theres a lad i've liked for over a year and he still doesnt like me what should i do?

Question

ive liked this lad for over a year and i still love him as much as i have done from the start but i dont know whether to try my feeling on sum1 else and whenever i do it just doesnt seem right and i go back to liking this person but no matter how many times people ask him out for me he says no but he seems to be hesitating more what should i do?

Answer 1

Find somebody else. Life is too short to waste on someone who's not interested.

Answer 2

I'm sorry to say that you are wasting your time with this lad. Sure you may still have a soft spot for him but really you need to get your head together and look in other directions. If he's not responding to your mates asking him then put a stop to it now before you feel totally embarrassed by it all. Which you are likely to.

As I have learnt from bitter experience, it's quite pointless wasting your time on someone who may be happy to be friendly towards you but has no intention of extending that relationship. Please try, hard as I know it is, to get over him now. There ARE other fish in the sea.

Plus, consider, is this infatuation with the lad simply a sympton of your own uncertainty about relationships. By now you know he's unobtainable. But sometimes that can make a lad an attractive prospect because you'll never have to actually have arelationship with him (however much you fantasise at present).

Answer 3

i had similar feelings for a lad for about 5 yrs - from being 12 - and I never ever told him! With time it faded, it was a big huuuuuge crush and when I was 17 I started my first proper relationship with another lad. The funny thing was, years later, I heard that the one I had had this huge crush on really quite liked me - but by then I was engaged to someone else.

And now I still hear/ see this bloke occasionally and I think 'nice bloke but DEFINITELY not my type'!

But you know what - I would say its worth a little bit of embarrassments on your part. I wish I had been more up front with this lad and told him I would have liked to have gone out with him. If he had rejected me, it would probably have toughened me up, rather than me sitting and mooning over him for 5 years!

Good luck whatever you decide to do...

Answer 4

If he is not interested then sadly you cannot make him. We all at some point in our lives like someone who doesn't like us back and whilst it can be a painful experience it will not define us or our chance at future happiness.

Much as you don't want to do it you need to forget him. You need to let go and stop thinking about him, stop imagining you both together and start to live your life for you and only you. There is no point trying to find someone else whilst you have feelings for this lad because, as a probable rebound relationship, it would be doomed.

You don't have to be in a relationship to be happy so spend time with your friends, do the things you like to do until your heart mends and when it is the right time to try again you will know.

It is rare to find someone when you are actively looking so concentrate on having a good time and find things that make you happy. Guys are more likely to be attracted to someon who is happy and smiling and confident in themselves than in someone anxiously searching the crowd for a guy with a sign labelled 'the one' over his head!

Answer 5

Well, if he doesn't like you after a year then the chances are that he won't be attracted to you.any time soon. It's a part of life that everyone suffers rejection over something or other and it does hurt, but that doesn't mean you should take it as a failure on your part. Try to look at it that he's obviously not the right one for you and move on. Nobody is worth getting all miserable and depressed over, just do something that makes you happy and carry on with living your life.

Answer 6

This is NOT love-its infatuation. Sadly you are wasting your time and his hesitation is probably because he is getting fed up being asked. you are making yourself look foolish and desperate. Busy yorself with other things and other people. Only time will help you get over this. Do you realy like somebody who keeps rejecting you? Do you realy love somebody who doesnt want to give you the time of day? I think not realy but do ask yourself this-stop telling yourself he is the one for you as he "just doesnt dig you" that much.

Answer 7

Well a year is a long time to wait. Obviously it is time to let go. Instead of focusing on him, gain an understanding of your own motives. The greatest power that God has given you is the power to change your mind. The pearl worth having, is understanding what goes down on the outside is not worth having anyway. Just make your goal being happy. Let go of the thing patterns, “I will be happy when another person changes, my job improves, relationships, projects, check out of this relationship, into that relationship etc. We think there is something out there that is going to make us happy when we need to understand that the only goal you need to have is to make yourself happy and think you are enough.

Answer 8

I would say, stop getting people to ask him for you and talk to him yourself. Maybe ask him to just come out as friends but not a movie, something where you can talk and have a laugh. A few games of pool down the pub is a good one, you can ask him to give you some tips if you play badly.

Answer 9

i dont want to sound harsh but he doesnt like you. i think that you should slow it down aswell you might be coming on a bit too strong. you should give up it might seem impossible but you can do it forget about him. hes obviously not worth your time your missing out and other lads.

Answer 10

give up and move on, u need to prove to him and yourself that you don't need him or anyone else for that matter, if its meant to be he'll realise what he'smissing out on and come to you, stop being so needy, learn about yourself and you'll get stronger