advice frm teens only!!! she didnt kno i waz ever pregnant but now im afriad she might find out what should i do???
2006-10-14 09:58:24 · 20 answers · asked by tinkerbelle101 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
she wants to take me to da docter to get a check up and im 14 and dis waz last yr. fo additional answers u can email me at nesha2969@yahoo.com
2006-10-14 10:09:54 · update #1
Please, PLease, PLEASE don not listen to timetopopnow's advice. That was foolish. Please tell your mom. Taking care of a baby is not easy at all. She's just keeping an eye on you. You are just 14 and though that might seem old enough to take your own risks, it's not in this situation. Your mom had you didn't she, and she was a teen once too. She has EXPERIENCE. Your mom will help you. And this is not a good question for teens only. I'm not a teen, but for security purposes I won't tell how old I am. Teens will just lead you on the wrong path on this one honey. I hope you make the right decision and tell your mom. Besides, do you think the father of the baby will help, or will he just run off?
2006-10-14 10:50:17 · answer #1 · answered by Lolaaaa! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a teenager, I am 26, but I think teens might not be the right people to ask. Let your mom take you, once you get there, tell her that you would feel more comfortable if she would wait in the waiting room. Talk to the doctor. The doctor can not say anything if you don't want them too. How far along were you when you lost the baby? And how long ago was it. I think you said it was a year. If it was that long ago, and you haven't had any problems with your period, then I 'm sure you are fine. If not, and you are having problems, then you need to go to the doctor and tell them what happened.
Good luck sweetie, I hope everything works out for you!!
2006-10-14 11:50:05 · answer #2 · answered by tnmomof2as 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a teen; I'm 21. But I had my 1st baby when I was 14. Why does she want to take you to the dr? How long ago was the miscarriage? It won't show up on a pregnancy test if it was a while ago. And you can always ask her to leave the room while the dr. examins you and speak with the dr. about what has happened. There is patient confidentiality and if the dr. has any questions for you (if you were pregnant the dr. can visibly tell as your cervix and uterus have gone through changes) he will send your mom out of the room and ask you for the truth. And then he just won't tell your mom the whole thing. How old are you that she's dragging you off to the dr. anyhow? How rude.
2006-10-14 10:04:40 · answer #3 · answered by momofthreemiracles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, I'm not a teen but I'm answering anyway. Even if you are underage, the Dr. has to respect your rights and keep your medical information confidential. Anything you tell your Dr. or anything he/she finds out during an exam, is your private medical information, and the Dr. has to keep it private. I'm not sure what the Dr. is seeing you for, but if it's a pelvic exam then your Mom won't be present in the room. Even if it's just a regular Dr.'s visit or check-up, you don't have to have your Mom in the room with you. If it's not a pelvic exam and pap smear, your Dr. won't be able to tell you were pregnant. And since you had a miscarriage, it's really best to get checked out by a Dr. to make sure everything with you is okay, sometimes having a miscarriage can do damage to your body. Good Luck, and please, no more sex until you are older, in a committed relationship and ready to have a baby if you end up pregnant. If you do have sex, please make your partner wear a condom, if he refuses then you refuse to let him touch you. You are just starting your life, I'm sure you have a lot of hopes and dreams, you don't want to end up with some nasty disease.
2006-10-14 10:08:52 · answer #4 · answered by nimo22 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Teens are not the right people to be asking a question like this of. Teens, like yourself, have limited information and make weird choices...
Go to the doctor. Ask your mom in front of the doctor to see the doctor without her being present in the room. He will agree to this. Mom alone may not...
Tell the doctor straight up that you want what is said between you two to be held in confidence according to the Patient/Doctor privacy policy.
Come straight out and tell him you lost a pregnancy and to check to be sure no permanent damage has been done in the process. One day you will want a baby maybe - be sure you're still able to. After the procedures are over, ask your doctor to help you with birth control. He should be able to do this without parental consent.
Your body is the finest gift you will ever be given. Doctors are there to make sure its operating at full speed. DO NOT TRY TO LIE TO DOCTORS.
Best of luck to you. I hope this wont happen again to you!
Clarkie
2006-10-14 10:03:57 · answer #5 · answered by Clarkie 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why wouldn't you want her to find out now? The worst she can do is ground you. If your not open with her how are you gonna count on her later? You should tell her before the appointment, that way you can be checked for any infection you may have from the miscarriage. Those are nasty and could kill you. Best of luck, but don't lie just come right out and tell her.
2006-10-14 10:06:34 · answer #6 · answered by barbara_taylor17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aren't you the same person who asked if you were afraid to have sex. Hmmm kinda strange but just tell her. If it is just a regular check they won't do anything invasive and she won't find out. I'm 15 by the way. If you are going to continue to have sex then get birth control from the pregnancy planning center, they give it with the option of keeping it private from what I heard. Also be sure to wear condoms even if you are on the pill. I'm on birth control, not because I'm having sex but for other reasons and if I do have sex I will still have a condom.
2006-10-14 10:16:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok as a mother of two I am not a teen but I have helped teens with this type of thing I would rather them come to me than not tell anyone and hurt themselves. I have taken many girls to have an abortion and to take the morning after pill. I have never told their mothers as I feel that that is their place not mine. My advice to you is that if you are open with your mother go ahead and tell her but if you are not a doctor wouldn't know neways but a gyno will just explain to your mom you are old enough to go to the room yourself. That is not uncommomn. Good luck.
2006-10-14 10:06:41 · answer #8 · answered by apples2oo4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i just found out that i am pregnant yesterday!! i am only 18 but i am soo happy i told my mom in a second! i am goinng to the doctor asap when i get medicaid and wic and food stamps and stuff u should really llet ur mom know theres noone that can help u more than ur own mom who had U! trust me..or tell someone that is experienced! good luck and stay healthy!
2006-10-14 10:02:00 · answer #9 · answered by â?¥CURiOUSâ?¥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm 22, but here goes. If I were you talk to the doctor when she's not in the room and tell the doctor. Legally she doesn't need to know, and depending on how far along you were when you lost it the doctor may not even notice that you miscarried.
2006-10-14 10:02:42 · answer #10 · answered by Melissa, That's me! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋