Met a guy when I was 19, married at 22, been with him for 12 years. He has been my first guy ive slept with and been with seriously but im finding myself having crushes on other guys. What shall I do? I love my hubby and dont wanna leave him, are my feelings common if youve been with a guy for a long time or its your first?
2006-10-14 09:39:10 · 9 answers · asked by jessie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i married my first love your feelings are quite normal i had them for a while but i did not act on them we are still very happily married twenty five years later
2006-10-14 09:43:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No-one on this answers forum can answer this for you. Certainly some of the advice you will hear could send you down the wrong path for both of you if you are not sensible about it.
Crushes are totally, utterly normal - as is wondering what sex would be like with other people - of course you will feel like that if you have been with someone for so long and things are nothing like as crazy or as exciting as they used to be.
What I would do is find someone you can talk to about this face to face rather than over the internet. Do you know a wiser, older person you can trust? Like a counsellor, or a Minister, an older relative who knows you really well?
The first guy I ever slept with - well we were then together for 5 years. But - this question of 'will i only ever sleep with this one man' was one of the main reasons why I broke up with him. We got engaged and nearly married. I couldnt get my head round the thought of only ever sleeping with him. The result of splitting with him was a series of very upsetting affairs on my part as I tried to look for something that I thought I would somehow be missing out on in life, and he ended up getting married pretty soon after and having kids, and I believe, being very happy!
Thankfully I have found happiness myself now, but it took a long time. I am not saying for a minute that we should have stayed together - things happen for a reason - but I *DID* buy into what (for me) was this myth that it would somehow be old-fashioned or not fulfilling to have 'only' slept with one man in my life here on earth.
2006-10-14 10:41:10 · answer #2 · answered by zuffin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start the Swinging topic lifestyle with him. It's best when both people have mutual decisions.
Dont know if he's ready to share his wife with others,but it works both ways as he'll get new women to have sex with at the same time.
2006-10-14 09:46:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be just fantasy to enjoy something your mind believes your husband lacks and you crave for.
Why don't you introspect? look within and u will get a clearer picture.
Crushes are harmless. They will pass. Just be with these feelings.
2006-10-14 09:51:00 · answer #4 · answered by prad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your only human and you will find other people attractive, you might think of spicing up your life in the bedroom or even role playing. but you will still find other men attractive so dont worry.
2006-10-14 09:43:10 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So i think it is just your relationship. I think you and your hsuband should try new things. To make the marrieg more spectacular. Just try to find the love that you and he had.
2006-10-14 09:45:27 · answer #6 · answered by Jamain_Johnson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the world is vast and you are free to dine on every dish you find tasty.. but think twice before you leap.
2006-10-14 09:43:26 · answer #7 · answered by mammus007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just make sure you don't stray from your hubby and you will be fine- it's OK to look at a menu, just don't eat from it
2006-10-14 09:52:10 · answer #8 · answered by gabby 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
keep continue with him, that will be good for you.
if you fleeter, you may happy for a while, finally you will feel guilty and bad.
2006-10-14 09:47:06 · answer #9 · answered by asru 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋