I'm 26 weeks pregnant and the babys father isnt around much. He finally stopped by the other night after 2 months of not seeing him. Before he wouldnt talk about the baby and got the deer in the headlights look when i did. He seemed to be different this time. I tried not to talk too much about it in fear that it would send him running. He actually didnt mind me talking about it and he even smiled. It has been killing me him not being around and not knowing what he is planning to do about this baby. Is it too soon to ask him or wait til i get closer to my due date?
2006-10-14 11:10:44 · 21 answers · asked by I love my baby boy!! 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
YOU ARE 26 WEEKS PREGNANT WITH HIS BABY!!! When were you planning on asking him? You definitely need to ask him if he is going to be a part of this baby's life both physically and monetarily. Please don't wait any longer.
2006-10-14 11:19:55 · answer #1 · answered by sclay95843 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to intrude ladies, but i saw baby's father and said "That's me". Iread ques and know that many guys (I can only use 'men' for the ones who man up and take part of the new kid's life. I divorced long ago, had kids (4&8 at the time), marriage was a wash, broke my heart to leave my kids, gave them the house, the car, all savings, set up $support, clothing $, college fund, (i didn't have a lot of $ then, but every cent I could get went for them. I lived in a dump for 12 yrs, did'nt have too much $ to play with, (Now they are both successful& married) I slept very well all those years, knowing in the eyes of my kids, thier Dad was a man they could count on to always be there for them. Still am. Any man who fathers a child and walks away is a selfish coward. Remember, hon, if he walks away, ask yourself; do you want your kids to have that kind of person in thier life?? just my thoughts, best to you and your baby---R
2006-10-15 17:28:54 · answer #2 · answered by Raptor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and let him know that you feel as if he doesn't care about you. Tell him that you are now 26 wks and would like to make things clear with him about the situation you are in. Also, ask him exactly what you expect from him and what he should expect from you. Before you do this make sure you have his social security number and birth date ready. If he still acts like a coward let him know that you will be filing for child support! And even if you think that you don't need him or need his money do it anyway, he's a coward!!
2006-10-14 11:52:05 · answer #3 · answered by lady93534 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not have to tip toe around this subject with your man. This SHOULD be a joyous time for the both of you and he's being a big baby. Why should he get to pop in and out of this pregnancy when you cannot?? Like you're not scared too??
Lay all the cards on the table and DO NOT allow him to be so wishy washy about it. Be firm. Either he is committed to this family or he is not. Either way he's going to have to take responsibility for his actions (child support) So, just don't let him keep popping in and out of the relationship when he feels like it. Be strong!!!
2006-10-14 13:16:30 · answer #4 · answered by Georgia Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with yourself now. This will allow you to accept the fact that you are already a single parent. If you have this type of mind set, then you can be strong for you and your baby. This way you may be presently surprised if he follows thru with anything. Yes, you could talk to him about it but he may tell you what you want hear. Just keep in mind that he has shown different by his actions. Your heart has already answered what your not wanting to except. Good luck and best wishes mommy to be. Blessings are with you.
2006-10-14 11:29:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ask now. You didn't make the baby on your own and half the responsibility is his. It is stressful enough for you at the moment without this worry. Bloody men. Tell him to behave like a man and not a 5 year old child. At the very least he will need to pay child support.
2006-10-14 11:18:46 · answer #6 · answered by Caroline 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOu should go ahead and ask him now. Men get that deer hit in the headlight thing often..My husband still looks like that at me and we are due next week. You deserve answers. Always remember to love and respect yourself first.
2006-10-14 13:56:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey,you have every right to know what he plans on doing about soporting you two!Ask him know!he is the father,it takes two.he has to grow up and stop feeling sorry for himself and think about this child he helped make!wether he wants to be withyou or not is a different story,but he does have to take responablity for the child use have coming,confront him now dear,don,t wait any longer,you waited to long as is,to hell with he,s feelings,what about yours and the babys?!Good Luck,Hollywood
2006-10-14 11:24:16 · answer #8 · answered by hollywood 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him now thats rediclious. You deserve to know and he should be helping you get ready for the baby. I am 29 weeks and my baby has everything already. That baby could come at 32 weeks, It's possible. ASk him strait out. you need to know if you can count on him or not. He was scared at firts but needs to get over it. Just like you. Your not able to walk away why make it easy for him to.
2006-10-14 11:23:30 · answer #9 · answered by simbah000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him now! You have a right to know whether he will be in the baby's and (your) life. The answer will help you prepare emotionally for when your baby is born. There's also the issue with child support. So yes ask now
2006-10-14 11:19:45 · answer #10 · answered by Allison*Renee 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋