out-of-line, over-the-top, and all you want is to be free to do your best and be part of the team. Ask for suggestions on what you could do positively to have a good working relationship with this coworker.

Answer 2

Quit having dealings with her. She is for some reason jealous of you. (Been there) A few well placed nails and roofing tacks in the parking lot would give her something to think about after harassing you. Or a key drawn down the side away from view. If you were local , I'd send a couple of the boys over to counsel her. If all else fails, get a copy of company policies from Human Resources Dept and have her charged with harassment. There are more forms of it than sexual. Good luck !

Answer 3

Most times if co-workers are constantly poniting out your flaws or making a big deal if you make a mistake they are threatened by you. This has happend to me many times. They see that you are doing a good job and it makes them look bad when you know more then they do. Anytime you make a mistake, you bet they will be shouting it out loud and clear. Just continue doing a great job and don't even let that person get to you. Your boss will see that you are an asset and won't even listen to the ridicule your co-worker throws your way.

Answer 4

What you are experiencing is called "bullying", and it's a real problem in the workplace. Being nice to the person doesn't work. There's a great Web-site on this topic. I suggest that you read it, and arm yourself to do battle.

http://www.bullyonline.org/

http://www.ljpowers.com/The_Serial_Bully.doc

http://www.ccohs.ca/oshanswers/psychosocial/bullying.html

Answer 5

you ought to attend to conceited and supercilious human beings the way they take care of you. So I say u improve some balls and mouth them and probably flow severe and initiate ******* with them mentally

Answer 6

You should jump on her ***