My boyfriend left me and I'm not entirely unhappy about it, but I just feel like I should say something to let him know I'm not upset. I'm an attractive gay male and I'll be able to find someone, so I'm not worried about that. I just want to let him know there are no hard feelings, but I don't want to come off as a fool. How should I tell him?
2006-10-14 10:11:42 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I wouldn't address the topic if I were you. I smell a rebounder - if you let him know the door is open, he'll be walking back in as soon as his new boy toy has lost that delightful new boy toy smell. By addressing the subject you will be holding the door wide open for him to walk back in.
You'll also likely create a rift between him and his new beau if you pursue continued friendship - the green-eyed monster will rear its ugly head. If you see him in a social setting you should be nice to him, but that should be the extent of your contact.
Get on with your life and give yourself time think about what has happened. You may have feelings that you have not come to grips with yet. Take time for yourself, leave him be, and good luck.
2006-10-22 03:37:46 · answer #1 · answered by Speedo Inspector 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MC-200???. There have been many problems with this section of Yahoo. People using cloned names, using other people's pictures and screen names. The only way to see if YOU are real is to publish some kind of email address. The clones and trouble makers all hide behind anonimity...If you are for real, I suggest that you at least put down some kind of email address that users may contact you... Just a suggestion. The REAL Goldwing110083 (You will see my pic and "Goldwing 110083" here, but it is a clone by a silly fool who tries to annoy the whole board, masquerades under many names, such as Olga, XXON, XXON10, XXON_10, ...and on and on. HE/SHE has other identities also, so we check all here to see if they are for real .,...Good luck
2006-10-14 10:24:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Action speaks louder than words. If you really feel like it's all good then it will show in your appearance when you run into him with his new boyfriend.
You are an attractive man and will be into someone else soon too. Time is the true teller, not what you say but what you do.
2006-10-14 11:21:33 · answer #3 · answered by moire1111 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just tell him like it is !!! tell him that you wish him the best and that you have no hard feelings because you've move on and that you still care for him in one way or another and you'll be there for him if he needs you as friend... You can tell him that you did not expected too feel this way at all & that is weird that you do, but that you are ok about the whole thing.
2006-10-14 10:24:16 · answer #4 · answered by wanna_help_u 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let him be, sometimes the best things to say are said in silence, be cordial, neutral, but don't under any circumstances help him out with anything, he's moving into a new place let his boyfriend du jour take care of it, every action you take to help him will be an action percieved as crawling back to him. Grow a pair...and Please no Donna Summers...
2006-10-14 10:17:56 · answer #5 · answered by Tsar 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Okay, if your not unhappy about it. No big deal and just forget it.
But if deep down you are hurt it would be better to deal with these feelings now instead of letting them fester.
2006-10-14 13:31:15 · answer #6 · answered by Augusta B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Mssr Gadfly. Let him know that there are no hard feelings and that if he needs you, but as a freind, mind you, you'll be there.
2006-10-14 10:17:26 · answer #7 · answered by Mama Otter 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wish him luck and tell him 'no hard feelings'. Say you are still willing to be his friend, if he needs you.
2006-10-14 10:14:03 · answer #8 · answered by The Gadfly 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Start calling him girlfriend and tell him everythig is cool. Share fashion tips and stay friends...Break the ice and tell him you are a lesbian! I dont know sweety. Thats gotta be really uncomfortable...Luck!
2006-10-14 10:17:05 · answer #9 · answered by winterblues 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Don't say anything...it will probably just sound fake. Just smile and be friendly when you see him and his new man.
2006-10-15 00:52:00 · answer #10 · answered by Spyder 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋