how do i tell my parents we are goin to have a baby?..and more!! please read?

Question

hi ppl =) i am 15 years old, my boyfriend is 20, we are both..what you would call...gothic punks :/ i am expecting a baby next year and we want our child to be the same as us, until he or she is old enough to decide how to dress, how do i tell this to my mother? she doesnt seem to understand. she doesnt like the fact that i am pregnant either, my boyfriend is in college, and i have a job, so we can support the baby, we are both very happy but my mother is kinda burstin the bubble

Answer 1

First of all, you mother has a right to be upset. You are only 15. Maybe you shouldn't dress the baby in "gothic punk" garb all the time. Try some normal baby clothes for most of the time. The baby will be more comfortable and your mother will be happier.

Answer 2

Well. While I think it's silly to dress your child in Gothic punk clothing, I also think you should dress your own children however you choose to dress them. The baby won't know what he/she is wearing and despite opinions to the contrary should be just as comfortable in a black Misfits onesie as an Elmo one.

And just ignore all this pappy bullshit about your mothers dreams for you being ruined. Or that you'll end up at McDonald's when your boyfriend runs off to Mexico. These people have never been in your shoes and only speak from the experience of watching cheesy lifetime original movies. Your mother probably just wants you to live a happy and healthy life. And I'm sure that was her dream for you.

No one on here knows how your situation will turn out. You have the best vantage point of knowing what is best for you.

Answer 3

I am not going to even pretend I understand what you are going through, but I do know that you are only 15 years old and I would not burn any bridges with your mother, because once you have this baby you are going to need her more than you know. You are lucky that your parents let you be with your 20 year old boyfriend and you are only 15. I would not even worry about how you are going to dress your child, for the first year they wear onesies and diapers and spit up on anything nice that you put on them. I would make sure that you keep your relationship with your mother because even if you have a job you cannot work while you are delivering a baby and do you know how much daycare is? Are you going to finish school? Having a child is a gift, but it is very trying, so if you take one piece of advice I would keep your mom as close as you can even if she does not understand you, the relationship between a mother and their child is universal and you are going to need her help. Good luck.

Answer 4

You know what even if you boyfriend is in college and you work you will still need a lot of help from your parents so it is best to keep them on your side. Maybe you can meet half way on the issue. I was 15 when I had my daughter and my mom was a great help. I couldn't even sign to have her ears pierced because I wasn't old enough to have my own done. So what I am trying to say is until you are old enough to move out and take care of this baby on your own you should listen to your mother a little and maybe she will listen to you some too.

Answer 5

Sorry if this bursts your bubble, but what I'm hearing sounds extremely juvenile. You are pregnant at age 15 and are focusing on the fact that you want your child to be a gothic punk just like you? That is something that you've actually spent time thinking about??? No wonder your mom is worried.....

Answer 6

Well, I don't think I'd tell her if I were you. How you dress your child is your decision. Honestly, your mother is entitled to bursting the buble, but give her time to adjust. What you have is illegal, and she can go to court and have the dad's @$$ thrown in jail if she chooses. I'm happy to hear you're taking responsibility, but be more mature about it by caring for your mothers feelings. As long as it's healthy that's all that should matter. Just be careful if you decide to put make-up on it. Look at it from her perspective her child is having a BABY but worse yet her child is with an ADULT. I'm sure that's how she's seeing it, I hope that at least can help you see it more from her perspective. Good luck!

Answer 7

I'm 32 and being a Mom is hard.I couldn't imagine being a mom at 15.I hope that 20 year old boyfriend is there for you and his child.I'm not even going to go to the gothic part because you have enough problems.Your mom is just worried about the future of her grandchild.You will understand this worry when your baby is here.

Answer 8

You should raise your kid to be normal. I'm sorry, but most kids aren't wearing black to school when they are 5 or 6. I would dress them like a normal child, and expose them to normal child things. It's good that you can support the baby though. Most moms aren't going to be happy about their 15 year old daugher being pregnant. My moms flipped when I told her I needed a PT test. Do what you think is best for your child.

Answer 9

well listen up here now Xoh:
According to teenage pregnancy is very hard between going to
school ect needs parental guidance since you are 15 yrsold too
young for child baring plus that 20 yrold boyfriend should of waited until yourself finished schooling first befor planning family
see welfair can now be collected unless father has no job with
incomes seriously baby has to be put up for adoption reasonable
by real parents must tell hun I reccomend that you'd better stop n think twice any way

Answer 10

I wonder why any mother would be upset that her 15 year old daughter was pregnant by a 20 year old man.
I wonder why any mother would be upset knowing that her beautiful daughter was always hiding behind a dismal black facade
I wonder why any mother would be upset that her gorgeous daughter who she knows has such potencial is slaving away at a minimum wage job waiting for her baby to be born while her boyfriend finishes college
I wonder why any mother would be upset knowing knowing in her heart that it will never work, that her daughters boyfriend will take off, leaving her beautiful daughter left with a newborn, with no job, no support and no prospect of ever having any semblence of the dream that she had held, when she held her own newborn daughter in her arms for the first time.