i think the girl i was going out with has passive aggressive behaviour or depression and irrational help?

Question

Hi. Basically 3 weeks ago my girlfriend got very irrational behaviour. Now this isn’t new. She has been prone to pretty strange and difficult behaviours over the course of 3 yrs of going out. We’ve been living together for about 2 yrs. We haven’t been having sex for 5 months either because I felt the conditions haven’t been right i.e. She hadn’t wanted to or she was tired or she was sick or just didn’t want to. I have no problem as in the sense that if she was all these things I’m not going to argue or be pushy. Also I didn’t want to make love either for the reason of her difficult passive aggressive behaviour and was very off put by this. One mood would run into the other then she’d come back and be in a good mood while id be still wondering what was wrong and then it would go on like that all the time. The problem is I love her. Her sister got engaged over this period of time and it seemed she wanted a mirror image of what she had and this has caused numerous outbursts. she says that I don’t want kids or marriage that I’d prefer the single life, she says that she’s lonely and would a child fill the gaps for her and her job is in the mental health area. I’m worried that she might be depressed and want to help. 3 weeks ago she stormed out over something so trivial it’s laughable and said I and my mother were gossiping about her. She slated my mother and she’s done nothing to her and sent abusive texts while knowing my Aunt was after dying and she wasn’t there to lean on while I was feeling sad. Since then she’s moved into her own house. I heard down town then from a 3rd party that it was off between us and I confronted her there was inevitable shouting and she telling me that she doesn’t want to see or hear or any contact with me again and showed me the door. We swapped keys and I told her she could pick up the rest of her stuff when she gave me back the €600 that she owes me. Since she hasn’t come to me and im anticipating another row. What do I do or what can I do in this situation in other words help

Answer 1

run as fast as you can from this woman..she needs serious professional help..you're life is going to be miserable if you stay with her..how dare she treat you like that.. you deserve better..god knows what she is doing to her patients who have problems..don't put up with it..get a girlfriend who treats you nice exactly how you deserve to be treated.

Answer 2

I can relate to this my last g/f was like this. We were together for 3.5 years and during that time her younger sister got married and had children and that caused a lot of jealousy.

My ex was also very good looking but of course very insecure as a result.

I had a vey strong love for her but I wasn't willing to have my whole life dictated by her and her outbursts, the relationship nearly destroyed my business and I have fewer connections with friends and family given the non communication that resulted from spending time with this women.

We split up and funnily enough within two months she had found somebody new and was pregnant. I felt betrayed initially but now I feel relief.

One of the best decisions I made was splitting up from her and some of the poorest were to stay with her. My only regret was that I stayed with her as long as I did. I still love her even now, in some way but love really isn't enough.

Take advantage of the opportunity and move on. Its just one view but my belief now is that self respect and respect for others is probably the most valuable trait you can find in a partner.

My ex didn't really have much of this, doesn't sound like yours does either.

Good luck mate.

Answer 3

She sounds like a spoilt child. You need to put your foot down in this relationship and show that you are the man and that you wont take any of this shite..She sounds out of order and needs some sort of discipline..If you carry on being nice to her or wateva she will exagerate on trivial petty things. You need to set some boundaries for her that she shouldn't over step like shouting at you for no reason or something that shes blown out of proportion..Dont chase after her, give her time and she'l soon be back.

Answer 4

I don't know how to answer your question nor can I help you with the mental state of your exes mind. Maybe you should seek help before this segment of your life becomes and issue later on in life. She sounds really emotional and if it were me I would be asking you if you loved me in the most non conventional way ever, she sounds like she needs loving maybe yours isn't strong enough. Seek help and a bodyguard.

Answer 5

the shortcoming of verbal exchange between you the two is making issues 10x's worse you are able to desire to confront him and tell him how your feeling ( open your coronary heart to him and enable all of it out) it rather will teach to you what style of guy he's by ability of what his reaction is that if he's sympathetic then i think of you are able to desire to have some issues that may truthfully be solved,he might desire to possibly have some thing happening that's distressing him (at artwork) etc.. inflicting him to alter off greater at abode? (intentionally or no longer).i desire each and every thing works out yet whilst it does not you are able to think of approximately seeing a counsellor and don't enable anybody positioned you down.

Answer 6

You should submit this question into a short story competition.

Answer 7

sounds like bad case of PMS to me!

Answer 8

run away,be glad your free.

Answer 9

Why do you want to be with her???

Answer 10

in other words she's a crazy b.i.t.c.h