whould you date some one who might be HIV positive?

Question

Serious question yal you meet a girl go on your first date over dinner she tells you she could be HIV positive she has been tested but the results arent back and even if the test says no she two more two take over a year period.You know if you have sex one time and that condom breaks you might be screwed.But atleast she had enough guts to be open with you and not let you find out the hard way she is a good girl who messed aroun with a bad dude who never told her she had to find out from some other person then he later on told her.She told you her biggest fear is being alone because she thinks know one will want to be with her if she is.On the other hand you got a baby you want to see grow.Ya'll help on this one please seriouse people only

Answer 1

SAFE SEX! If you truly have feelings for this person, HIV should not stop you from having a relationship. Educate yourself on HIV and what precautions you should take.

Answer 2

1) Have you ever had a condom break? If so, what did you do wrong that it broke? Don't do it again.
2) The tests are 93% accurate. IF it has been 14 weeks or more since the time she MAY have contracted HIV, then she can do another test NOW. She does not need to wait. IF it is negative, that reduces the chances of her having HIV to less than 1/2 %. IF she really wants to make sure, ONE more test negative ... she is free of the disease.
3) She sounds like an honest, put it on the table kind of woman... that in itself is a rarity, and certainly a reason to not step back in haste. HIV is only ONE sexually transmitted disease. She should go back, get tested for HIV, Hep C, and Herpes....just to play it safe. IF she has been lucky, then why would you not want to date her? IT is one thing to be cautious, and we all should be very cautious, but it is another to throw away opportunity when it knocks.
4) I do not know where she got the idea that it takes a year to get the final news about HIV...not true. Just do as I have suggested, and all will be fine.
Good luck and peace.

Answer 3

I would never date with a HIV positive. And in your position, after testing it matters a lot what might cause that possible HIV. If it's because of drug using, I would forget that person completely. Don't mess with those freaks! They are nothing but problems. If it's because of her ex-boyfriend, or an accident, I would see... If I would plan dating with her, at least sex should wait for the final test results. As an HIV negative, I would never have sex with a possible HIV positive. Even with condom.
HIV is allready is big enough problem in this world, in humanitarian and also financial means. Don't get that crises to yourself.
If her biggest fear is being alone, as HIV positive she should look for company of her kind. It's not your duty to be her entertainer. If it's possible she is clean, she should understand why wait before deciding.

Answer 4

No, I wouldn't, I would be friends with them but realistically, I someday want to raise a family and have children. There are a lot of help groups out there for HIV positive people and dating areas as well.
And I think knowlingly having sex with someone while infected with HIV while they have no idea is punishible by law in some areas.
You only get one chance at life... Better not take chances with someone who has HIV no matter how far technology has gotten. Plus, there is more to life than sex anyway.

Answer 5

Kudos to her for being up front and honest. That at least deserves a second date! LOL, seriously, you need to decide how serious you are about dating right now. Technically, the purpose of dating is to meet somebody with whom to have a long term relationship, and possibly start a family. Of course, there are others who date only to get "lucky". Obviously, with this girl, getting "lucky" may be a bigger risk than its worth. Its up to you, are you looking for a deep relationship? Or just a screw? Unfortunately for her, it may be difficult to find a partner who will be able to meet her needs and expectations. If that can't be you, you might want to consider letting her go before she gets too involved.
Good luck!

Answer 6

would you toss away the chance at true love for a maybe? medical science has found a way to subside the effects of hiv for decades if something bad were to happen and you got sick. On the other hand you dont have to have the kind of sex that could spread the hiv virus to yourself if she was found positive. and by the way if youve had sex with anyone this century youve come dangerously close to full blown aids infection

Answer 7

That is a shame for her, but in all truth, no I would probably not want to date someone who was HIV positive. If this was someone I was really interested in, I would try to be her friend for a while and see how the test turns out. I would not have sex with her unless I was sure she was negative. I know it isn't her fault, and she deserves someone too, but I would think of myself first.

Answer 8

That would not be a good thing to do. If the test results are not back yet then you should not have sex with her protected or not. Commend her for telling you up front but you have to take so many precautious. We have to do that anyway but you hve to stay on top of things.

Answer 9

No I really don't think I could but that is me. You know you really have to give her credit for telling you...and I guess its up to you if you really like her and can hold off on the sex aspect of your possible relationship then why not give it a try. Its a real shame that This D ick head put her in this situation...I wish you all the best one this one.

Answer 10

if that is first date conversation material, you need to consider why she told you so soon. If sex is the only thing you both need or want, then you probably don't have much of a relationship yet. If you fall in love with her over time, you'd probably feel differently. You need to ask yourself what you want more. Sex or a relationship?