This is the situation. this is my freshman year at a major university i have never been with a man yet im still a virgin let me get to the point. when i got to college i was lost so i thought maybe joining a gay website would help me find friends well this one guy hit me up he turned out to be the star quarterback at my college well of course im more feminine and he was like he enjoys the time we spend together privately but i can't associate with him in public. one time i tried to speak to him and he acted like he didn't see me and that really hurt am i being naive to really believe that he loves me he said this to me and we were almost at the point of being intimate. should i stop talking to him
2006-10-14 09:47:23 · 7 answers · asked by James T 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
He's using you big time, my Son. Get away from him before you get hurt. If he's not willing to show you affection, or for God's sakes even acknowledge your presence, in public it won't be worth the headache and the heartache. Do NOT have sex with him. The fleeting pleasure won't be worth the pain you'll have later. Blessings, my Son.
2006-10-14 10:22:02 · answer #1 · answered by Mama Otter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, thanks for your answer to my question.
I can offer some insight to your question. I am not as you say, "more feminine" but the situation that I had was I am very fashionable. I love to dress, love to look good, no matter where I am going or what I am doing. I was getting to know this guy who happened to be pretty "important" [LOL] and we would always chill at my house or his apartment or somewhere he didn't think anyone would suspect that he and I were together.
After a few months had gone by, I started to realize the pattern and I question him, and of course, he was afraid that his friends would find out. I was hurt deeply! The more he said he cared about me the more it hurt, because we could never go to the movies, eat out, or anywhere that would "out" him.
No I am not completely out to everyone, but I think I carry myself in a matter that says he this guy is all about his business—which in today’s society says I am gay. I mean, I am professional and I love to look good, and I was not about to let myself take any steps back for a guy. Every day is a step closer for me being completely comfort with my choices in life and with who I am.
So I had to do what was best for me. I had to let him go, I didn't care about the money, the car, or whatever. My being happy is a major thing to me. So now I can say that I am honestly happy. I refuse to lower my standards for anyone.
Keep your head high man, and your standards and beliefs even higher. MUCH LOVE.
2006-10-14 23:11:00 · answer #2 · answered by af1986 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you can stand someone bursting your fantasy bubble here goes.
Here is what is going to happen. He is going to have sex with you, you are going to fall in love and he is going to use that to use you then he's going to move on with his life which will involve a heterosexual marriage and all that comes with it. He doesn't believe he is gay, he believes he has sexual needs but can control them. He's not willing to admit to anything because he perceives it to be something that he's not. You will become the object of his hate and disgust and he will use that against you. Who's going to believe you, some fairy with a crush on a football star?
Do yourself a favor. Walk away. Let him deal with his internal struggle on his own and make someone else a victim(you are NOT the first by any means). Cut off all ties, and never look back.
There is a whole big beautiful world filled with handsome and sexy men who would love to take you to dinner and dancing. They would be proud to show you off to their families and co-workers. They will hold your hand when you are together, hold your head when you are sick, and hold your spirit up when you are down. Don't settle for less, you do not have to.
Good luck to you, and be strong.
2006-10-14 18:15:17 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my poor, poor child, Take it from this Fairy God Father, DUMP HIS SORRY @$$ AND FORGET ABOUT HIM! It may hurt I know I've had to go there many time before. But you know what if he doesn't treat you the same way in public as in private, he's not the one for you.
how to do it? Sit him down and tell him exactly how you feel. and just say, "If you're not going to show me the same feeling in public as in private then I think this is over!"
I can understand if he's scare or what have you but that's seriously no excuse to treat you that way...Oh and please...No Donna Summer
2006-10-14 16:56:00 · answer #4 · answered by Tsar 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No matter the gender, no matter the status, no matter nuttin' , , ,
he's not your type. Wait for someone who'll treat your virginity with the the same specialness and dignity you want for yourself. It'll hold...
2006-10-14 17:09:26 · answer #5 · answered by Zeera 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that guy is a asshole and dont ever let some guy have sex wit you unless yall are together not friends wit benifits
2006-10-14 17:00:03 · answer #6 · answered by pup_luv9089 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not that he don't love you but you have to ask yourself do you want to live a secret life with him.
2006-10-14 16:54:45 · answer #7 · answered by What'd You Say? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋