Disclaimer: Please, please, keep an open mind.
Well, I need the drive and motivation because I'm really at a place where I need to be more active, both physically and mentally. I get recurring thoughts of what I should do and think of what I want to do, but at the same time, I can't for some reason.
Don't get me wrong, I don't think it's laziness, it's something more psychological. It seems painful when I even think of reading a book I know I want to read, or going to a place where I really want to go. Please keep an open mind, this isn't exactly the most easiest thing to explain.
So where is my drive and/or my motivation that I clearly need? I'm really suffering, and I need to get out of this hole I'm in.
2006-10-14 10:42:24 · 7 answers · asked by NereidoftheBlue 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
PS, Another contributing factor to my slothness, if you may, is that I have no people to motivate me. No friends, no family. I have a dog, but that's all. So, when answering, please keep this in mind. And again, please, please, please keep an open mind.
2006-10-14 10:56:17 · update #1
It is called a prison mentality. It comes from being raised in a bad home enviornemnt and being told what to do to such an extreme that you had your drive and will broken and your only means of survival was to shut down.
It also comes from fear of dissapproval, fear of failure, fear of commitment... all of these as a result to one extreme or another of all of the above.
If I am off... Then it might just be fear in general. Maybe it wasn't caused by an overbearing violent adult influence, but it stems from fear either way. Laziness, shyness, stupidity, clumsiness, all of these things are outward manefestations of an inner turmoil, a counterproductive voice in your head that reminds you not to try so that you don't get hurt if you do...
It's kind of like that Pot commercial where the three guys spent all that time on Timmys couch. No, no one got hurt... but no one moved at all to find out either way. Drug addiction is also a by product of a crap upbringing and another excuse for not being motivated to go out and seize the day!
A lack of motivation is just fear. The only way to kill it is to face it and learn to love the unknown.
and attitude adjustment would help too! Don't beg sweet... it makes you look like a mark and the kinds of people who feed on people like you will never stop hurting you just because you let them... For NO other reason!
2006-10-14 12:01:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your still functional in terms of paying the bills and living up to life's basic responsiblities I don't see a lack of motivation as a problem at all. Last year I was super motived, got a big promotion. Everything was going honky dory until I crashed both mentally and phyiscally. The physical symptoms are still with me and are cause for concern but mentally I've gone back to my old job (doing well at it) spending more time with my wife and son. Started reading books for my enjoyment again. Listen to music. Took up photograpgy again. Generally I've been feeling a lot happier. I not motivated to do more than what i'm doing and I'm happy that way.
Not everyone cab be number one. I sure as hell don't want to have that target sign on my back.
Hope this helped.
Ciao
Elio
2006-10-14 10:55:04 · answer #2 · answered by St.Anger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same way you do, I lost my father when I was 4yrs old and my mother has never really been around, where I had seperation anxiety most of my life I grew up to where I didnt really want to be social it kinda hurt and made me feel bad and the same about close relationships, yes I would love to have them and some days I do but most of the time I find myself alone with my dog or taking up with one other person and spending all my time and attention towards them. I have goals and dreams, I am intellegent, I have been tested for mental disorders and I have none atm I had my iq tested I am 10pts higher then avg. I will constantly think of how I could do things but constantly dont do them this includes going to college, going to work etc.. I dont have anyone pushing me and I wish I did, My mom doesnt care what I do and really no one else does, If you want add me to msger we can talk sometime you remind me of me.
oh yeh i dont know if you are into online games but i am.. I play World of Warcraft sometimes its a nice break from the world for those days you want to stay inside and relax and be alone but still get bored and want to talk to other people and stay entertained. I play on the Khaz Modan server horde side username Charlene if you want to add me :) btw I am 19 a lot of different ages play this game.
2006-10-14 15:18:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ha, I've gotten this a lot recently. I've been reading a lot and "overload on thinking." I don't have anyone that understands this "laziness" or "lack of motivation" I just feel like I want to crawl into a hole with a bunch of music, food and books and Think. I don't want to have to do the pointless mundane crap of school and just life in general. But saying this people see it as negative, I just feel like I want to bum around and figure things out. I hate having to fake being happy just to get through the day and so people won't worry.
Motivation for me is just having hope. I feel depressed about some things, excited about others and to the point where I want to just mellow out and forget about everything.
I keep motivation by thinking things have to get better. And if they don't, I know there's always going to be an end anyway. Besides, would you rather want to get through today sad and dreary, or look forward for tomorrow, bright and cheery? (haha sorry...trying to rhyme here....eh that sucks)
2006-10-14 11:06:10 · answer #4 · answered by Emily S 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well there's many forms of motivation. One could be watching videos of gymnasts or bodybuilders. They have physical strength that people can admire or appreciate. Or you could go buy a poster of your favorite model/actress/etc. and put her up on your wall, strive to be a better person. Go work out with some friends. It will allow you to have a form of competitiveness, kind of like a game to keep the motivation flowing.
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I would still stick to watching videos online until you find something fun to do. YouTube.com is a great place to start.
If you want to find some fun things to train for use some of these keywords on YouTube.
"Bboy Junior"
"Rianu"
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y-73eJkeOmI
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Or maybe you could just keep doing what you're doing and you'll just have an unexpected "awakening" one of these days. This could most likely be the case. I've been there before.
2006-10-14 10:51:37 · answer #5 · answered by djl3e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So do I to be trouble-free, with me it style of feels to come back in waves i visit be postive and inspired and so on for some weeks then i could have a down for each week whilst i'm bored to death and sense like i'm getting nowhere and there is not any think approximately something, i do no longer think of every person could be continually inspired all of us have our united statesand downs, there is not any longer something incorrect with that. continually think of of the bigger photograph and undergo in ideas how briskly existence can substitute no longer alsways for the excellent admittedly. do no longer set your self impossible aims as in case you may no longer gain them then you definately will continually sense such as you have failed in some way. I heard a saying the different day "artwork for what you want and pray for what want" even however are not non secular it did make sense. x don't be to perplexing on your self and don't diploma your fulfillment via fabric posessions or against different peoples achievements.
2016-10-19 09:53:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry my mind's open and i've felt like this before too so i know wat you mean you feel like you just don't want to do things. if you've smoked weed it's kinda the effect it has. You could be depressed especially since you're all alone, one time i ididn't have friends niether, and it really hurt like no other mother obviously you either don't really want to do these things or you're afraid of doing them so you don't want or maybe you just need a kick in your life to get you started. try your hardest and find some good friends, if this feeling doesn't go away talk to ur parents about seeing a doctor because they can really help, they helped me anyways. and just remeber someone out there does care about you and want you to succeed which that person is me take care and feel free to message me your friend
2006-10-14 11:06:10 · answer #7 · answered by good advice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋