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My ex decided when our daughter was 7 that he just wasn't into the family thing and left and hasn't seen his daughter or contact w/her in almost 4 years. He can't hold a job, lives off his elderly grandparents for free (he's never lived on his own, always lived with or off of someone, yet when I got w/him I thought he was responsible but he was in the Marine Corp, I didn't realize they MAKE them be responsible but he's been out a long time and he went down hill) doesn't see his kid, tries to get out of paying child support. Why would anyone want to be friends with someone with those sorts of values and lack of character? Why would his brother name his son after him, a dead beat parent. The family knows all about him.. but seem to be in denial. But why would anyone want to hang out much less want to be in a "relationship" with a 34 year old man who can't hold a job and lives off his elderly grandparents and won't have anything to do w/his kid??

2006-10-14 09:39:55 · 4 answers · asked by Christina M L 1 in Family & Relationships Other - Family & Relationships

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BLOOD is thicker than water so family is family ! dont get me wrong in all honesty he sounds like a worthless piece of oops cant say that hear! but to his family hes still family and u have to respect that you see in almost everyone there is some good trust me i found out the hard way but fact of the matter is there really is some good in most ppl , your guy might b the exception to the rule but just try to look for some good in him , isnt that wat the lord does?
but quite frankly it doesnt sound like there is any to me but i dont know him at all so im not one to judge and thats wat this is really all about i hav no clue who ur talkin about so dont ask me to judge him pleez? just look to ur heart for the answers your lookin for

2006-10-14 09:48:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Birds of a feather flock together. A deadbeat loser hangs out with other deadbeat losers. If the person he's in the relationship with isn't a loser then, he's probably handing her some misguided story about how he's being mistreated by his daughter's mother and he's not allowed to see her. This poor lady can't see through what he really is because she has some issues of her own she needs to deal with. This man needs help. Does he drinks or do drugs? If so he can go to the VA for help. He doesn't have to live off his elderly grandparents. If he has no place to live, he can get into the VA homeless program. It's probably easier for his family to be in denial than try to reason with him to get help for himself or to use tough love. Yours is a question I've always asked myself, "Why would anyone want to be friends with a deadbeat parent?"

2006-10-14 21:19:56 · answer #2 · answered by merry59 5 · 0 0

You were with the man, and the answer is why? The marines take care of you, and he just doesn't want to grow up and never will. He will be around when he is very old wanting to live off his kids. So sad indeed. You should be very proud that he isn't in you life, your kids will understand this when they get older. My daughter doesn't have a father at all, she will be asking why don't I have a father. He dropped my daughter off six months pregnant, and drove away. We all are better not having men like this in our lives, many wonderful mentors out in this world of ours, that can fill the gap if you know what I'm saying. Good Luck to you, and have a wonderful weekend.

2006-10-14 16:52:53 · answer #3 · answered by Dimples 3 · 0 0

you married him and had kids with him--- don't be a hater -- be happy to know somebody loves him

2006-10-14 16:48:32 · answer #4 · answered by gabby 5 · 0 0

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