I am not a Christian.
2006-10-14 09:37:04 · 28 answers · asked by shlomogon 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I do not appreciate many (not all) of your thoughtless, insipid, self-rightous responses. Try again.
2006-10-14 09:46:24 · update #1
I am still seeking more depth in your responses.
2006-10-14 09:54:21 · update #2
Well... if my husband ever said anything like that to me I would think he was crazy! Why would she feel the need to claim such a thing? Especially if she knows you are not a christian? Doesn't sound like a very christian-y thing to say at all~!
2006-10-14 09:45:19 · answer #1 · answered by .*AnNa*. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd feel very blessed. Knowing that she puts the Lord Almighty first in her life, should give you an overwhelming sense of security in your relationship with her. You don't have to be Christian to realize the power of God. You don't have to believe in him even, but you love your wife, so you should love EVERYTHING about her, including her love for Jesus. Her love for him only means her love for you can be that much stonger. Here's my order of important loves in my life...
#1 God
#2 Self
#3 Daughter
#4 Boyfriend
That's just how it is, and I've found myself to be at much more peace with the Lord as my #1, cause no matter what he's never failed me. Everyone else in your life will dissapoint you, and maybe more than once, but his undying love NEVER fails, his love ALWAYS prevails!!! Afterall, He did bring you two together for a reason, right? Maybe He's working through her to bless you with his presence and help you understand him more. Keep an open mind and heart and your marriage will thrive!!!
2006-10-14 10:17:49 · answer #2 · answered by Shining Ray of Light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, dear, if you can't stand the heat, then bring yourself up out of the pits of hell and shake the sweat from your eyebrows! If you married this woman, then you should respect her beliefs. And as a Christian, it is only proper that God comes first in the family and then the spouse. A family who prays together stays together is a true statement. If your wife is a believer, allow her the space and time to worship and feed her soul. And like I said, if you can't stand the heat, maybe you're in the wrong kitchen alltogether!
2006-10-14 15:17:27 · answer #3 · answered by edgeston34 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't feel like you are in second place to Jesus. Your wife can love Jesus, you, your children, parents, friends and in all honesty, each love is different. You don't love your children the same way you love a spouse. Just like you don't love Jesus the same way you love a spouse. Many people believe a person's first and most important love SHOULD be God. Which is not wrong. Granted, it may not be the way you feel, but if you love her, let her love both Jesus and you. She has room in her heart for both. And remember, it is NOT a competition.
2006-10-14 10:38:15 · answer #4 · answered by rjmcasey 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you were a Christian, you would be grateful to hear it. Non-Christians don't understand the importance of putting God first in their lives. It is critical to put God first, especially in a marriage. When the Bible talks of being "unequally yoked" this is the situation the Bible is talking about.
My suggestion is that you ask your wife to help you understand what that means. Whether you choose to accept it will be a personal decision.
I wish you both the best!
P.S. I saw your request for more in-depth details: The place to start to understand Christianity is in the Bible, New Testament, the Gospel according to John, chapter 3. There is a lot more to Christianity, but John 3:16 basically sums it up.
2006-10-14 09:50:14 · answer #5 · answered by Leroy 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I would feel that my partner is not understanding the commitment required by God. Christians are supposed to be family oriented. The Bible says to cleave to your husband or wife and put no one before them. This does not mean that she needs to put her beliefs aside but it does not mean that she forsakes her marriage either.
If you have given her a decision to make such as either you quit being a Christian or I'm leaving you then I'm afraid that is not right either. Another person should never force their spouse to have the same beliefs. To even try to force such a decision would indicate that no love is present and only control and being right.
2006-10-14 09:47:19 · answer #6 · answered by r_k_winters 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with that! Nothing wrong with being spiritual. In fact, for those who are, love of God, Jesus or whoever they believe in, is their strength. A spouse could die, or foresake the other, but faith stays with us, and sees us through.
Don't be upset, be happy for her. You can't compete with God or Jesus, and don't try and don't challenge her. You were a non-Christian who married a Christian and you both need to accept each others faiths because that is part of who each of you are.
2006-10-14 09:49:09 · answer #7 · answered by Amber B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she loves Jesus more than you she will probably be a good wife.
As long as she doesn´t go fanatic and starts acting freaky.
For the moment I would´nt bother.
Keep an eye on her everyday behavior
2006-10-14 09:48:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, since you are not a Christian, so I am assuming you don't love Jesus, I am sure this hurt you. I am sure in her eyes, it was a nice thing...because usually if you love Jesus, you will strive to be more kind to others. God should come very first in everyone's life...
But, as for me, I am Christian (Mormon to be exact) and I WANT my husband to love the Lord more than me....that will mean he will treat me with a lot of respect, love, honor, all the good stuff. And he does! and I love Christ more than I love my husband, but they are different kinds of love, also.
2006-10-14 10:19:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Because her faith tells her so. It's nothing for you to worry about, because if any human let's her down who does she turn to. Her faith. I am not a Christian either.But if she talks about Jesus a lot or forces her faith upon you,I would
think twice abouit marrriage or a major commitment. I was baptised Catholic, but I keep my faith separate from my relationships. Good luck dude:0) Whoops you're already married
2006-10-14 09:46:50 · answer #10 · answered by Matt M 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋