At home I am very cold ! I get on with my family ok but I don't like hugs , kisses and getting lovey dovey .... At school I am the exact opposite .. What is wrong with me
2006-10-14 10:02:24 · 14 answers · asked by La parisienne ! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I get on with all of my family fine and we have no problems. I'm just not very lovey dovey . I feel as if I'm me at school and home i just find it weird how I 'm so different do you know why ? or think you might know why
2006-10-14 10:08:34 · update #1
You sound totally normal - esp. if you are a teenager.
I am 34 and still find that I can be a bit 'cold' around my parents, dunno why exactly - luckily they know that I love them to bits, but I can just come over all prickly and stand-offish with them sometimes (my husband too - bless him - but he puts up with it every now and then). I think its a bit of self-defense thing - sort of a way I keep people at arm's length when I am feeling a bit vulnerable and want to protect myself.
I can SO relate to you laughing to death at school! I remember from the age of 14-16, with two very close friends, we just used to laugh and laugh (oh God - we would even laugh so much that we would pee!) and it used to drive our teachers and other friends and siblings and parents MAD - because they just didn't get what was so funny!
It was brilliant looking back on it. Don't feel bad about it - don't even question it, probably a lot is to do with your hormones, but also your personality developing and you finding out what 'makes you tick and what what makes you laugh' in life.
Enjoy laughing!! And try and reach out a little bit more at home, don't let your feelings that your are being 'cold' become a self-fulifilling prophecy...sounds like your reactions are very normal but its good to push your boundaries and don't let anyone else tell you that you are 'cold'! You are just exploring all ranges of emotions, reactions and relationships.
2006-10-14 10:14:56 · answer #1 · answered by zuffin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong with you. You just need a different veiw. May be being around your family all the time gets on your nerves. Especially when your family embarasses you so much, you just can't think of them any other way or doing any thing else but that. It is like that with me and I'm an only child.
2006-10-14 10:13:07 · answer #2 · answered by Leah S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My teenage sons were the same way, it's a part of growing up, and nothing to worry about. Acting the opposite at school shows you have the capacity to be loving and open. As you mature you will begin to accept and return the affection of your family.
2006-10-14 10:10:21 · answer #3 · answered by jen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They will accept you no matter what or how you are at home so you don't have to be someone you are or aren't.
At school if you acted the way you do at home everyone would hate you so you have made up this other person and that is how you make and keep friends.
2006-10-14 10:05:30 · answer #4 · answered by Silly ol Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there something going on at home? Do you have a problem with any of the people that you live with? Why is it you act totaly the opposite in school? Are you more comfortable at home and what is your usual self?
2006-10-14 10:06:08 · answer #5 · answered by delawaregirl83 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could be bipolar. My husband is like you at home but at work he closes up and he is bipolar. Or you could just have a problem deep down inside with your family that you need help figuring out talk to a counsler
2006-10-14 10:06:50 · answer #6 · answered by milliondollarbabe25 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like something that everyone goes through at some point in their life. For some reason you don't desire the affection from your family but you crave the attention from your friends.
2006-10-14 10:06:57 · answer #7 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have a good re-pore with your friends and they don't say things that may upset you. Sometimes at home our family's don't know how to talk to each other and may be standoffish. That will pass as you get older.
2006-10-14 10:06:29 · answer #8 · answered by Marla C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of children are like that..they love their family but they are different with friends..its only because you are on the same wave length as your friends and they understand you better..you are perfectly normal.
2006-10-14 10:26:57 · answer #9 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You like to be around others and it sounds like your bored. Call some friends and hang out or watch a movie.Just try not to be alone
2006-10-14 10:05:28 · answer #10 · answered by Billy T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋